over basic cleanliness when dealing with chicken pox spots?
Booboostoo · 05/05/2013 09:05
DD (2yo) has chicken pox and most of the spots are drying out. We have to put a cream on twice a day, which is something I have done for the last week. DP was about to do it today for the first time.
I asked him to wash his hands before he put the cream on to try to avoid infecting the spots (he had ben vigorously scratching his balls). He said that was an exaggeration (I was being OCD) but did wash his hands. I then said that I tried to use different fingers to put the cream on to avoid infecting one spot from the other, but he said there was no way he was doing that.
He had just done all the spots in her genital area, including inside her bottom and I asked him if he could use the other hand for her face, but he then used the other hand to scratch his balls, so I asked him to wash his hands again. At which point he said he would either do it his way or he wouldn't do it all.
AIBU to think that a grown man should know to wash his hands and not touch his balls while dealing with spots that can get infected? I know I ended up giving him a lot of suggestions which can be aggravating but was I supposed to just let him scratch his balls and then touch DD's spots without saying anything?
BruthasTortoise · 05/05/2013 09:10
Um I think if my DH was vigorously scratching his balls in front of my two year old I would be more than a little annoyed even without the chickenpox thing. It's gross and, unless he has a medical condition, unnecessary. Re the chickenpox: do it yourself if he can't be trusted to do even basic hand washing.
JeremyPiven · 05/05/2013 09:15
Does your DH have a medical issue? Pox or not, that sounds like a lot if ball scratching. Under trousers or over?
Tbh I would be a bit grossed out at him doing that even without the chicken pox. But yes, washing hands before and after touching skin lesions if probably a good idea.
Booboostoo · 05/05/2013 10:51
He was naked (which I am fine with) and he does scratch his balls a lot (which is OK, I am not the ball scratching police), but I don't see the need to do it right before touching the spots! He doesn't see my point and wants a doctor to tell him he shouldn't do it! AIBU to ask the doc to tell him????
Tailtwister · 05/05/2013 11:29
Yuck. If he's so cavalier about hygiene when in this case, what on earth is he like with other things, like washing his hands before handling food etc?
YANBU OP. If you can't trust him to treat your daughter's spots hygienically, then I think you should do it all yourself.
IneedAsockamnesty · 05/05/2013 11:32
Is he really that thick that he needs a doctor to explain basic hygiene to him?
Christ alive no wonder its hard to get an appointment with a gp these days if there waiting rooms are full of people requesting info about things they should have learnt by the age of 4
Maggie111 · 05/05/2013 15:27
Urgh! You can't make him be reasonable, so yes he's probably right that if you want to be so fussy you should do it yourself (DH and I have the same arguments!)
So - yes you should do it yourself but he should know that he is revolting to the rest of society!!
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