AIBU to inform the school?
Gossipmonster · 17/04/2013 18:24
DD is in yr 9 at high school. She is honest and down to earth and doesn't make up stories.
She came home today and told me that a girl in her yr (who is often in trouble and comes from quite a "well known" family in the area) went into French today (which was 1st lesson ) and was pissed out of her head. She had a bottle of "water" which she had nearly finished drinking which was actually neat vodka.
DD said the whole classroom stank of booze and the girl was behaving in a drunken/loud manner.
The teacher didn't appear to notice and also had a heavy cold so could not smell it.
If I do anything I will ask for it not to be known it was DDs mum that told them - but should I tell the school? Mainly out of concern for the girl but also from the aspect of safety for all the other kids - anything could've happened and the girl herself could've killed herself with alcohol poisoning.
Or will it just cause a whole load of shit for her at home/school where she is clearly struggling anyway?
YoureAllABunchOfBastards · 17/04/2013 18:30
Also worth considering that your DDs version may be a little bit exaggerated - she says the teacher didn't do anything in that lesson, but what happened for the rest of the day if this girl really was rolling drunk?
It was always Martini Rosso in my day...
wannabedomesticgoddess · 17/04/2013 18:33
Really worth mentioning. One of my friends at school brought whiskey and a knife to school. It was a cry for help but at the time we just thought she was trying to get in with the popular girls so said nothing.
Her life is a very upsetting tale tbh. I doubt us saying something would have changed much, but then we dont know, it might have.
Quilty · 17/04/2013 18:43
I think you need to inform the school and I agree with asking to be anonymous for your daughters sake.
Very surprised that if her behaviour was as your daughter described that the teacher didn't do anything, having a cold isn't an excuse for ignoring disruptive behaviour. The girl is clearly desperate for attention and it makes you wonder what's going on at home.
chaime · 17/04/2013 18:56
When I was at school in the 90s (and it was a top independent school, underage drug and alcohol abuse happens everywhere) I regularly saw some of the more daring girls bring in alcohol in their water bottles and swig at them not-so-surreptitiously during lessons. A couple of girls in particular would come in roaring drunk, especially on Fridays...
My mum did nothing except to call them pathetic to me I think she knew I was disgusted as well.
However if this happened at my DD's school I would definitely tell the teacher and ask for it to be kept anonymous. I like to get a bit more involved than my mum...definitely not as laid-back.
TigOldBitties · 17/04/2013 19:09
I used to do this with my friends all the time in the later years of school and at 6th form. A favourite combo was vodka and tizer.
We weren't 'rich' kids, we were at the supposedly worst comp in a deprived London borough.
We did it because we couldn't really afford drugs, but could easily nick alcohol, or get the guy at the docks to sell it to us at a very cheap price for "kissing" (I'm equally horrified by this looking back).
I probably wouldn't tell the teacher i would just tell my DC to steer well clear and remind them how unimpressed I would be if they did this.
karatekimmi · 17/04/2013 20:25
As a teacher I've had this happen in my classroom and I wasn't aware. The lad sat at the back and didn't cause any trouble for the lesson, I was busy helping kids with revision questions. I even signed his report at the end of the lesson and he was found 10 minutes later face down on the field :-( not my finest teaching moment! I would definitely let the school know.
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