My brother and his wife are visiting for the first time in a while, and mum and dad decided it would be good to have a family meal out.
Mum asked me whether I would be able to get a babysitter to join DB and DS and their other halves and mum and dad. Tuesday was the date decided on.
Couldn't get a babysitter for Tuesday, but could for Wednesday or Monday; Wednesday (today) was decided upon, despite the fact that my DH, who works away, is back at work.
I was told that if my babysitter was to cancel, then it would be more convenient for them to change back to Tuesday and I could just stay at home.
Now, it's been decided that eating after I've put the children to bed (I'll be done by 7.15, and can get there by around 7.45) is not convenient, so they will all arrive, order their food, and order my food as well, and then start eating their starters. When I turn up I can join them, and my starter will be waiting for me. (Dare I say it - cold?)
The original sharing of lift has been cancelled now because they all want to get to the restaurant before me, and I have to put the children to bed.
There are many things going on in my life atm so I think I might be a bit sensitive but I am feeling that this is a bit crappy really.
I have raised this - the fact that DH won't be there so selling it as a 'whole family together' thing is a bit erroneous - but I was told they assumed he wouldn't be around. Nobody asked him: if they had, he would have said he was around on Monday. As was everyone else.
I've also been told that they're bending over backwards to accommodate me - but I see it slightly differently, as all the decisions e.g. to eat earlier when I can't get there - are being made and presented to me as a fait accompli!
I'm now miffed because I feel like I'm going to be there on suffrance, arriving after the fun has started, when everybody is eating.
Am I being oversensitive?
Should I go or not?