Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

My daughter is not a Princess!

180 replies

DrSeuss · 02/05/2013 20:09

Another reference on FB to a friend's "Little Princess.". Am I the only one who prefers to avoid this word? My two year old is bright, funny, cuddly, sometimes stroppy. I hope she grows up to be something that makes her happy, no idea what yet, just something she finds fulfilling. Why would I give her such an inane title? The Duchess of Cambridge, who I actually really like, has a degree from a top university. She now has no right to express an opinion and will always be second to her husband. Not really what I hope for in my daughter's life!

OP posts:
louisianablue2000 · 02/05/2013 22:29

YANBU, I hate it. If anyone refers to the DDs as princesses i always tell the girls being a princess is crap because you always have to do what your father tells you. They are not impressed with that (poor DH!).

Binkybix · 02/05/2013 22:29

I don't like it personally, and also have an irrational hatred of little man, not sure why. Each to their own though, not really a big deal.

pointythings · 02/05/2013 22:29

My DDs are not princesses. They have been called many things in their time: Fiends, gargoyles, sausages, chops, creatures from the pit, monsters, demons and Evil McBad. Never princesses.

Strangely enough they seem to have thrived on all this.

ComposHat · 02/05/2013 22:36

A degree from a top University?

She went to St Andrews (where the posh but thickies who couldn't get in at Durham and Bristol rock up) and studied the History of Art.

She never reallty gives the impression that there is much activity going on between the ears.

But YYANBU calling little girls Princesses is teeth gridingly awful.

DoctorRobert · 02/05/2013 22:42

YANBU. My DD is also 2 and I could have written your post word for word.

I have a friend who talks about her DS on FB as her "little prince" - that makes me want to throw up as well.

ComposHat · 02/05/2013 22:44

I find the practice of calling gentleman babies as 'l'il man' as equally revolting.

Especially as it a euphamism for a penis - 'taking the l'il man out' could cause mass alarm!

NurseRatchet · 02/05/2013 22:45

Kate Middleton is not a princess. Any title that is ever bestowed on her will be by marriage anyway so she's not a great example. I'd be more impressed if she'd ever done anything with that degree of hers.

Athrawes · 02/05/2013 22:48

DS = Little Princeling (if other people are in hearing range and he is being a spoilt PFB, ironic) or Monster Munch

OhHullitsOnlyMeYoni · 02/05/2013 22:52

I hate the term Princess too. Why is it emblazoned on everything in pink?! Urgh. I tried to be quite gender neutral with colours for DD but have to admit that at 20mo her fave colour seems to be purple - 'pupple' which I can just about manage in small doses. I dread the age where they want to dress up as princesses though and intend to buy her a whole array of other outfits - mermaid/pirate/farmer/doctor etc that I have seen online. I was a tomboy though, so perhaps I have a hang up about pink from that.
I used to get annoyed when people would say "oh but she looks so girly and pretty in a dress, you should put her in them more" but have to admit that she does, as do all girls her age IMO, but I can damn well steer clear of the logos and gender biased piffle that seems to be rife.

borisjohnsonshair · 02/05/2013 22:54

Don't get me started! I detest the whole "Princess" thing, particularly those car signs with "Little Princess on Board" on them. FFS.

Athraweslike you, we call DS Little Prince when he starts to sound demanding, usually while bowing to him and apologising for the lack of velvet cushions.

scaevola · 02/05/2013 23:02

Kate Middleton is a princess. She's Princess Wlliam of Wales (same patterns s Princess Michael of Kent). I can see why they didn't go for that style, especially as HMQ seems to like giving titles as wedding resents.

ComposHat · 02/05/2013 23:02

"Little Princess on Board"

That's where Diana went wrong, if she had one of those stickers she'd still be with us today (giving Kate Middleton evils no doubt)

natwebb79 · 02/05/2013 23:03

It's the 'princess on board' stickers that make me want to vom. Grin

DonDrapersAltrEgoBigglesDraper · 02/05/2013 23:26

YANBU.

DD is 2 and sometimes refers to herself as a princess. I just ignore it, rather than make a big deal out of it - she'll grow out of it!

As at the risk of incurring total wrath, I'm inclined to agree that it's a class thing. Social class since calling daughters 'princess' is very Dirty Den. But also intellectual class. As soon as people whip out the 'you're over-thinking it' line, you just know.

Some people like to think.

sooperdooper · 02/05/2013 23:28

Agreeing the Princess on Board stickers, I just think 'huh, so what?' it's weird and makes no sense, why do people have them??

BeaWheesht · 02/05/2013 23:33

I hate the little princess on board stickers - I've seen little prince ones too though.

I don't call my dd princess because I'd feel like I was doing a dirty den impression - she is usually munchkin, baby boo or chatterbox Blush

Ds had a themed day at school today an every girl in his class was a princess which depressed me a wee bit, the boys were knights and kings. Dd is only 3 but would choose to be a knight just now I think and I hope she doesn't lose that independence really. She does like princess dresses too but prefers rough and tumble!

OhHullitsOnlyMeYoni · 02/05/2013 23:35

Bea I think my DD would have loved to be a Knight! She just found Mike The Knight on cbeebies and does a very interesting dance to the music and calls out "Night night!" whenever it comes on.

Laquitar · 02/05/2013 23:47

LOL and YY annunziata @ 20:56:56.

MummytoMog · 03/05/2013 00:03

I thought that. Then DD announced she was a princess, refused to wear any colour but pink and started singing Disney. I imagine she'll grow out of it though, and I don't mind indulging it for a bit. I don't find it as annoying as 'little man' tbh.

iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii · 03/05/2013 00:08

I really don't think it matters but I never used the term Princess myself.

Nicknames are not to be taken seriously.

I often abbreviated all my kids names then put Bob on the end. EG, Tom-Bob, Cal-Bob and Bell-Bob. Blush. I still do this and my eldest is at Uni.

I also often add 'esky' to the end of their names. Giving them a Russian sounding name , Tom'esky, Cal'esky and Belly'esky.

Other nick names I have used include;
Sweet Pea
Chicken Nugget
Sweetie Pie
Pumpkin

I am not sure any of these names are much better than Princess.Blush

Moknicker · 03/05/2013 00:08

I was beaming (not so secretly) when DD threw a tantrum because she DIDNT want to be a princess but wanted to be a frog (for a board game).

But - when she asked me to draw a willy on her bottom, I was Hmm - maybe I should encourage the princess malarkey.

Plus3 · 03/05/2013 00:09

Nor is mine. she is a ninja.

IloveJudgeJudy · 03/05/2013 00:11

Another "princess"-hating poster here, too. Really don't like it. DH called me it in a joke recently. I was quite surprised at the strength of my dislike for that word.

MammaTJ · 03/05/2013 00:13

My DD1s name means 'precious Gem' (bet you can guess that one), my DD2s name means princess, which she is proud of.

Oh well, they are special to me and that is one of my ways of showing them.

You don't have to do that if you don't want to though. I won't dictate to you even though the mother of a princess is usually a queen.

Thisvehicleisreversing · 03/05/2013 00:18

I agree that the 'Princess' car stickers and pink fluffy t-shirts etc are very boak-worthy.
However what anyone chooses to call their DC's as a term of endearment is their business.
My DH calls me princess, I'm not a girly girl, I don't wear pink, I'm not trying to be royalty, it's just a nick-name.

I called my DS's 'soldier' when they were little, I never intended for them to become soldiers when they are older and they've never played war related games. It's just a nick-name.

And saying that calling your DD princess is 'common'? Puh lease!