to think my sons might celebrate my birthday?

[AncientCrone]

I am 94 today

I am in poor health and have had little to live for since my DH died 15 years ago. I have two sons who are the apple(s) of my eye as long as you ignore the bit where I sent them off to boarding school when they were 6 and then buggered off to France for most of their adulthood. Anyway, that's all in the past now, my world revolves around me them.

Obviously I'm in God's waiting room now, so this birthday could very well be my last. AIBU to think it is utterly unreasonable for my eldest DS to have gone on holiday so he isn't here today to celebrate with me? I know he didn't really want to and my bloody- DIL made him I have to cling to this belief for my own sanity--.

what an unpleasant spiteful reverse post

Yabu simply because you sound like my Gran who's been guilt tripping the whole family for nigh on two decades because "this year might be my last"

Old people are like toddlers - selfish and irrational or maybe it's just mine

NPD - in so far as attention seeking - definitely

completely made up/reverse post - definitely also!

what exactly have you got out of this waste of time OP?

Well Kafri I enjoyed this thread

well yeah, it was amusing. just don't get where some people get their ideas from

I know this is a reverse AIBU, but I think the 94-year-old is entirely reasonable to want her family around her on her birthday. It is quite mean to go away and leave someone on a special day when you can go away at any time of the year.

The OP/DIL sounds spiteful.

Are you the Queen?

Assuming that you are one of the evil DILs I would say that she is very lucky to be well enough to live at home, with both DSs close by - so enjoy the break. (Especially as she seems somewhat demanding).

Hilarious AC Any sqeakes about leaving your children out of your will? Do they mind?

Chinese phone.

I must be dim, I thought this was all a joke, not a DIL.

I assumed it was DIL posting.

I'm new to mumsnet, will be less gullible now. It was amusing but seems less so now I have twigged as they could holiday around the birthday.

Rosh,maybe I'm being cynical. I recognise the scenario though. My brother can't be bothered to see my mum at all,and I don't blame him.

Sorry, I am terrible for starting threads and then not updating

I'm really not an evil DIL just a (tangentially involved) observer. I actually agree with the old lady/OP, I think it is a shame her sons couldn't stick around to celebrate her possibly last birthday but a couple of people I mentioned it to thought it was an absurd thing for her to be upset about, so thought I'd ask opinions here. Thought it would be more interesting writing from the ancient crone's POV but wanted to make it clear that she wasn't a sweet old lady who'd been abandoned by her feckless family. I just wasn't counting on you vipers being so suspicious of a clearly fallible narrator

Few things that have occurred to me:

• it's quite possible that she isn't actually particularly bothered about her birthday, but is just using it as a convenient reason for a bit of emotional blackmail.

• there was also recently a very big family party for her counterpart's (ie her sons' MIL) 90th birthday, big family do with lots of fuss for other old lady etc. I suspect she might not be able to distinguish the difference between 90th/94th birthday and according levels of fuss (NPD is a distinct possibility!) ... but then I suppose 94th is also a greater achievement!

• apparently when DIL's DC presented her with a cake for a recent birthday of the DIL's, the old lady told her DIL that she was being ridiculous and celebrating birthdays was for kids, so DIL thought she wouldn't want a fuss.

Anyway, that is probably tl; dr ... Thanks to all those who shared their thoughts :)