AIBU or is this incredibly MANKY.

[GruffaloAteMySocks]

So I'm browsing in a clothes shop, DD spits her dummy out and it falls onto the floor and before I can grab it some random old woman picks it up, WIPES IT ON HER JACKET and goes, 'Here you go, lovely!' and sticks it straight back into her mouth!

Did she think wiping it on her manky stained fleecy cat-hair covered jacket was going to magically clean the germs off of it?

PFB or majorly BOAK?

Yeah, in the future I need to be a bit quicker and, 'I'll take that thanks!' lol.

YANBU. That's really grim.

I think so Gerrof I know some who used it because they were quitting smoking.

MansView that's cool. Yeah, I don't mind her being exposed to germs when she's older. Perhaps I should have mentioned she's only 11 weeks lol.

maybe - but I just think the OP is overreacting a little bit...as a one off it won't do any harm !

ok, no worries :)

YABVU to give your tiny baby a dummy. That is well manky.

Always amazes me how all these 'random old women' are constantly harassing new mothers, making horrid remarks about their parenting skills and sticking their dirty fingers and other objects into the mouths of their innocent infants! I have never seen or experienced such a phenomenon, but these anecdotes crop up with such depressing regularity on MN I must have lived in a cave all these years!

Just wonder when the turning point is - have frequently seen 50 described as 'old' on these boards so will I wake up on my 55th birthday and be seized with an overwhelming desire to harangue strange mum in shops and manhandle their offspring? Or will it be aged 60? 65? 70?

Oh gosh 11 weeks not months, I really should read it better!

I remember the trend for dummies, never had one though, I thought they looked stupid lol

Lol @ 11weeks going in 12.

As though 11 weeks might lead somewhere else, like 14 months.

Of course it was an old woman.

LapsedPacifist You're right, next time I have a baby who's suffering from colic and refusing to settle unless they have a dummy, I'll make sure I don't give them one so judgy muppets on the internet are happy.

At least she didn't suck it then put in Dds mouth

Dummies saved my sanity, I don't understand the problem with them at all. The one child in our family that chose his thumb over a dummy, carried on sucking it for 7 years... the dummy users stopped before they were a year old.

OP, I would have been horrified, but too polite to say anything!

At least she didn't suck it then put in Dds mouth

This reminds me of a similar discussion at work when a woman told us she had rescued her niece's dummy from the pavement, sucked it clean then handed it back. Someone said they thought that was disgusting. Spectacularly missing the point the woman then said "I don't see why. It was only sharing saliva with my niece. Everyone else goes round snogging people they don't even know."

I just did a weird "nyeeh" laugh at hamburger.

OP deffo not being unreasonable.

I'd say it was manky, and I'm far from precious. You just don't know how long that fleece has had between washes. Ew.

She only uses it when we go out in the pram or I'm putting her down at night since her colic has been improving. I get why people have issues with it, especially as babies get older and I don't intend to let her keep it once she starts to teeth and become increasingly verbal. I just don't appreciate people making rude comments about it when they don't know why she has it.

Gruffalo don't feel you should explain why you give your DD a dummy. You really don't need to.

Thanks ABF, I had some shitty comments from my family about it so I'm probably being a bit sensitive.

Nice Harry Potter reference by the way.

You revolting person, following the SIDS research findings. What a terrible mother.

At least she didn't suck it then put in Dds mouth

I do this with DS's dummy, so does DP am I mingin'?

Groooossss

Thank you.

And yes if you have anymore comments just inform them it's recommended for infants to have a dummy.

Thanks MTP and ABF

ballinacup I won't call you mingin'!