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Original poster

not an AIBU but an update (aibu to be suspicious of landlord MIL)

116 replies

SmellsLikeTeenStrop · 06/05/2013 15:40

I promised I would update so here it is.

original thread

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a1545014-to-be-a-little-suspicious-of-landlord-MIL

Readers digest version. MIL is our landlord, really rubbish one who breaks the law by not maintaining the boiler at all. We had a sort of agreement to buy this house from her when we could afford to but when we got to that point she kept putting off, making excuses.

We've bought a house, moving this weekend. When DH told MIL she had another screaming tantrum and could not believe what we're doing to her. She's currently not speaking to us.

MoreBeta nailed the situation in his first post of that thread. The mortgage on this house is large, none of the capital has been paid off and she did expect us to take on responsibility for her debts of which this house has seen absolutely no benefit from.

OP posts:
Jux · 06/05/2013 22:10

Good luck with your move and I hope you have a wonderful life in your new home Thanks

Do let us know how it goes.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea · 06/05/2013 22:37

We do indeed love updates. Thank you :) I lurked back on your original thread but had nothing useful to add.

Hope you are very happy in your new home Thanks

TryDrawing · 06/05/2013 22:42

Wonderful news, well done!

Ilovewaleswhenitrains · 06/05/2013 23:34

Great news about your new house and lovely baby. I remember your original thread. I hope you and your family will be very happy in your ne home.

KeatsiePie · 07/05/2013 05:39

Oh, I remember this thread! I'm afraid I was still lurking around back then but I thought the whole situation sounded awful. So glad you have found a nice new house of your own. And congratulations on the nice new baby of your own too Smile

WeAreEternal · 07/05/2013 06:42

I remember your original thread.
Thanks for coming back to update us.
Congratulations on the new house and the new baby.

ratspeaker · 07/05/2013 07:51

I mind the original thread, Congratulations on the wee boy and the new house
I was aghast that someone would put having a holiday or new patio than making sure their own son and family were safe.
Let alone the devious lies and manipulation. It must have been very hard for your DH when he finally realised how little his mum thought about him

Whatever happened with the boiler in the end?

RubyGates · 07/05/2013 09:09

Good news!
Congratulations on your new baby and your new home Flowers
If only you could get a new MIL too Hmm

Bossybritches22 · 07/05/2013 09:24

Yaaay do love an update & congrats on the new baby - good luck for future!

MoominsYonisAreScary · 07/05/2013 09:30

Wow was it that long ago?

Congratulations

Lambzig · 07/05/2013 09:30

Thank you for updating and well done for standing up for the right thing.

Congrats on the new house and baby.

BlackAffronted · 07/05/2013 09:47

I love it when an AIBU like this gets an update :)

Well done & congratulations

Planetofthedrapes · 07/05/2013 10:21

Don't give her your new address yet!!

GiraffesAndButterflies · 07/05/2013 10:42

I was lurking on your original thread too, wow can't believe it was so long ago. Well done you and DH for getting out of such a bad situation, and congratulations on your baby Flowers

eosmum · 07/05/2013 11:04

Can't believe how long ago the original thread was, so you've had a winter with that boiler. So please for you that you now are sorted in a lovely new place.

maras2 · 07/05/2013 11:39

Congratulations on the forthcoming move and on the arrival of your baby boy.Your thread opened a few cans of worms for other posters.Wonder if Spuddybean's mad MIL is still evading the Inland Revenue?Best wishes Mx.

DeepRedBetty · 07/05/2013 11:45

Yet another Thanks for updating us. So lovely to hear a good ending to a chapter. Rather a lot of other MNetters take note ... Grin

Many congratulations on new home and baby.

CiderwithBuda · 07/05/2013 11:46

I remember your thread too and in fact was wondering the other day what had happened.

Good news and congrats on your baby boy! Happy new home.

tb · 07/05/2013 13:24

Congratulations on your baby Thanks I, too remember your previous thread, and was thinking about it only recently.

You could always make a slightly anxious phone call to someone about 'your friend' in a dodgy rental with a possibly unsafe boiler. Just not sure who, though.

Original poster
SmellsLikeTeenStrop · 07/05/2013 13:28

I didn't want to update too soon in case something went wrong, but we've exchanged contracts and will be completing soon.

I want MIL to come to our new house but only after we've redecorated and had our new sofa's delivered. I want her to see the living room with the French doors in to the garden, and the huge kitchen that is less than 2 years old. Just to rub her nose in it.

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Original poster
SmellsLikeTeenStrop · 07/05/2013 13:32

DH doesn't want to get MIL in to legal trouble. His plan is to get the boiler disabled so it can't be used.

OP posts:
Lovecat · 07/05/2013 13:40

I remember your thread - so glad that you've bought elsewhere!

Yay for new baby boy, huge new(ish) kitchen, french doors and being warm! :o

MinnieBar · 07/05/2013 14:05

Oh well done all of you, congrats on your DS and thanks for the update!

I know it's not going to be easy, particularly for your DH, but her not talking to you is frankly the best outcome.

prettybird · 07/05/2013 14:29

I remember that thread! Congratulations on you new house - I hope you'll be really happy there.

It might be useful for your dh to read "Toxic Parents" (you can download it for free from BookOS). It'll help him put his mother into a more apporpriate context and stop letting her upset him so much

Xiaoxiong · 07/05/2013 15:01

contracts exchanged!
new sofas!
living room with french doors!
a garden!
huge new kitchen!

I love happy endings.