Cheeky SIL?

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SIL gave DD a present a couple of years ago which she has now grown out of. She is careful with her stuff so it still looks newish.

We cleared out DD's room and I have cleared out some stuff to give to our preschool. SIL has popped in and wants to take the presnt back so she can give it to her god daughter as a present. When I told her what I planned on doing with it, she said 'but I gave it to DD so I want to be able to give in to A (god daughter)'

AIBU to think that if you give someone a present you cant demand it back when you are finished.

I thought I had the morning to myself, kids out at various activities and DH at work. I didnt know she was coming.

The house is really small. DD's room is the tiniest and is being taken over my bits of playmobil, craft stuff and lego sets. I just dont have anywhere to keep it.

Next time I will be doing my clearing out under the cover of darkness

I don't really think either of you are being particularly unreasonable.

She thinks she has priority over something you are getting rid of because she is family and you think underfunded nurseries have priority. I don't think either is particularly wrong.

However you are already giving a few things to the nursery so I don't think one less will make much difference, especially for the sake of family relations.

She can whistle for the other stuff though. That is cheeky.

Nanny0gg - Birthday present. We still have the box.

If she's giving it as a proper present then she really is being very rude cheeky.

Don't ever tell her about a clear-out again!!

I wouldnt give it to her. She thinks that because she gave it to ur dd she has a right to say what happens to it.

I would also hide the other stuff incase SIL takes that stuff too.

She might not be if she's skint. Or become skint since buying it before.

I suspect that isn't the reason, and if not it is a little cheeky. Or just thrifty!

I wouldn't now on the priniciple she thought she should go to "the man of the house" to pull rank on you. That would get my back right up. If she wanted it for her DC, that would be different, but she wants to give it to her godchild - I assume someone you aren't in contact with. And she wants to give it as a birthday present rather than buy something for that child, unless she's really skint,that's v cheeky.

oh definately put the other stuff away so she can't see it to take it. Also you need to tell her that you willl only accept gifts from her for your DCs in the future if she's certain they are gifts, and she's not going to demand them back in the future.

So she wants it to save cash?

I thought she was a cheeky cunt before but that really takes the piss.

Did she grass on you to dh then?

Don't give her the box, she's being a tight cow.

If you have told her you have the box I would make sure that it looks very well used. But I'm mean like that.