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AIBU?

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to think I'm right and they are wrong?

43 replies

LittleLisa78 · 12/05/2013 23:24

Two minor matters but they're recurring conversations and being told I'm wrong when I don't think I am is annoying.
First situation - sister noticed label sticking out of my top, she commented on the size saying I was too thin if I'm wearing this size clothes. The top was a size 6, I'm nowhere near a size 6 in most shops. - more like a 10 - but the top was last one left in Next whose sizes are very generous. I explained this to her but she thinks I'm in denial and have some kind of body dysmorphia going on (have had many conversations regarding it since.) I'm not wrong in saying some shops sizes are ridiculously out, am I?

Second situation - I am very organised and particular about the way in which I do things so accept I may be being unreasonable here. In my opinion, there is an order to the way washing up should be done - I.e starting with glasses and cups and then in order of cleanliness finishing with anything really greasy or dirty that's been soaking. DP, though I've mentioned this in the hope he'd see the logic, just puts everything in the sink then runs the water on top of it, washing items in whatever order he finds them. Washing up is the only household job he does but I feel there's no point him doing it as I often have to do it again. Last night, for example, we had sausages and the oven tray left a greasy residue on the glasses so all had to be washed again. He's not purposely doing it the opposite way to be to get out of it, he just thinks I'm being a bit obsessive compulsive about it.

AIBU to think I'm right, they're wrong and to tell them as much next time these conversations arise?

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scottishmummy · 12/05/2013 23:58

if my dishes were returned,declined as needing rewash,I'd not be doing it
I have better things to fret about than dishes
you're setting self up to be big bossy my way or highway who gets to wash up

LittleLisa78 · 12/05/2013 23:59

Scottish - it doesn't take more time to wash up properly, it takes less! Plus I can't drink out of glasses that smell like whatever food pots and plates they were washed up with - yuck

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steppemum · 13/05/2013 00:00

I learnt the washing up order in Brownies in the 1970s Grin

When I was kid and we all washed up after the meal, the wiper uppers could reject anything that wasn't done properly - you soon get better when it is being chucked back at you!

squeakytoy · 13/05/2013 00:03

I would never wash glasses last.. they should always be first!

LittleLisa78 · 13/05/2013 00:04

See I leave to drain rather than dry up so don't think I'm over the top. He also thinks nothing of drying spillage on floor with tea towel then hanging it up for re-use and doesn't understand why I have separate mops for downstairs wood floor and bathrooms nor why I dust before hoovering. All these things are just common sense, surely?

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scottishmummy · 13/05/2013 00:06

why is washing up only job he does?how did you get to that

Suzieismyname · 13/05/2013 00:09

YANBU about either.

It annoys the crap out of me when I have to rewash something or rehang clothes or reload the dishwasher

SquirtedPerfumeUpNoseInBoots · 13/05/2013 00:12

Basic hygiene there then.
There are hundreds of references on google for the correct order to wash up in. I just can't find the wee rhyme we had to learn.
But if he's not washing the cleaner things first then that's just rank.
Did he not learn any cooking skills or hygiene at school, or at home?

Scottishmummy if you're happy with glasses being washed in the same water that has had a greasy roasting dish in it, then I'll decline the invite for a drink at yours! Grin

Wuldric · 13/05/2013 00:17

Yanbu

It's funny but DH thinks I am incompetent at washing up precisely because I don't fill a bowl with water, and chuck everything in at the same time. He disapproves of using the dishwasher.

Over the years I have come around to his way of thinking. I am useless at washing up. Therefore, being congenitally useless and incorrigible, it is clearly not worth involving me in this task.

Lj8893 · 13/05/2013 00:48

Yanbu!

Every shop has a different sizing situation ime, I range through 3 different sizes wherever I shop. I second the Bmi suggestion, work it out so you have a good comeback next time your sister starts.

Ewwww to your husbands washing up, glasses should always be first or if they can't be first for whatever reason done in new water!
I quite often if I have a big washing up load will do my glasses in one load of water and everything else in another.

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 13/05/2013 00:55

Use the blinking dishwasher!

WafflyVersatile · 13/05/2013 00:57

Next are fairly generous.

I do not wash in the order you proscribe but my glasses are sparkling. I do leave the pots and pans til last though. And use a lot of washing up liquid and run a lot of hot water. I also find greasy glasses unacceptable. Tell him to buck his ideas up or you'll dock his pocket money.

Thumbwitch · 13/05/2013 01:01

YANBU on either count.

I haven't bought anything in Next but I noticed that I stayed a size 10 in M&S, despite putting on weight (>2stone, I mean) and needing at least a 12 if not a 14 elsewhere! Vanity sizing, they call it, I believe.

Glasses always washed and rinsed first in the hottest cleanest water. It's the only way to get them really clean (apart from using the dishwasher but some glasses don't go well in there).

Feel free to tell them both that you are emphatically right! (Oh and your sister is either jealous or rude).

Startail · 13/05/2013 01:07

YANBU
I have size 12 and size 16 -shirts bought from Newlook on the same day, if anything the 12 is bigger.

Thats the order you are taught to wash up in by the Brownie hand book, I was once a Brown Owl, so your right and he's wrong!

Startail · 13/05/2013 01:12

Yes DD1 has size 10 M&S trousers for school, all her jeans etc are 12s (next, topshop, Redherring and Jasper Conran)

My narks trousers all need belts, but I can't get my arse in a 14, but 1/2 a size smaller would be great.

Decoy · 13/05/2013 01:17

I'm trying but failing to imagine a NEXT size 10 top being "massive" Envy

Bogeyface · 13/05/2013 01:18

No idea on the sizing (apart from saying that I am a good 16/18 in most shops but an Evans 14 swamps me) but on the washing up YANBU at all!

cumfy · 13/05/2013 02:08

Comrade Lisa, come the revolution those who can't (or won't) wash up in the correct order are definitely on the list.Wink

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