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AIBU?

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to think my sons might celebrate my birthday?

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AncientCrone · 03/05/2013 13:41

I am 94 today

I am in poor health and have had little to live for since my DH died 15 years ago. I have two sons who are the apple(s) of my eye as long as you ignore the bit where I sent them off to boarding school when they were 6 and then buggered off to France for most of their adulthood. Anyway, that's all in the past now, my world revolves around me them.

Obviously I'm in God's waiting room now, so this birthday could very well be my last. AIBU to think it is utterly unreasonable for my eldest DS to have gone on holiday so he isn't here today to celebrate with me? I know he didn't really want to and my bloody- DIL made him I have to cling to this belief for my own sanity--.

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AncientCrone · 03/05/2013 13:41

I am very old so can't work strike outs Blush

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HerrenaHandbasket · 03/05/2013 13:42

This is a reverse AIBU, right?

crypes · 03/05/2013 13:42

Where are your mum and dad, why can't they help out?????

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AncientCrone · 03/05/2013 13:44

My mum and dad have been dead for about 40 years Confused

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megandraper · 03/05/2013 13:44

Well, sounds like there's a lot of past history to this.

But YANBU. I think at 94, it'd be nice to have family around on your birthday since it may be your last.

crypes · 03/05/2013 13:46

Go to the pub then, meet someone,get laid , prob solved.

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AncientCrone · 03/05/2013 13:47

Herrena not exactly. But I am an unusually computer-savvy 94 yo Wink

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AncientCrone · 03/05/2013 13:47

I haven't got laid since the 1970s Confused Plus I would probably break a hip.

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Wouldntyouliketoknow · 03/05/2013 14:09

Hmm...is there any way your 'son' could've booked the holiday so it didn't fall on your birthday? He is being a bit unreasonable I suppose.

But at least you have your other son there!

LadySlatternlysHoover · 03/05/2013 14:18

You're the evil DIL, right? Grin

TigerSwallowTail · 03/05/2013 14:20

I'm not sure if yabu or not tbh, I'm sure it would have been nice to have him there for your birthday but it also sounds like there is a lot of issues from the past too when you weren't there either.

TigerSwallowTail · 03/05/2013 14:21

And happy birthday Thanks Wine

stayathomegardener · 03/05/2013 14:23

This is freaking me out,I had never considered I may still be on here at 94...another 50 years

LadySlatternlysHoover · 03/05/2013 14:24

It's good to know God's waiting room has t'internet.

stayathomegardener · 03/05/2013 14:24

That was no use obviously sorry.

onedev · 03/05/2013 14:36

I don't think YABU - it would be lovely to have your sons around you on your 94th birthday & it's sad that one doesn't feel that way.

Obviously I've no idea what went on I your past but I'm not surprised you're disappointed (& if you're the DIL, why was the holiday booked for this time of year?).

50shadesofvomit · 03/05/2013 14:45

Do they usually celebrate your birthday with you?

brass · 03/05/2013 14:52

meh. karma doesn't stop for birthdays

MansView · 03/05/2013 14:57

yeah, my mam's expecting me to do stuff for her 65th birthday this year...but she's never done sweet fa for my main birthdays - 18th, 21st, or my 40th (the other year) - I'll simply get her a card with a tenner in like any other year...

IsItMeOr · 03/05/2013 14:59

Nobody would describe themselves in the terms of the OP. But I'll play...

I may be unduly harsh, but unless you're very close to your sons and routinely see them for your birthday, then I don't think 94 is a "special" birthday.

I'd be more concerned about what your relationship with them is like for the other 364 days of the year.

nenevomito · 03/05/2013 15:08

You've had 94 of the bloody things, aren't you bored of them yet?

brass · 03/05/2013 16:53

GMIL has been promising threatening to expire for the last 13 years but is 91 and still around bless her

quoteunquote · 03/05/2013 19:51

well don't worry next year will come round fast enough, the years get faster as you get older,

When you are one, a year is your whole life, when you are 2 it's half your life, when you are 95, well if you have a good nap it will be here before you know it.

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AncientCrone · 04/05/2013 22:19

Wouldn't Both my sons and evil DILs are retired, so really they could go any time. They left on Wednesday, my birthday was on Friday. It's a UK trip. I think they could go any time, they might disagree Wink

Tigerswallow Thank you :)

50shades I can't remember Blush They made a big fuss for my 90th a few years ago. I always get a card from both of them.

Isitme I live next door to both of them, so geographically we're close but they both travel a lot now they're retired :( And also I don't see them as often as I would like to. They look after me in terms of doing shopping, sorting out bills, etc but I get the distinct impression that their world doesn't revolve around me, even though I'm their mummy :(

quote It might not for me though :(

Thanks for all the replies, I genuinely don't know if IABU or not. I think I'm probably not Wink but my granddaughter thinks I might have a touch of NPD

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WafflyVersatile · 05/05/2013 01:36

Do what my dad is doing for his 80th. Book all of you on a holiday together that they will hate and present it to them as a fait accompli.

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