to be upset at DH's inflexiblity over holiday cost?

[Bellaboobah]

We are looking for a holiday home for ourselves and another family for one week in August. The budget was set at £X.
I have found a home which is more than we could ever hope for at £XplusY.
DH says no, despite seeing the attraction and how perfect the house is, because of the plusY element.
plusY is approx 2 hours pay for him.
The other homes that we have found so far are no where near as special as this one.
AIBU to be pissed off at his inflexiblity?

well if holiday is £800 an eighth is £100 so that is quite a bit extra, i think if budget was £800 and you found something at £825 well Ok,YANBU but I think £900 is way over that budget so your DH not really being that U

Yes actual figures please. Don't worry, I won't shout at you for being over privileged, and just ignore anyone who does.

I detect caginess here too.
We really need to know amounts to get an idea of what you're talking about
I also wonder whether your dh is not totally happy with funding the other family's holiday, as he's clearly being very firm about this extra addition to the budget.
I don't really understand the relevance of how many hours of dh's work the 'y' amount equates to, if you are looking to pay yourself anyway

If he's this pedantic and inflexible, I'd venture to suggest that the holiday is probably the least of your worries.

How much extra is it EXACTLY?

Can we start a sweepstake? I think budget is 2k which is why op is being cagey. I won't judge you for having a nice holiday :)

If its for a week for 2 families and it's perfect then I reckon £3k

So about £300 over budget..l

Dh earns £75ph

I am surmising from the fact that the OP even thought to include how much the extra money is in terms of hourly earning for DH, that he is in a fairly high powered high paid role and is probably the major breadwinner who is funding this holiday for their own family plus one other family

If this isn't the case it seems a strange thing to mention, or you would at least expect the op to tell us how much of her own income it equates to. I have a hunch that the DH is not entirely happy with the holiday plans at all, and this is maybe his way to exert a bit of control? I don't understand why the other family aren't contributing either. All a bit Odd. And I agree with the comment that this is perhaps the least of their problems if they cannot agree on a holiday budget

I imagine it would be in the £3ks; we're renting a cottage in N Devon in August, sleeps ten, hot tub, £1660 for the week.

DH earns £45 ph or thereabouts

I've worked for bosses like this (am a PA). Have wasted hours going backwards and forwards researching prices of flights and hotels only to end up paying more because the price has gone up (as availability has gone down).

I only work with business travel agents now and put things on hold straight away. Only make a point of telling them how much things are now if I consider them to be uber expensive.

I would tell him to find somewhere as you've reached a dead end. He might be able to appreciate how difficult it is to find right thing within budget then.

Yanbu. I would book it and tell him if he wants it bang on budget, he can find somewhere next year and do all the hard work!

Snog Sat 27-Apr-13 08:15:30

"All the caginess about actual amounts involved here is ridiculous. Is it really necessary?
2 hours pay equivalent, one eighth of X
Fgs why are you speaking in code, why not state the figures?"

Ime on MN, you get chewed out for what may be perceived as stealth boasting, that's why.

So did you book it OP?

1. Ring and see if they will knock some cash off for full payment upfront bringing it down into budget.
2. Book it anyway if you really like it.
3. I reckon budget is £3k+