AIBU - No sweets or squash

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AIBU to not serve squash or give out sweets at a children's party?

Just wondering what parents would think of going to a children's party where there was only water to drink and just birthday cake to take home. For us that would be normal and I wouldn't think anything of it but just wondering if parents would be surprised at not seeing squash or sweets?

omg hope you havent organised the party from hell with out me , kids were whining they were hungry so had to chuck some rice cakes and celery at them juliascurr dont phwoar at my husband thank you , he only looks like that after parties serving bread sticks,think ive helped enough here im going to save the corpulent one jewcy

How about a piñata filled with vitamins?

Only on mumsnet.

It's a fucking party not the place to impress other parents with a right on healthy spread.

Squash, some sweets, sandwiches and cake.

What's the big deal.

One of the things that children learn from having parties is how to be a good host. Only offering water to your guests is not being a good host. I only drink water and tea but when people come over I offer them things that they like, even when it's a pop in. I can't imagine having a party and saying 'it's water and tea only because that's what I like'. I don't think I would notice no sweets. I would notice no sweet food.

Sorry if it's been said - skim reading because its 231 messages about squash.

at my dd party last year we had natural rain water,pumpkin seeds,nuts,cous cous,hand knitted cardigans knitted by granny wrapped in brown paper and string to give as a thank you, a private piano tutor,ballerina coach, but funnily enough this year she had no fucking friends to invite.

I wouldn't say anything, but i'd quietly judge you for being a boring old fart (sorry, that just genuinely my first reaction).
It's a party.
We don't eat cake and sweets every day, but would provide them at a party because it's not supposed to be 'normal', it's supposed to be special and a treat.
But then i recently posted on here about wether to provide small bottles of coke (as well as water and fruit juice) at DS's 7th birthday. I did and the kids thought it was awesome . And guess what, nobody died.

Fucking hell, Like it, I'm leaking perfectly natural to imbibe urine!

OP, do you ask your children for a stool sample after they've attended other children's parties? It might be an idea..

jewcy dont leak it , bottle it for your dc party :)

I have never ever served squash or sweets! Always do little cartons of apple or orange juice. And for dessert cake and biscuits. Maybe crisps or chocolate but even then not always. Yanbu.

So, foreveronadiet, your kids are forever on a diet, too? Nice.

If it were a party for adults, would you only offer water? I very much doubt it. At a party, it is hospitable and polite to offer a variety of drinks. If you don't want to serve squash, then don't. But some other options would be appropriate, IMO. As others have suggested, juice or juice mixed with fizzy water would be nice. Or chocolate milk? Smoothies with fruit and yogurt? A party is the time and place for treats.

I would be eternally grateful as we are also one of those parents (what ever the dickens that means?), we avoid highly processed foods and exclusively offer a healthy diet through the formative years.

We were at a party recently where the only thing my child could eat on a table laden with food was grapes!?

I would like to take an opportunity to ask those who say their child won't drink water, do you feel if you hadn't introduced other drinks (juice/flavoured milks etc) that your child would have this issue?

We don't eat processed meat or drink chemically sweetened drinks. So I would never serve either.

I normally serve juice or water, I have never had complaints. I don't really understand the 'doesn't drink water thing' unless you had severe food issues how can you not drink water?

I have on occasion offered milk if I was making tea with cake to the adults.

I do put a lollipop in the party bag though .

Do children's parties always feature sweets these days? Is this an English thing? (I hail from the colonies.) Our parties never involved sweets or squash (we don't really have it where I come from). Standard fare would be pizza or hot dogs, veg sticks, crisps, juice or pop, and cake and ice cream. That was always more than enough treaty food!

OP, a BBQ with juice and a kick ass cake sounds fabulous.

God Jewcy You're my HERO.

expect a few of these from their friends if there are no treats www.smellyourmum.com/images/realcuntcardbday.jpg ok i might of gone a little too far now :)

There are a lot of nasty posts on this thread. There is a difference between a bit of teasing and just being downright unpleasant.

If you are a good host you should have options. I wouldn't want to go to an adult party where it had been decided that I should drink water. Parties are special days where you have special food and drink-things you wouldn't normally have.

I remember a MN thread where a 2 year old party was rice cakes, water and dried apricots. The adults got nothing-hardly surprising because you couldn't serve it to them -and anything else would be seen as better by the DCs.

Yes but some parties are organised to show how perfect the hosts are and not how comfortable and happy are the guests.

I think a BBQ sounds fab OP and DS would be happy to drink water. Ignore the haters on here and serve what you want.