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To be worried about DD having her MMR

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snowyskies · 16/04/2013 10:12

Donning flame-proof suit here but I think a good talking to might be just what I need!!

Eldest DD had MMR at 18 months. Afterwards she had 2 years of illness. Nothing major, ear infections, throat infections, pneumonia, kidney infections unexplained fevers. We went for lots of tests and nothing was found. While I'm not blaming the MMR I did have one dr tell me it was possibly because of it.

Second DD had a single measles jab at age 2. I discussed it with the drs and expressed my concerns about the effects the MMR had on eldest DD. they understood. She had a very bad reaction to the jab. Covered in spots, even on her eyelids. Raging temperature for a week and she screamed continually that whole time. The doctor said it was very unusual to react like that.

Third DD is now 5 and has not had MMR or measles jab. It's something I have researched at huge length. I have regularly discussed it with the drs and whilst they don't support me they understand my concerns but I need to do something about it. I am worried she could get measles so have booked her in for her MMR this week. The doctors have said she could well have a bad reaction.

AIBU to worry?

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snowyskies · 17/04/2013 21:25

I was told 90% by a friend who is a nurse. Is that not correct then?

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bubbles1231 · 18/04/2013 22:07

Thanks mrs
snowy looks like we were both right but in different ways Smile

Pixel · 19/04/2013 00:01

or hs he/she just agreeing with your theory to maintain the doctor patient relationship?

Hmm Hope they don't teach that in med school. Seems a bit two-faced.

sashh · 19/04/2013 03:12

Can someone explain to me why anyone would give their child single vaccines if they were worried about MMR?

Vaccines are a form of technology, they are improved and refined all the time.

But since MMR came out, the singles have not been refined at all.

technodad · 19/04/2013 11:23

m.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-wales-22215185

narmada · 19/04/2013 12:36

Read that story technodad. Poor chap.

Have just booked DS (2.5) in to get his MMR booster early.

countrykitten · 19/04/2013 14:05

www.thedailymash.co.uk/news/society/crap-parent-incredibly-worried-about-mmr-jab-2013041765881

This made me laugh! Can't do links though so hope it works....

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snowyskies · 19/04/2013 17:26

Oh yes how very amusing. Nothing like making another parent feel rubbish.

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countrykitten · 19/04/2013 17:32

Thanks belfastbigmillie! Appreciated.

snowyskies I am sorry that you have had a sense of humour bypass.

JenaiMorris · 19/04/2013 17:46

Talkin's comment about her childs reaction to the jab seems logical - could someone with some actual medical knowledge (ie, not me!) confirm?

Talkinpeace · 19/04/2013 18:04

Jenai
Not just MMR - all viruses.

The round of chicken pox that he caught was minor in all the other kids at the time (including his sister)
he was sick as a dog and got secondary infections in his spots
he got flu when he was little and was laid flat for a week

I'd love to travel to the tropics, but until he's hulkingly huge enough to cope with the vaccines, let alone the diseases, I hesitate.

Bacterial and fungal infections on the other hand (dirt eating monster when small) he just shrugs off.

The point is that if your child reacted to their immunisations, that is their body mounting its feeble response to the attenuated virus.
THE WHOLE THING would have seriously harmed them

jumperooo · 19/04/2013 18:11

Yanbu to be concerned of the reaction, but yes I agree you should get her vaccinated.

Out of interest, why doesn't your DH get involved with decisions regarding his children's health?

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snowyskies · 19/04/2013 18:20

jumperoo - because he sees the DC as my job. Which on a day to day basis they are. And on matters like this he defers to my judgement as I'm usually the one who has spent hours researching it whereas he would be led by whatever story the Daily Mail had.

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technodad · 19/04/2013 18:37

Why are you researching. Don't you pay taxes for professional medical experts to research?

When you get on an aircraft, do you do a structural assessment of the wing fatigue against CS-25 EASA certification requirements? I didn't think so!

technodad · 19/04/2013 18:43

I suppose it is because there aren't many hippy idiots on the internet who think aircraft fly because the have a memory of flying from the air molecules!

People wouldn't dream of getting advice on how to make an aircraft safe from random strangers on the Internet, but they are happy to use it to make medical judgements. I don't know why?!

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snowyskies · 19/04/2013 18:45

No but when I book a holiday I don't necessarily take the one that the travel agent suggests to me. I research and make sure I am happy with that decision, that I make it having thought about it. That way I can't moan that I just did what somebody told me to, or went where everyone else went.

Some people function like that. When I've had surgery I've researched the best surgeon for the procedure, when I've bought a house I research the area. Some people do as they are told or asked, I use my brain to make a decision that I'm comfortable with.

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snowyskies · 19/04/2013 18:48

And actually when I get on a plane I do research what type it is and the company's safety record. Oh and the best place to sit in case of turbulence etc.

Why on earth do you presume I just get knowledge from the Internet?

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technodad · 19/04/2013 18:55

Which is the same as picking the best doctors surgery in your local area and making sure you get the best doctor.

Questioning specialist advice on MMR is the equivalent to researching the aircraft certification basis. You are just not qualified to do so, and you don't have all the relevant data to hand.

technodad · 19/04/2013 18:57

Where do you get your "research" data from then?

technodad · 19/04/2013 18:59

By the way, I read that there were 4 deaths in Ireland from something like 600 Measles cases last year.

How many deaths have there been attributed to the millions of vaccinations country wide?

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snowyskies · 19/04/2013 18:59

No I probably don't have all the relevant data to hand but I am a specialist on my children and as such I will try and do what is best for them.

I understand perfectly your position on this and I'm glad you are comfortable with the decisions you have made. I hope next week I will feel the same.

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technodad · 19/04/2013 19:00

Out of interest, where is the best place to sit in case of turbulence?

technodad · 19/04/2013 19:01

P.S. I never questioned your commitment to your children.

You said you don't get your data from the Internet. Where do you get it from?

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