To be disapointed in the human race :(

[HeffalumpTheFlump]

I went to an appointment at the women's centre at the hospital yesterday. After booking in I was asked to go round to the waiting room which was packed. I'm currently 4 and a half months pregnant and have a bit of a bump. There were plenty of men in the waiting room along with lots of pregnant women. A few of the men near me looked at my bump but didn't offer me a seat. I was fine with that as im not heavily pregnant, I do faint if I stand up too long but they don't know that.

A little while later I managed to get a seat and was waiting for my name to be called. I then saw the most painfully pregnant looking woman (tiny tiny frame and a bump the size of a planet) walk in and I thought surely someone will offer this woman a seat. Nope, not one of the men stood up. As soon as I realised this I gave her mine and had a chat with her. Turns out she is two weeks from being induced with twins and had just walked to the hospital, no wonder she looked exhausted!!!

I'm really cross that not one person in the room cared enough about another human being to offer this lady a seat, it just makes me so sad :(

[HeffalumpTheFlump]

I think the only reason I mentioned the men in my original post was because the room was full of pregnant ladies and with it beings the women's centre, the men were more likely to be in good health and able to offer a seat. I'm not sure if cozie meant the same?

[HeffalumpTheFlump]

Booyhoo try closer to 30 people :/

[Binkybix]

Booyhoo - I agree that you are taking the title pretty literally!

[Fluffycloudland77]

I've noticed men can actually be more considerate to ladies with buggies etc than women.

My dad used to make my mother walk to hospital when she was pg with me as revenge for getting pg, they used to admit her when they saw the state she was in. Some people are just cunts through and through.

[Booyhoo]

oh 30? yeah you're right- that's the human race then. my apologies

[HeffalumpTheFlump]

Thank u binkybix, I do feel I made it clear in the post that my issue was with the people in the waiting room. The title was just a title lol!

[Booyhoo]

binky you are missing my point.

[Booyhoo]

oh fuck. you lol? never mind. you wont get it.

[mumsneedwine]

I used to travel on the tube and was huge with first baby. I would stand right in front of the seat which had sticker saying reserved for pregnant people (always loved that !) & make sure my bump nudged their newspaper every second. Usually the person would take the hint by the next stop !!!!

[Crinkle77]

I was in a similar situation yesterday on the bus but not with a pregnant lady. The bus was chocca and this lady got on in her 70's. I was the only one to get up and offer my seat although she declined. When other pensioners got on after that no one else thought to get up and offer their seats. I thought my actions may have prompted others but it didn't.

[HeffalumpTheFlump]

Wow booyhoo because i used lol you are writing me off as unable to understand your point? Seems a tad unfair! Although truthfully I'm not quite sure at this point in time what your problem with my actual post is? I unreservedly apologise for my use of the phrase 'human race' in the title, and my comment about society made it clear this (IMO) was an indication about society, not saying that the whole of society was in the waiting room?

It is lovely that so many of you have positive experiences to share about others, I was starting to lose hope!

[HeffalumpTheFlump]

Mumsneedwine - that is so funny!! I have an image of you basically rubbing your bump on complete strangers.. Made me giggle!!

Crinkle - it makes you cross doesn't it!!

[Booyhoo]

no, i already suspected you wouldn't understand my point. your 'lol' just confirmed it.

my problem with your title is that it implied something that the human race should be ashamed of. on reading your OP i realise you actually on meant the people in the waiting room. so why attribute the behaviours of those 30 people to the rest of the human race (7 billion on last count )? that isn't a worldwide issue, it was a waiting room issue involving only the people in that room. dont lump the rest of humanity (including yourself btw) in with them.

[HeffalumpTheFlump]

Booyhoo you are so hostile! As far as I'm aware I gave you no reason to believe I am unable to understand your point. I have appologised about my use of the phrase 'human race' in the title. My post and resulting comments made it clear my issue was with the 30 or so people in the waiting room. My personal opinion is that there are many in society who no longer feel an obligation to care for others and this (again in my opinion) was an indication of this that made me sad. I feel that we has hashed this out as much as is necessary, I feel I understand your point and have explained mine. Are we done?

[HeffalumpTheFlump]

*have

[cozietoesie]

Well, dellboys. If I was in a Women's Centre, I would think it likelier that the men would be waiting - and more hale and hearty than any women present.

Besides which, it's what Granny would have said.

[StuntGirl]

I wouldn't have apologised for your use of the human race to be honest heffalump, its a phrase that is widely used and understood, binky is clearly just looking for a fight over nothing.

delboy I assume she said "gentlemen" as the women in the room were clearly the ones either pregnant or ill, what with it being the women's health centre and all.

I agree wth you OP, I travel by train a lot and am horrified almost daily at people's selfish behaviour. I see more crappy behviour than caring behaviour.

[Binkybix]

Booyhoo I too understand the point you are trying to make, I just think it's an odd one that has taken the title pretty seriously. It's a way of phrasing something to explain a wider feeling that the actions of the 30 people have given the OP, which other people seem to have understood.

[Binkybix]

I'm not looking for a fight! I'm supporting the OP's use of the phrase.

[andubelievedthat]

me ,on a bus out of London ,heading to Heathrow ,woman gets on with 5 kids ,I stood ,offered my seat she declined and said to her approx. 7 year old son ,"you sit there " ,and he did ! now I am not usually speechless ,but on that occasion,i nearly fainted in disbelief.

[HeffalumpTheFlump]

Stuntgirl - just incase it upsets her it was booyhoo who had a problem not binky! Binky was completely reasonable :) I really try to see the best in people but like you constantly see examples of selfish, unkind behaviour and rarely see people helping each other or treating each other with respect and kindness. It's a shame :( but I will continue to give my seat up until my belly looks like a planet or is weighing me down so much I can't. And if no one offers me a seat I will sit on them

[anklebitersmum]

*Heffalump YANBU.

I would be mortified if my DH had just sat there in that situation. Manners, as my Nan used to say, cost nothing.

Maybe that's the problem in todays society though they cost nothing so they're percieved by many as worth nothing

[Booyhoo]

"As far as I'm aware I gave you no reason to believe I am unable to understand your point."

the fact that you clearly didn't understand my point was enough reason for me to believe you didn't understand my point.

i'm not looking for a fight. i called you on something i had an issue with. does doing that mean looking for a fight? because in that case then you were looking for a fight by raising an issue you had with people in a waiting room. no? anyone raising an issue = looking for a fight?

binky- again, you are missing my point.

[Booyhoo]

"she declined and said to her approx. 7 year old son ,"you sit there " ,and he did ! now I am not usually speechless ,but on that occasion,i nearly fainted in disbelief."

umm, why?

[Binkybix]

Maybe you should try to explain it in a different way if you think I'm still missing it (which I'm not FYI).