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GoneGirl · 15/04/2013 10:49

Name changed as identifiable.....possibly...

My neice's 1st b'day .Invitation states..

No boxed gifts.

They are crackers aren't they?

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HaveToWearHeels · 15/04/2013 10:51
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Softlysoftly · 15/04/2013 10:51

Wtf does that mean

doobiedoobiedoobie · 15/04/2013 10:51

Urgh. Rude, but mostly just a bit sad for the little girl with no presents to open on her birthday. I can understand being overrun with toys but surely no one can have too many books/ clothes?! Honestly in that situation, niece or not, I'd just take a nice card.

doobiedoobiedoobie · 15/04/2013 10:52

It means money only. Or vouchers maybe?

LilyAmaryllis · 15/04/2013 10:52

What does it mean? Does it mean her parents don't want people to buy anything new? (But second-hand unboxed offerings are approved?) This is one eco-minded interpretation. Is that really what they mean though?

LilyAmaryllis · 15/04/2013 10:53

A teddy doesn't come in a box!!

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MrsCampbellBlack · 15/04/2013 10:54

Does it just mean they don't want loads of cardboard to recycle afterwards so gifts that don't come in boxes.

To be honest I have no idea what it means.

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Flobbadobs · 15/04/2013 10:54

Does it mean things like moneyboxes and those silver plate things people tend to give small children on special occasions? (Aka dust gatherers) they tend to come in boxes?

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GoneGirl · 15/04/2013 10:54

It means they want money (SiL has form for being materialistic). I love my neice so much and feel awful that she won't have presents to open......

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Pascha · 15/04/2013 10:55

means cash only. Yuk. I would take it literally though and get books/clothes/scooter Wink

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GoneGirl · 15/04/2013 10:55

I love the idea of getting her a massive toy car or drum set and wrapping it up sans box

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picnicbasketcase · 15/04/2013 10:57

Definitely means no actual gifts in wrapping paper but give us your money. If people are kind enough to give presents I think it's rather off to specify what kind you want, but there you go. I guess people do sort of the same thing with wedding lists. Confused

Owllady · 15/04/2013 10:58

just buy her what you want

my SIL has always been like this, either told me exactly what she wants me to get or has asked for money....

I have always ignored her and done what i wanted Shock

LilyAmaryllis · 15/04/2013 10:58

Definitely get her a present to open (what is SIL going to do, not let her open it??!)

Cuddlydragon · 15/04/2013 10:59

Oh goodness, I actually can't believe that. Buy her a huge toy or teddy, unboxed and wrap. Clothes don't come in boxes either. My DS would be over the moon with balloons at that age too. Your SIL is awful.

squeakytoy · 15/04/2013 11:00

how crass..

I would get whatever I wanted, and take it out of the box... then wrap it..

Then she wouldnt even be able to take it back to get the cash... Grin

currentbuns · 15/04/2013 11:01

Strange term. Is SIL from another culture, or American perhaps?

HorryIsUpduffed · 15/04/2013 11:01

Ooh a helium balloon is a great shout.

Sponsoring a child through World Vision doesn't come in a box either Grin

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 15/04/2013 11:01

Wrap it in lovely paper but present it to her in an Asda carrier bag, a well crumpled one at that Grin

Shodan · 15/04/2013 11:03

YY. Definitely go with the biggest toy you can manage.

Wrapping paper, ribbons, balloons, bows, badges- as much extra stuff to go round it as possible.

Honestly. I have no problem with wedding lists, or requests for vouchers or money for weddings- but for a 1 year old? FFS.

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GoneGirl · 15/04/2013 11:03

Asian - where giving mone is not crass but very common. but asking for money for a child's b'day is rude in any culture!

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TomArchersSausage · 15/04/2013 11:03

How very strange.

Oh well I'd ignore it. If I want to give someone a present I will.

wigglesrock · 15/04/2013 11:05

I think it means those formal type teddies, photoframes, money boxes presents. Still think it's cheeky as feck.