To not want to DTD

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Am I the only female out there that really doesn't want to DTD while AF is around. DH doesn't understand the feelings of being torn in the middle with cramps and backache, along with all the usual effects of a period (typical man I know!) but just wondering how many women are with me on this one or am I just plain boring?

If I don't fancy it, I don't fancy it, whatever the reason, DH doesn't push his luck.

DH isn't squeamish about sex while I am on my period, he'd jump at it if the opportunity was presented to him, apart from the first couple of days when it's quite heavy, but I really don't like the idea, too messy and generally just want to be left alone

YANBU.

I can't do it. The pain. The mess. No thanks. My H doesn't either.

There's nothing wrong with your partner not understanding why you feel the way you do. But he shouldn't be putting pressure on you in any way or making you feel bad about it.

Back in the days when dh and I shagged like bunnies he persuaded me to have sex on my period. Did he ever regret that! It was like a scene from a horror movie! I had warned him that i had a heavy flow but he didnt listen. Now he wont come near me when its that time of the month.

Ashoething hahahahaha yep been there too! Looked like we had killed something ha. I must admit he pushes his luck but just because he finds it funny to wind me up. When I'm hormonal and emotional......not a good time!!!! He still hasn't learnt! Defo too sore and feeling sorry for myself the first few days, no way do I feel sexy when I'm ready to cry at anything, bloated, bingeing on chocolate and feeling a fatty for it all wrapped up with bleeding out of somewhere i wish would heal up for a week!

I would ask ALL of you to not start bonking when I am around please

And you who said you have dtd with me....I have never met you in my life !

I'm confused...?

I use a jam sponge to avoid mess when having sex on my period, and I have a very heavy flow but I only put it in just before. I agree your DH should be understanding and absolutely not pressure you, but then I can also understand being frustrated at it being off limits entirely for several days every month. Before I found out about the JS, I would still have PIV sex as I just couldn't go for that long without any sex at all.

AF! Not keen on the dogging then?

AF=Aunt Flow or Any Fucker

AnyFucker

Sorry, meant non-PIV (penis in vagina) - oral, hand job, etc. Doesn't get messy at all if you have a tampon/mooncup.

kotinka it's not uncomfy at all! Looks huge when it arrives in the post, but squashes down tiny, you wet it under the tap then squeeze the water out.

I find a Swiss Roll, placed up the flue sideways, works better than a Jam Sponge

Again phahaha!!

Not a Spotted Dick though ay?

No, messy and uncomfortable. Years ago when we only saw each other at weekends we did, but we've been married far too long not to wait a few days.

heh

Dh doesn't car one way or the other what time of the month it is but he would have no interest if I wasn't interested.

care

I was thinking Particle image velocimetry - surprised I even managed to get pregnant with that kind of logic...

Yanbu, I wouldn't have sex during my period.

I can't go it either, feels so swollen and uncomfortable in there. I don't enjoy it at all and my DH would never want me to DTD if I didn't want to or didn't enjoy it.

You should't feel pressurised to have sex at any time regardless of whether you have your period

I don't mind when my flow is light. But not when I am bleeding like a murder scene.

I never had PIV with AF, except one time and it was without my knowledge. I realised when I went to the loo to change the tampon as I was flooding and it had disappeared!!
Got rid of that bf with disgust.

digerd