To be annoyed with boss

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Am a nanny who works term time only

First day back today - walk into work to find the kitchen stacked with about 4 piles of bowls and plates etc etc - couldn't even make my charges packed lunch as no space

Mum boss tells me I need to stay in all day to tidy kitchen and do the washing - I expected 1/2 loads but no she's left me all the last 2 weeks washing and is expecting at least half done today including dried and put away

Aibu to be annoyed

savewater are you new to nannying?
I remember during my early years (I'm 11 years in) that I did way more that what was fair but I never really spoke up about it meaning my employers didn't acknowledge they were taking advantage.
Now a days I'm better at communicating with bosses, personally I found the best solution was to start as you mean to go on.

yep he couldnt believe it. I just said that his dc is nearly 6 and that they really shouls be able to play for 2 hours after school with their friends and be able to enjoy their own friendships without younger sibling. mum agreed so looks like we will be able to accept playdates

Started in Sept so yes new but I'll tell them what I think, have text mum boss saying that
'A had to have school dinner today as no space to make packed lunch and I had no time to clear up all you left by the time we had to leave. Also there's only enough washing powder for 2 washes so won't all be done'

5alive great news for the dc, freedom at last!

Hope you practise your "You must be joking" face for when she comes home and comments on any washing or dirty crocks still piled up.

Save be prepared for the text from her asking you to nip to the supermarket to pick up new washing powder and she'll reimburse you later.

Agree with littlebairn plus I wondered has your boss recently got a promotion/more money or is working for one? It seems odd to be that remiss unless something else going on. I'd raise all the recent ways you are doing more and ask for an expanded role/salary. If she says no, at least you've made your expectations clear and if you aren't happy with the extra work then at least make it clear you've noticed.

If she thinks this is how nannies work after a 2 week break can you imagine how she'll be during the summer hols....?

Sugar - most certainly won't be going to supermarket and she knows I won't - personal reasons which she understands

Oh and just checked for more nappies and wipes and there's none! I've got 2 nappies and half a pack of wipes!

Is it your first nanny job too? Learning how to deal with bosses can be a bit of a learning curve, I know I was to keen to please in the early years that I did way more than whats necessary.

I mean this kindly, you have also let the situation become what it is now by allowing it creep up over the last few months.
I would be careful about sending texts of that nature it could be taken wrong being seen as snippy and unprofessional. The time to tackle your boss about it was this morning when you arrived texting now is only going to confuse her if you were fine this morning.
Personally I would do as much as possible today just to keep the peace but I would ask tonight to schedule a proper meeting where you can both discuss your role what your contract says in compassion to what your are doing but also what they SEE your role as being and if that matches with your ideas of it too.

This morning was literally me walk in, she walk out as she did she said stay in do most washing and clean kitchen

She is taking the piss. My nanny is a nanny/housekeeper but I only Expect her to do work on house stuff and our clothes as it arises. I still wash and clean when she isn't in and also have cleaner for heavy lifting.

The lack of cleaning materials and nappies is bizarre - are they tight or disorganised?

Ok then I would speak to her tonight but avoid txting.
What does your contract say? Sometimes they are (on purpose) vague you may want some points clarified and then have it rewritten.

Do you keep a nanny diary? Of so I would list everything you did and how long it took to make it clear how much you have done but also pointing out that time could have been better spent doing something fun/educational with her DC.

YANBU

My nanny wasn't doing as much as I wanted her to when she joined and I realised it was because I hadn't been clear enough in telling her her duties. I wrote a list for her of what I considered what should be her responsibilities (tidying kids rooms, doing kids washing, cleaning up communal areas after use). Now she does everything I ask but nothing more (which can be a bit frustrating when she loads everything into the dishwasher except one cup I used).

Maybe you need to flip the tables and tell your employer what you think your duties should be. IME communication is key to manage expectations and therefore maintain good relationships.