Was I unreasonable not to tip hairdresser but ask him back and stop straightening me?

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I had a mobile hairdresser to my house.

I have thick wavy hair and asked for it to be thinned out (as well as tidied up) so my waves were more defined.

Him 'your parting seems to be on the right hand side'
Me 'no it falls in the middle, I dont want one of those long side fringes, they don't suit me'

Ended up with a stupid side fringe blow dried straight...arrragh....why does every hairdresser in the world want to straighten my hair.

It's wavy, I like it wavy, I don't suit straight hair. I didn't tip but didn't tell him why and I feel a bit mean now as I will probably use him again because it doesn't look at all bad when rewashed and styled to my preference.

Was it mean not to tip? Will it put him off me trying to book him again?

I wouldn't tip a mobile hairdresser (mind you yours was cheap- around here £25 is considered cheap)

I the hairdressers I would give it directly to the shampoo'er not the actual stylist.

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I wouldn't worry about the tip - I see that as something to do in a shop (where the overheads are vast) not for a one-man business who sets their own prices.

Also I feel your pain! I've only ever come across one hairdresser who understood the word "wavy" (Luke in Mahogany in Oxford, I hope you have your own flourishing chain by now). It's weird, how can they not understand? Adverts, TV etc are actually full of women with big, glossy, wavy hair.

Sometimes I try "sort of curly" instead, and they look relieved and say "Oh, you mean with a diffuser?" Er, no, because that will make me look like a poodle, won't it.

Actually If I had a mobile hairdresser at £15 I'd probably take the opportunity to tell them not to bother styling it. I only don't do that in salons because it feels like such a rip-off to part with most of fifty quid and walk out into the street with damp hair.

As a hairdresser myself (although I don't work as one any longer) I find it bizarre that a hairdresser wouldn't ask you what you wanted, including how you wanted it styled, before they did it.

If you aren't happy I don't see anything wrong in not tipping. I do think it would have been worth letting him know what you weren't happy about though so he listens next time (to you or any other clients!). Having said that, years ago I had the most awful haircut and told the stylist how fab it was, and I tipped her. What a mug!

I just say outright to my stylist that I don't want my hair straightened. I like to have big hair when it's blow dried as I can never get it like that myself. As the owner of a large barnet of fine hair, straighteners leave me with flat hair and a face that looks like a football. Big hair = smaller-looking face in my eyes anyway

My hairdresser never straightens my hair thank god! All the previous ones have, one told me that she was taught to cut straight hair so it needed to be straight before it was cut.

I wouldn't have tipped if they didn't do what I had asked

My hairdresser comes to the house and I never tip her, don't tip the girl who does my nails either. All the money is there's so why tip?

Theirs not there.

midori IME they do ask. They just don't understand the answer. So they kind of end up doing it how they want, which is a straight blow-dry. It honestly ages me about ten years, I'm looking in the mirror as it's being done and thinking, "Are you BLIND?"

Madbuslady, I get what you're saying, but surely it's very difficult to get 'I want it to look wavy' and ' I want you to use straighteners on it' or 'I want it blow dried straight' mixed up?

Why did you let him use the straighteners, OP? I have a similar issue with styling foam - I hate the way it makes my hair feel, and don't like the way it makes my hair look either - so I just say 'No foam, thanks' in a polite tone. Same thing if they aren't cutting my fringe the way I want it - though if you aren't sitting in front of a mirror, it may be harder to know what is going on.

Where do you live? If it's anywhere within reach of Teesside, I have just the woman for you! £25 a go, cuts my very thick, wavy hair, follows directions perfectly.

I don't tip - particualrly not people who work for themselves and set their own prices. That said, I'm not sure why you would want to use a hairdresser who doesn't listen to what you ask them to do....presuming you did say "No thanks, I don't want it straightened" when he got the straighteners out ?

ime there are some hairdressers who have learnt only a limited range of haircuts and you get what they can do rather than what you ask for. That's why the good ones charge so much.
I thought the era of the hair straightener had gone though I wasn't even offered th last time to.my relief!

They don't seem to know how to do wavy midori. They ask for clarification, "So shall I blow-dry it straight and then flick it at the ends? You mean curly with a diffuser?" And I have no idea, I just want it to look wavy - exactly like it is, but better/shinier/bouncier. I don't know how to make the conversation go any differently.

TBF no-one's ever used straighteners on me, they just do it straight with a hairdryer.

I've taken in pictures of 1940s Hollywood hairstyles in the past too, but that just confuses the hell out of them!

Why would you tip him? He's told you the price for the job he's doing and you want to give him more? AND you weren't happy with him. Bonkers.

I never understood about tipping hairdressers or anyone else. My old Mum tipped her hairdresser every week, and he had holidays in Florida and she went to Clacton

I have the straightest hair in the universe, but they still insist on straightening it. It's insane. One hairdresser quoted me £45 for a cut, blowdry and style, then got the straighteners out. I went to pay and it was nearly £65! When asked, the receptionist told me that straightening it costs an extra £20!! I went MENTAL.

I've tried getting hairdressers to give me a nice, wavy style, but the last time i tried I ended up looking like Orphan Annie. I do it myself now!!

OP, YANBU.

I always tip, due to extreme anxiety about not tipping. I even tipped a hairdresser who, in addition to giving my 5 yr old ds the geekiest haircut known to man, cut his neck with the scissors and it bled profusely.

I am a twit and YANBU.

i hate what hairdressers do with my naturally wavy hair. i get it coloured because i can't do that well myself. but otherwise barely ever get it cut and then style it myself with a Nicky Clarke hot brush. it is BRILLIANT. does what i want it to do and cost about £25. i always look better having done it myself.

"I did the MN haircut the last two times..."

Sorry, the WHATNOW??????? We have a HAIRCUT?

I'm blighted by hairdressers curling me lol! I come out looking like bloody Goldilocks...

yes there is an MN haircut but if your wavy and do it ....when a hairdresser insists on straitening your wavy locks it looks like gnomes have been knawing at your locks

Wavy haired hairdressers seem to be far and few between