Quick bit of background, DH and I disagree on what's the best thing to do.
Anxiety sufferer, only ever been signed off with it once for one week when I was pregnant 2 years ago.
Now pregnant again, and suffering anxiety again. It had been under control for 2 years since the last and only incidence but has reared its ugly head again.
I also have a phobia of having the baby amongst other medical fears (It is a full blown phobia and I've had two rounds of therapy which has helped, but I still am all consumed by fear and panic whenever the time comes to go to the hospital - and although I do try my best and generally succeed in keeping it out of the workplace, I sometimes get teary easily and panicked about other minor issues, but it all stems back to this)
Anyway:
I don't want to get into too much detail as it will out me but...
Someone at work really spoke to me badly the other day, pulled me aside to criticise me despite being the same level as me. My job is target driven and he spent half an hour telling me how bad my ideas were. I said we should agree to disagree this stage and went back to my desk. Due to previous run ins with this person and other team members we had been told to see manager and not discuss amongst ourselves. Fair enough.
I had a quiet word with manager, just a general chat about the way he spoke to me and the things he said making me anxious I was doing stuff wrong and being looked down upon etc, he said he would have a word as he was aware that the way this person speaks to others is not always appropriate.
So that was it I thought, word would be had and that would be that. This guy has had a few run ins with o the people before, but not really with me that's been reported.
I started to feel queasy and was already upset about the incident so I went outside for a bit and then came back to my desk. I was just about to start working when he comes back in, stands over my desk and starts shouting at me (on a floor of maybe 100 people) that he is disgusted, he tries to help all the time (presumably by telling you how SHIT you are for 30 minutes - this wasn't the first time) and I should never speak to him again, don't I know what he does for the team etc...
Now although I feel pathetic and teary at the best of times at the minute this just sent me over the edge.
I gaped a bit and said 'are you joking?' I never expected to be accosted a my desk in front of so many people. I was 1) mortified and 2) quite intimidated. He was making lots of angry gestures right in my face and shouting that we should deal with out problems through the manager. When I pointed out that I had he just told me to shut up and never speak to him again.
At which point about half the office was staring at us and I started to panic. Got taken outside, weeping, crying, panicked and absolutely apologetic to manager as I hadn't meant for that to happen and just wanted to deal with it professionally, never expected it to blow up at my desk, a quiet word would have done.
He said I had nothing to be sorry for but by that time I was nigh on having a panic attack. Wasn't full blown thank God and I managed to breathe and calm down a bit.
Eventually went back to work but I sit right next to this guy and I was shaking so much, every time he moved I shook and got teary. I ended up going home early sick. I think I am going to log a proper complaint about it
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So as I have been a LOT more panicky than I have in a while and I keep sobbing at the very thought of going to work, and I'm already marked as sick, I was going to ring in tomorrow and get a doctor's appointment as I really don't feel very mentally stable at the minute. I think I need to talk through these issues, the pregnancy, the phobia, the work incident and panic attack and see if they can offer me any help like they did last time.
Dh is of the opinion that it is pregnancy hormones and that I should go in, log my complaint and ask to be moved. (Won't happen for weeks though)
I think I'd rather have 1 insurance of 1.5 days sick and see a doctor to see if they can help me (I feel like I'm on the edge all the time) than have .5 days sick, don't seek any help and then maybe nee some more time down the line.
I now feel sick at he thought of going in tomorrow and the thought of ringing in sick, I just don't know what do do. I'm scared the doctor will think I'm a whinging time waster....
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NotYoMomma · 14/04/2013 20:20
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