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My daughter is not a Princess!

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DrSeuss · 02/05/2013 20:09

Another reference on FB to a friend's "Little Princess.". Am I the only one who prefers to avoid this word? My two year old is bright, funny, cuddly, sometimes stroppy. I hope she grows up to be something that makes her happy, no idea what yet, just something she finds fulfilling. Why would I give her such an inane title? The Duchess of Cambridge, who I actually really like, has a degree from a top university. She now has no right to express an opinion and will always be second to her husband. Not really what I hope for in my daughter's life!

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PaWithABra · 03/05/2013 23:50

we call the our baby daughter 'lill baby' or just 'baby'

do i lack imagination ?

Still18atheart · 04/05/2013 00:03

Growing up I was as princessy as they come. But not once did my parent call me princess or my little princess etc ect.

CookieB · 04/05/2013 00:27

Are you actually being serious? Yes I call my dd princess now and again. She knows she is not. I also call her a witch too. She knows she is not that either. She would rather be a cat and I let her be a cat when the mood takes her. Im 100% sure she will not be psychologically damaged by my encouragement.

mumnosbest · 04/05/2013 00:43

I didn't grow up into miss piggy, a flower or a duck despite being called all 3. Princess is just a term of endearment surely! My dd is my little princess, little monkey or monster depending on her mood.

Flisspaps · 04/05/2013 06:44

Now sexy is something that I take issue with, for little boys and girls...

financialwizard · 04/05/2013 06:49

My dd is 'Her Ladyship' and DS 'His Lordship' only due to their entitled manner!

Bonsoir · 04/05/2013 06:51

The princess thing is a phase that many, many little girls pass through. Deny it them at your peril!

BinksToEnlightenment · 04/05/2013 06:59

It's a lovely nickname. What in the hell is wrong with making out your daughter is special? I suppose we could all be too equal for that and do them up in camo and call them Mudpie. How very right on.

Bigger problems in the world, guys!

Mariannesmum · 04/05/2013 07:29

I frequently call my daughter 'sausage'...she is definitely not a sausage. I have a friend who calls her son 'little prince'. It reminds me of Alison Steadman in Gavin and Stacey!

threesypeesy · 04/05/2013 08:22

My 3dds are all princesses to us. Infact at the age of 28 I am still called/treated and act like a princess spoiled brat

YABU its nothing to do with you what others wish to call their dcs or how they want them to grow up. You're daughter might not be a princess but lots of girls out there are to someone

Flisspaps · 04/05/2013 12:01

OhHull That's what I was referring to by the wanky makeover. Bastards.

OhHullitsOnlyMeYoni · 04/05/2013 20:45

I thought so Fliss ! Thought it might clarify for a few why some people find the term Princess so frustrating.

IfNotNowThenWhen · 04/05/2013 20:54

I like your DD's style breatheslowly Grin
My ds said to me the other day "you can't tell me what to do. You're not the queen".
I soon put him straight.

NotYouNaanBread · 05/05/2013 10:21

We told my MIL that we were calling DD2 Princess Princess. She is American witha somewhat underdeveloped sense of irony & is never quite sure about me anyway, so there was a long quiet pause at the dinner table while she tried to decide if we were serious or not.

CheshireDing · 05/05/2013 10:48

YANBU.

Currently the only shoes that fit pfb feet are bright pink sparkly things AND I HATE that every time we go shoe shopping I had to specifically say to them "please bring out any boys shoes that fit too".

Sorry slight off on a tangent!

You could try calling your DD Trumpy Bum, it works in this house (although we may have to stop using it once she understands) Grin

PatButchersEarring · 05/05/2013 10:49

OP- I hear ya!

I thoroughly encourage my DD (nearly 4) to have greater aspirations than 'Princess'. If she refers to herself as one, I have tendency to reel of a list of far superior fantasy roles which don't involve being a doormat or are centred around 'looking the part'.

Thoroughly vomit inducing term IMO.

YANBU

ChunkyChicken · 05/05/2013 11:05

Not sure if YABU or not, but I do hate that particular term of endearment.

However, I'm not 'above' anyone when my dc are pickle, snausage, snausage dog, monkey, sir puke-a-lot, snuggle bum etc etc etc.

CookieB · 11/05/2013 02:06

CheshireDing. Buy converse for daughter like I did. Everything looks gorgeous on a girl with simple white converse. My daughter is pinked up to the eyeballs and I dressed her in cute denims, trainers and tops until she could have a say. She never had these stupid oversized headbands ever. She is 5 now and loves nothing more than a frothy dress coupled with doc martens! She is a princess but she knows what she likes. She hates her hair being done apart from me French plaiting it everynight so it is curly. She is pretty much a punk with a penchant for leopard print. Let your kid be who you can afford her to be cos when I was I younger I didn't have a choice.

NotSoNervous · 11/05/2013 02:33

YABU just because someone calls their DD a princess doesn't mean they don't want something that wil make them happy when their older. It isn't your child that's even been called a little princess so your completely OTT.

I call my DD my little princess because that's what she is to me, I don't expect anyone else too

manicinsomniac · 11/05/2013 02:33

composhat - are you joking? St Andrews for the posh but thick?? It is a top university, on a par with Durham and Bristol. In fact it ranks 4th in the Guardian league table at the moment compared to Durham at 7 and Bristol at 18! And I went to Durham not St Andrews so I'm not biased. To say it isn't a top uni is crazy; along with Durham it's a favourite for Oxbridge rejects.

I don't care one way or the other about the princess thing.

AgnesBligg · 11/05/2013 02:44

Ugh, at princess. My DD is Mr Pinkerton and quite right.

She however, at 3, practices floaty dancing with her eyes closed whispering 'I am a Princess'.

The daft cow.

Bogeyface · 11/05/2013 02:44

I am 40 and my father still calls me "princess", because it is a term of endearment. I use it with my own DD's because it means that they are special to me, thats it.

I think you are reading far too much into it.

Bogeyface · 11/05/2013 02:45

Agnes and you think that calling her a "daft cow" in jest is less offensive than calling her a princess in love?

THat is horrible.

tvmum1976 · 11/05/2013 02:48

YADDNBU
The whole princess thing is truly vile.

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