AIBU to ask the children next door to stop staring over the fence?

[kay1975]

We've lived here 7 years and have never had a good relationship with the neighbours on one side! We have 2 boys, 6 and 7, they have 3 girls 1, 5 and 8.

They spent the whole of last summer perched on top of their climbing frame watching our boys, chatting ect. But my problem is that they can see right into our living room and kitchen from the climbing frame! It's started up again now!

My boys are showing off like monkeys for them playing football and they are up there cheering them on and staring into our living room!

My husband when he gets home from work wants to tell them "stop staring at us, this my private time with my children!" because he'll be out there footie training with them, but I thats is a bit harsh. But I can't stand it, it's such an invasion of privacy.

What should I do? Say something, at the risk of our already bad relationship getting worse? There is already an 8ft fence out the garden, but I'm thinking about getting trellis to put on the top of the fence, but it's their fence so can I do that?!!

Arghhh....help?

You could approach the neighbours about adding a trellis. If it's their fence you'll have to agree it with them. You could say you've seen a climber you'd like to grow and it will need a trellis.

we had this too. your garden is your private property. if it was an adult staring then that would be creepy, but why is it ok for kids then> i cant stand it.

with you on thos op .the poster who suggested your kids would be bored in a place in the middle of nowhere?

most of us would love that opportunity to live in a detatched cottage in the middle of a field. but we cant so want to treasure the space we have.

if it was an adult staring then that would be creepy, but why is it ok for kids then> i cant stand it.

If it were adults sitting on top of a kid's climbing frame staring into the OP's un-curtained windows, that would be completely different...and just plain weird.

You can't compare the too, though it does sound funny when you try.

Worra what an image you have created for me there....

Sorry op, don't know what to suggest, except after their comments about being friends and falling out I am surprised they let them sit and stare.....

you may end up as in laws with each other

we had this, couldnt stand it, we moved.

not just becasue of this but it didnt help matters!

Please don't say anything. It all sounds totally silly and you will look cranky and mad to start telling three children "not to watch the training" and to "stop staring".

Seriously.

What do you care anyway? They are just hanging out in their back garden. Give 'em a wave and go back to watching telly or having mad sex

We had this with our next door no amount of not using the garden or asking them not to stare would stop it!! So we added 3 ft bamboo fencing to their fence!! Although this was after a huge argument and her parenting seems to have improved somewhat with her children now anyway after threatening to rip my f'ing tongue out...

My garden can now be used and enjoyed without her careless brood watching over Infact the other side of her are planning to do the same..

So no asking wont work, put something to block the view up worked great here!