To think they handled my panic attack badly.

[bordellosboheme]

Short version is.... I was very sleep deprived, stressed, drank coffee, exercised and came home from work and within about 10 mins was having a full blown panic attack (in hindsight because at the time I thought I was having a heart attack)..... I was literally on the floor hyperventilating, shaking, clutching my chest in pain, sweating.... Dp and dm were there as was ds who is only very little. Dm and dp were playing it down... Dp was in the shower, dm was trying to watch ds..... I was shouting help me, help me and they were both just standing there as I was on the floor... Eventually dm shouted 'stop it bordellosboheme' followed by dp shouting 'snap out of it'.... I made it to the phone as I was going to call 999 myself as I literally couldn't get a breath when it started to subside.... Dp and dm were rather passive.... Am I being unreasonable to think their reaction was crap? Dm later said she was trying to 'shock' me out of it...l was already shocked!!!!! Am worried about their ability to respond to an emergency, they were crap IMHO

[Potteresque97]

Yanbu, They didnt handle it well and should make it clear they love you and were scared. fwiw, coffee and tiredness make panic attacks much more likely for me (although I drink coffee to try and stop feeling sad so vicious circle eh). Long story short, are you seeing your dr about these issues and getting some help?

[aldiwhore]

I once thought my mum was feining a headahce because she was losing an argument.

She was having a brain hemhorrage (sp). Obviously it's something I will never forgive myself for, even though she's okay, and even though she has form (when losing an argument).

YANBU for thinking your family didn't give you what you needed at the time, YANBU to think that if you were all first aid trained you may well have all responded better. YABU to assume that anyone will know that something's serious, and YABU to think they should know what to do.... because I wouldn't.

YANBU to be scared, disappointed and worried about everyone's knowledge and reaction in an emergency situation. That is something you can rectify isn't it?

Must have been pretty scary for you and I hope you've learned avoidance tactics for the future (for yourself more than anyone... stress upon stress doesn't sit well with you!).

Hope you feel better soon. Try and forgive. Also educate your loved ones on what might help if it ever happens again. x

[GirlWiththeLionHeart]

I'm so sorry you had a PA, op. I've suffered them since I was a little girl and they're very horrible and scary.

My partner reacted shittily to one once because I had one just as he got in from work and couldn't 'deal with it right now'

I think you definitely need to tell him how scared you were and how his reaction was very wrong.

[bleedingheart]

I sometimes find MN - and the net in general - very depressing, because of the low social and emotional expectations so many people seem to have, of themselves and others.

Yes to this ^

I would be very upset by the lack of care and compassion shown to you when you were terrified.