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AIBU?

to be upset at DH's inflexiblity over holiday cost?

39 replies

Bellaboobah · 26/04/2013 19:42

We are looking for a holiday home for ourselves and another family for one week in August. The budget was set at £X.
I have found a home which is more than we could ever hope for at £XplusY.
DH says no, despite seeing the attraction and how perfect the house is, because of the plusY element.
plusY is approx 2 hours pay for him.
The other homes that we have found so far are no where near as special as this one.
AIBU to be pissed off at his inflexiblity?

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Roseformeplease · 26/04/2013 19:45

TBH, if you can still find somewhere to book (both our holiday homes have been booked for August since January) then you need to snap it up. Why not present him with a list of options and show him why your choice is best?

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Doobiedoobedoobie · 26/04/2013 19:45

For the sae of 2 hours work I'd say, yes, he's BU. Though he must earn a lot more than me as 2 hours pay for be £25 ish and I can't imagine anyone arguing over anything near that, surely Confused

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dreamingofsun · 26/04/2013 19:45

depends how tight money is for you. can you not pay the extra? tell him that its the only suitable one you can find, and if he won't agree to pay the extra he can sort it. that usually does the trick in our house.

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HappyMummyOfOne · 26/04/2013 19:48

Can you not fund the difference? In terms of money, how significant is the difference in cost?

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Bellaboobah · 26/04/2013 19:51

Sorry, it's 4 hours pa. Blush
No money isn't tight - and yes, I could fund it, he's just very black and white, that was the fucking budget and we're sticking to it.Angry
It just seem so semantic.

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Bellaboobah · 26/04/2013 19:52

Sorry pendantic.

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LindyHemming · 26/04/2013 19:53

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dreamingofsun · 26/04/2013 19:54

tell him you cannot afford that area/time of year/type of accommodation and you will have to do xyz instead (obviously picking something he's not keen on). Show him the long list of places you have looked at. bore him with lots of detail. men have attention of natts, he will soon give up.

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Pozzled · 26/04/2013 19:55

He's being an idiot, go ahead and book it.

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overprotection · 26/04/2013 19:55

Where he's gone wrong is in telling you his actual budget, instead of telling you a lower figure given that you would inevitably eye up something just over the figure you're given and beg for it. Then he could "give in" and everyones a winner Wink

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catgirl1976 · 26/04/2013 19:57

Just book it and tell him to get a grip

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Pozzled · 26/04/2013 19:57

Just thought, will the other family have to pay the extra as well? Are their finances tight? Maybe he's worried about asking them for more than the agreed amount.

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Bellaboobah · 26/04/2013 19:58

We're treating the other family Pozzled.
Smile

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mynewpassion · 26/04/2013 19:59

Stick to the budget. There will be other costs when you get there. What does the other famoly say?

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Pozzled · 26/04/2013 20:02

In that case, I stand by my first post- just book it.

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Bellaboobah · 26/04/2013 20:19

Other family is content, mynewpassion.

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WhereYouLeftIt · 26/04/2013 20:36

Well, if he has vetoed the one that you have found that you think is worth going to, then it is his turn to look.

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Bellaboobah · 26/04/2013 22:46

Yeah, I guess that's the way to do it. His inflexibilty is just making me growl.

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Alibabaandthe40nappies · 26/04/2013 22:55

Just book it.

What proportion of X is Y?

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Bellaboobah · 26/04/2013 22:57

About an eihgth.
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JumpingJackSprat · 26/04/2013 23:03

Book it and pay the difference yourself. its really not that big a deal.

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Alibabaandthe40nappies · 26/04/2013 23:04

An eighth is not that big a deal if you are in a position to treat another family and for them to accept it with equanimity.

Just book it.

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racmun · 26/04/2013 23:08

OMG how annoying.

Let him bloody well sort it out (if you can) and when it's shit you can just tell him it's because he was being a tight arse.

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sooperdooper · 27/04/2013 08:10

If it was me,I'd just book it and pay the difference, and then just tell DH where I'd booked, it's not a big a deal tbh

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Snog · 27/04/2013 08:15

All the caginess about actual amounts involved here is ridiculous. Is it really necessary?
2 hours pay equivalent, one eighth of X
Fgs why are you speaking in code, why not state the figures?

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