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35 replies

Wishihadabs · 09/05/2013 18:29

Maybe should have posted in relationships anyway here goes. I regularly WOTH on Thursdays. DH works from home and does school runs. A group of his mate's go out every month ona Thurday night . Only thing is they meet at 530 pm so I am rarely back from work. I try to enable DH to attend these sessions as often as possible. This week I organised a babysitter (just because I had her number on my phone) which he was happy to pay for so he could go. She is 18 and doing her A-levels. Unfortunately she forgot tonight. DH is now suggesting leaving the dcs (who need feeding) with either the builder ( who hasent yet left) or the 12 year old across the street ! it's a real pity the original babysitter forgot , but these things happen, she is probably a bit sttressed out about her exams. AIBU to think hello should suck it up instead of implementing these crackpot schemes for our dcs on a school night. Or am I overreacting ? It is v. frustrating as I have finished work but was at meeting this pm so on my way home, but won't be there til at leas t730 ( which IMO is a far more sensible time to go out anyway) and I am wondering what on earth I am going to come home to.

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ivanapoo · 09/05/2013 18:36

Can't he just catch up with his mates a bit later? That seems like the sensible option.

ivanapoo · 09/05/2013 18:37

Also why can't he organise the babysitter in future... Just saying

MrsLouisTheroux2 · 09/05/2013 18:37

He needs to get home, stop being a baby and accept his responsibilities. Will it kill him to give up a night out for his DC?

3littlefrogs · 09/05/2013 18:38

He needs to organise the babysitter. IMO. why on earth should you do it???

flangledoodle · 09/05/2013 18:41

OMG re leaving them with the builder!!

Restorer · 09/05/2013 18:44

Op explained why she organised the baby sitter. If builder is well known to you and dc i might do that, assuming its ok with builder, but really why can't he just go a bit late?

Squitten · 09/05/2013 18:44

Such is life - plans sometimes fail. Your DH will just have to suck it up and wait until you get home.

If he has left the kids with the builder (WTF?!) then I would go mad.

SquinkiesRule · 09/05/2013 18:51

Tough luck, he should wait for you to get in and be a bit late meeting his friends.

SissySpacekAteMyHamster · 09/05/2013 18:52

Is the builder likely to want to stay around until 7.30?

I think your OH should just suck it up, these things happen, so what if he is a couple of hours late for once.

HorryIsUpduffed · 09/05/2013 18:55

YANBU.

He arrives late and says "sorry, the babysitter let us down so I had to wait for Her Indoors to get home". Big deal!

What do they do that starts at 5.30?! Confused

Original poster
Wishihadabs · 09/05/2013 18:57

He most definitely will be organising the babysitter in the future. I have made sure they have each other's numbers. No we don't know the builder all that well !

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Wishihadabs · 09/05/2013 19:06

I wish I knew Horry

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verytellytubby · 09/05/2013 19:07

I actually laughed out loud at leaving with the builder. Jesus.

CloudsAndTrees · 09/05/2013 19:09

Do you know the builder other than professionally?

I had workmen in recently, one of them overheard me telling my 12 yo that he had to come out with me to pick up other dc when he usually waits at home for the 20 minutes it takes. They later thanked me for doing this because they find it awkward when they have to tell people that they can't be in the house alone with children so could they please not leave their children at home.

Your DH IBU.

Shutupanddrive · 09/05/2013 19:11

Of course he is BU, and selfish and possibly stupid (sorry)
He needs to grow up

BackforGood · 09/05/2013 19:19

Is there a reason he can't just join up with his mates later in the evening ?

MammaTJ · 09/05/2013 19:20

Why doesn't he just go and grab some random stranger off the street to babysit? After all, he is happy to leave them with a random builder. I'm sure if he asks their name before leaving them, it will be fine. Grin

I can't believe he suggested the builder.

sooperdooper · 09/05/2013 19:26

Why can't he meet them at 7.30? Surely better to arrive late than not at all

AnyFucker · 09/05/2013 19:44

Is your h usually such a fucking Nob ?

StuntGirl · 09/05/2013 19:44

Is he normally so stupid?

StuntGirl · 09/05/2013 19:44

xpost AF Grin

Laquitar · 09/05/2013 20:06

Even if you trust the builder why should he (the builder) be happy to look after the children when their father is not??

This is not an emergency or a work issue. It is about going for a drink. He goes later fgs.

rambososcar · 09/05/2013 20:15

Any man who suggested leaving my children in the care of either a builder or a 12 year old would be being made to consider whether or not he wanted to remain in the family home. Any man who left my children with the builder or a 12 year old would no longer have a family home to worry about.

WilsonFrickett · 09/05/2013 20:18

We've got (very lovely) builders in at the minute, I would love to see their faces if I suggested a spot of babysitting.

This is a bonkers situation OP. His family circumstances don't allow him to meet people at 530. I go out a lot, but only after DP gets home, and I would never ask him to come home 'early' unless it was work related or a special thing like a concert, for example, where there's a definite 'start'.

LemonPeculiarJones · 09/05/2013 20:25

YANBU. He is. Whats wrong with him? Potentially endangering his kids for a night out?

And why is he so desperate about being there so early?

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