AIBU to think if your Daughter was grieving you would ring her?

[puzzled365]

I have name changed because the topic may out me in RL!
If your Daughter's Husband died recently and she was alone with small children, would you ring every day to check they were OK?
Just genuinely wonder if that's the way to go or to let them ask for help?

The poem is very true MumnGran. Telling a bereaved person they can call you is really no help at all.

My advice: look for help somewhere else, if your parents aren't helping in useful ways. Yes it sucks, but your parents can't be changed and they're clearly not being supportive in a way that actually helps.

So, friends, colleagues, charities (maybe Winston's wish?) etc.

Making progress this am. I have made an appointment with GP to see if there's any help available. Also making a plan of which bit of 'stuff' to deal with first: taxman, solicitors, coroner,house sale, kids schooling, winding up business etc etc etc! Itseems never ending at the moment, but I know this at least has got to end and the next stage of our lives will happen anyway. Thanks to you all again for giving me the chance to 'speak' about my frustrations. Xx

I am so sorry puzzled

there is nowt as queer as folk. and no, you not needy. not at all. My Mum is lovely but she can be crap like this too!

Take each day at a time, write losts of lists and be very realisttic about what you can get done

all my love XXXXXX

All the best puzzled we're all here for you

Sorry for your loss OP.

Holding your hand here too. xx

Hi Puzzled, in S Oxon if you need any support x

When my father died, I rang my mother every day for a year. That's after the part where I went straight down the next day to stay with her and help with the arrangements.

Puzzled - my deepest sympathies for your loss - I wish more than anything, I could give you a hug right now.

Just seen this. Very sorry for your loss.

As an aside, depending on what the business is, you may be able to sell it as a going concern which will save you winding it down and may net you some money. Worth a chat with an accountant or someone in the industry.

Keep strong and take care of yourself as well as the DC.

Just to put a different spin on it.
I love my dm very much, but her phoning every day to see how I was would get me down. I'd feel things like I couldn't go for an early night in case she phoned and worried because I didn't answer the phone and things like that.
I need time on my own to work things through sometimes, and it would make me feel pressured to have to speak to someone, even someone as close as my mum, every day. When things are tough, I don't work through them by talking to people. I go inside me and work it through there.
I wouldn't feel I could say to her please don't phone, as I'd know she would be worrying about me being on my own.

So I don't know that I would phone every day. Because I know that wouldn't be what I would want. If my dd said that was what she wanted then I would be more than happy to. But it wouldn't show a lack of care or love that I didn't.
I hope that makes sense.

Sorry for your loss.

Sorry for your loss OP

So sorry for your loss. :( life can really suck :(