to be saddened, disappointed and a little freaked out!
yearningformyyoni · 04/05/2013 13:12
So back when I was 9/10 yo, I had this friend and we were inseperable up until I moved away for my Dads work and we went to different high schools.
We often had convos about our future, babies and marriage - as you do at that age. This friend (P) said a fairly unusual but gorgeous name if she had a DS, I said I would call me DS that too so that they could be twins we werent very bright
Fast forward almost 20 years and I return to my hometown with a husband and a DS who I did end up calling that unusual name! Went to a mothers and toddlers group to meet new people and ended up running into this old friend! There were hugs and kisses and all going well until I told her my DS name and her face clouded over. You got it, she had also called her son it. I thought it was quite funny and did the old, "remember when I thought they could be twins...." but she was having none of it.
She ended up grabbing her stuff and her DS and leaving after accusing me of "always being a bloody copier" . Luckily, the other parents were fairly used to her outbursts it seems and welcomed me with open arms.
But I'm still a little in shock tbh. The atmosphere just changed and we used to be so close. How was I ever to know we would end up in this situation?
Leverette · 04/05/2013 13:18
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SavoyCabbage · 04/05/2013 13:19
So, when you were growing up you both said you were going to call your sons 'rufus' then you both did and she's mad.?
It's probably because its a beautiful name and she's had people telling her so and now she has to share it with you.
It's amazing you both picked it. The names I liked growing up are ridiculous!
BalloonSlayer · 04/05/2013 13:23
Well I expect she only remembers that she always wanted to call her DS that name, and has forgotten that you did too. TBH, you did get the idea from her so you have copied it.
If you do see her again you could apologise and say that you never thought you would see each other again so you didn't think you would have offended her by using "her" name, or - if you were feeling particularly crawly - you could say you used it as you missed her so much
But actually she sounds a bit high-maintenance and you are probably well shot of her.
Repeatedlydoingthetwist · 04/05/2013 13:28
I really don't see how this is an issue. I'm assuming you haven't been in contact for quite some time so it's not like you've stolen your best friends name is it?! I can't see how you'd be expected to know that she'd be so upset, you were 9/10 years old FGS! Like one of the other posters said I'm shocked that anything you picked at that age has stood the test of time, I'm sure when I was young my ideal baby names were a combination of all five of Take That's first names!
mamaggie · 04/05/2013 13:40
When I was a child, I was going to have twins, a boy and a girl, called Sarah and Simon. I now have 4 children, 2 boys, 2 girls, and none of them are Sarah and Simon.
I am intrigued as to this name though
But I wouldn't worry about her reaction, she sounds a bit high maintenance.
Sparklymommy · 04/05/2013 13:44
My children all have unusual names. I have to say when (or rather if) they meet ANYONE with the same name as them they are ecstatic! My eldest who is 10 has only ever met one other with her name. An american who was my age! That particular lady had never met anyone with the same name until she met my dd. She was more thrilled than anyone!
I think your old friend is bu tbh. How could you ever know that something said at 9 or 10 would stick?
ENormaSnob · 04/05/2013 13:51
Pmsl that she hurled 'copier' as an insult!
Must admit that I have had friends that copied me from clothes down to decor and car. It is really fucking annoying.
You haven't seen her since you were a child though so doubt you would be the same as my copier
What's the name?
yearningformyyoni · 04/05/2013 13:56
I feel like I am setting up for disappointment here but it is Dante, I've never seen another Dante hence why I said it was unusual. If we want to get really picky we could argue it's "my" name as it is of Italian descent, as am I.
But, agreed, she obviously went a bit cracked over the years. I am just saddened, especially as I was so excited to see a familiar face at my first toddlers group
ZombiesAteMyBaby · 04/05/2013 13:58
When I was a teenager my BFF at the time had the same first name as me. We loved it at the time, and it was our little gimmick. We lost touch after we left school.
I grew up married DH and had kids. Thanks to the wonders of Facebook we got back in touch. Freakily we had both named our first born daughters the same name. Very strange as we had never even talked about babies when we were friends. Anyway we both laughed about it and moved on.
She sounds very insecure if this is such a big issue for her. Either that or a major drama queen!
CocacolaMum · 04/05/2013 14:02
when I was a teen I wanted to call my first daughter Courtney and it was something my friend and I would talk about a lot.. I didn't in the end, bumped into my best friend from the time and she introduced me to her little girl.. Courtney. I was pretty touched tbh.
firawla · 04/05/2013 14:05
She is being silly, you both agreed you would use it so it shouldn't be too much of a suprise, I actually would have thought its quite a lovely thing to meet up after so many years and find you did both have a little Dante as you wanted when you were growing up, not many people would have a story like that for their kids having the same name!
LazyMonkeyButler · 04/05/2013 14:12
This quote from the OP tells you everything you need to know;
Luckily, the other parents were fairly used to her outbursts it seems and welcomed me with open arms.
She's obvious a childish woman with a reputation for being a diva. Please don't let it put you off going to the group again though, providing you & your DS enjoyed it.
MrsMelons · 04/05/2013 15:00
I find it odd she was bothered - I would have been flattered TBH. She sounds very childish. I suspect she will tell people and they will tell her not to worry about it so maybe next time she will be fine.
My mum and her best friend both called their DDs the same name, they still saw each other and I was born after, my mum asked her if it was ok and her friend was flattered and excited.
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