To be hesitant in posting a video of my daughter dancing wearing only knikcers on FB?

[YoniShapedLoveBox]

I made this really cool video today when my nearly 6 year old was pretending to be a rock singer using a kid's broom as microphone. I'm not usually PFB but the video is good. Problem is, she is wearing only her knickers and I'm not sure if it is inappropriate to share with my friends and family on FB (majority of them are abroad). I have high security settings and only real/close people added...what do you think?

Also I already said why I think people on my list would find it enchanted and that the fact she is in knickers is not what make the video cool. Goddbye.

only if you were also cool with same scene, only its u in your knickers, once its "out there" it stays out there , "get the picture "? no point asking her her opinion ,she will not get the harm this may cause her in her future life, your call.

The only people remotely interested in seeing a your daughter prancing around in her knickers are the very ones you don't want seeing that. There is no privacy on facebook, anybody who can see what you're putting up can to share the video and once it gets that far there is no controlling who sees it.

If that came up in my newsfeed, I'd report the video and the idiot who put it up before blocking them. Use a bit of common sense and grow up, anything you put up can and will be found and may be used to bully her by future classmates in school, trolls over the internet etc...

A simple method of determining if something is appropriate to put on fb is if you wouldn't be happy to see it front page of the newspaper, don't put it on the internet.

yabvu.

Actually
I am not being VERY UNREASONABLE
Because the question was if I was being UNREASONABLE to be hesitant in posting the video
so technically IANBU
What MN came to?
Some posters can't even read properly anymore, they just want to attack instead of just giving an opinion...

Whatever...

Please don't post it. I'm sure it's fantastic but Facebook is not the place to share it.

Put it this way. Its a video of a little girl in her knickers, she just happens to be singing and dancing.

You really use Facebook??? YABU!!!!

I posted a fully clothed, perfectly ordinary photo of my 2 on Christmas Day. My son (12) was annoyed. Afterwards, I decided he was right. It is HIS image and I didn't check with him. Maybe when she is older she could make that decision. Also, once posted, you have no control over how it is used. I know you are now not going to do it but this is an interesting debate.

Yoni,
If you are not prepared to listen to the replies, why did you bother to post in AIBU?

I think you're right not to post the video.

FFS do people really think anyone would be bothered by a video of themselves dancing in knickers when they are grown up? Maybe briefly when she is 13 and embarrassed by everything but as a grown up?

All that 'ooh it's on the internet forever, what about future employers' stuff- will future employers really a) have time to wade through reams of stuff on the internet of all potential employees or b) really think dancing in your knickers aged 6 is likely to affect your work as a grown up?

Undies aren't the problem in my opinion, and why the hell should the innocent be hidden just because there's a lot of weird pervs in the world?

Saying that, I say no to posting it on FB, purely because you lose all control... and control is something you should want to keep for as long as possible. If you got a picture developed in Asda and they then used that picture in the advertising campaign without permission, you'd be fuming right? Once you post your pics on the www, especially FB you lose ownership.

I do not buy into the paedomergencies AT ALL, and they make me rather cross in all honesty, because people who spout 'what if a pervert has a wank over it, you'll be to blame' are basically sayin that the parents of the children pictured on nappy wrappers are bad parents, and are 'asking for it'.

We should protect our children of course, but we should also protect their right to BE children and prance about in their undies freely, and celebrate it. Anything else actually allows the sick few to ruin the beauty of childhood for everyone else.

op You're not a bad parent at all. I have a similar video of my now 5 year old totally starkers, and it's brilliant, natural and funny as hell. I'd happily show you it, I'd happily show everyone, but I wouldn't post it on FB, purely from an ownership PoV.

Even fully clothed I wouldn't. As soon as it's out there it's there forever. Photos are to be shared and enjoyed with friends and family not with Uncle Tom Cobbley and all.

It is not I am not prepared to listen to the opinions and even agree I am not prepared to put my head down to rudeness, personal attacks, unnecessary criticism and people twisting my words.
And everyone did the same perhaps this forum would be a bit more pleasant.

Tbf, I understand that it can't feel nice feeling like you're being unfairly criticised on here, but your posts are standing out to me as pretty shouty and aggressive. I'd just hide the thread if I were you... I don't think anyone's trying to be nasty to you, AIBU just has a tradition (not sure if that's the word I mean) for people to say what they think without really dressing it up in any way at all. I think some replies are upsetting you more than is worth it.

Fwiw I think you're right to be hesitant, and if you are hesitant it's probably a good indicator that you shouldn't do it. I wouldn't, not for any reason other than that your dd's not able to make a truly informed decision about whether she wants it on there.

don't be selfish
post a photo of yourself wearing knickers
I hope you are teaching her there are other things to aspire to
If that came up on my newsfeed I would report the idiot who put it up (after I said I wouldn't)

Unnecessary and uncalled for

If there is people ok being treated like this, I am sorry for them

So patronising too

I know but printed words can often sound different when you read them to the way the writer of them intended them to sound. There are lots of people using this forum and they will all have different ways of talking to or amongst their own friends, some ways which we might find a bit harsh or unnecessary. I just don't think it's worth getting too upset about. Just ignore, you haven't done anything wrong, it's just that asking for opinions on this topic might bring opinions you don't like, or opinions that may be stated in ways you consider to be rude.

There have been posters too who have been just as 'direct' towards people who were 'direct' with you. I'd just view it as a lively discussion, like when everyone's had too much wine, rather than a personal attack.

was going to put a smiley after that but realised it could look very pa

I posted a video of my son(6) singing his favorite song on fb, he was topless, but said I could post it. Actually he asked me to. I was a bit when a friend then shared it, but more because I didn't realise she could iyswim.

Facebook's term state:
While you are allowing us to use the information we receive about you, you always own all of your information.