To consider deleting a friend on facebook because she keeps posting her dd's reading level?

[bubblesinthesky]

Honestly I really do not need an update every 2-3 days on which ORT book her amazing dd in reception is reading now. Nor do I need to have messages posted on my timeline asking what my DD is reading now and what level she was at at this point in reception.

I feel like posting "DD is currently reading War and Peace in the original Russian I think it was originally written in Russian and plans to read the Quaran in Arabic next. At this point in reception I think she was reading Harry Potter surprised your dd is still on ORT level 2"

AIBU to hate these type of updates?

The way to get round all this is that you go and help with reading in school. Then you know what everyone else's children are doing and can just avoid all conversation about it!

Miaow - seriously??

It depends on whether she's really a friend and how much you like her IRL. I think deleting someone as a friend on FB is passive-aggressive, and could lead to problems. I've only done it once, and that was with someone I'd only met once in IRL and really didn't care about. (He died a year later, which made me feel slightly, and irrationally, guilty.)

I am friends with a lot of people on FB who post slightly irritating status updates about their obsessions. I find the best thing to do is ignore them rather than start arguments. I would ignore your friend, and simply not answer questions about your DD's reading ability.

Wow Miaow...how thrilling Do you know why??

YABU
I don't have fb anymore (for reasons different to this)
I wasn't one of those people but I really can't see the harm in people posting and being proud of their DC's achievements. Especially in reception, they come on so quick and learn to read incredibly well and for some people they haven't got anyone in rl to talk to about it. What harm does it actually do? They also may be posting such information so that Aunt Maud in Australia and Cousin Fred in Spain gets to read it.

I would much rather see nice things (albeit boasty and gloaty) on fb than negative nasty things.

I always tell this tale when reading levels are mentioned. In Reception this one Mum invited quite a few children (separately) for tea after school, the week after they started. I thought it was a bit soon but you want your PFB to have friends.....

Turns out she was giving them reading/writing tests to see how the compared to her PFB DS. Under the guise of 'let's play schools'.

I'm sure there is a setting so you can still keep them but not see their news feeds, photos etc. Go into your list of friends and hover over the word friends and you can tick/untick what you want to see. I've done this recently with my ex DH Uncle who said something that I didn't like which was totally untrue.

Sparkling brook-how do you know this?!

Genuine question because I dont have FB (and cant understand it), but feel I should better informed because dc will probably want it.

When people 'delete' someone or block them, does that person know they've been deleted or blocked from your page? And if they do know, doesn't this often lead to confrontation or difficulties if and when you inevitably bump into the person?

You could just hide her posts. I had to hide the posts of an acquaintance who kept referring to herself in the third person as 'mummy', 'mummy has done this today, mummy has gone here today'. Fuck off, you're not my mummy.

I love boasty updates, they're hilarious. I do have to restrain myself from posting sarcastic comments though

Well how we didn't at first. It wasn't until a lot later on us other Mums were chatting and one Mum mentioned it and on further quizzing of our DC it became apparent every child had had the same treatment.

And a rummage in their book bag no doubt.

No Tom, they don't know if you hide them, they might notice if you unfriend them.

I am the same as dustyhousewithdustypeople; I love boasty updates!

So hiding is non confrontational. Unfriending could be.

Eek. Minefield. Avoid.

Thanks Tee

I don't think there's anything wrong with posting her own updates (not that I'd do it about DD's reading levels) but if she is continually posting on your wall demanding comparisons (for reassurance? Or to get you to 'admit' your own DC was 'behind' hers?) that is really rude and annoying.

You can change your wall settings so nobody can post on your wall but you - I wonder if you can specify this to particular people ie is there a way of preventing BoastyMadam from posting on your wall but not needing to block/delete her?

Personally, I wouldn't mind a friend asking, as it could simply be reassurance.
I don't have a problem simply comparing school achievement in private either, because children are good at different things, and it's good to know what other children are doing sometimes.

However, that she is posting on your timeline for all to see, would bother me. Because it looks like competition.

hide her newsfeed surprised you havn't already some people post about their childrens achievements all the time it is their facebook they can post what they like and this is what your friend has chosen to post about, hide her if you like the woman delete her if you don't,

This thread has made my day, as I also have a "friend" who does this. I have to stop myself from doing the same as my Ds is ahead of her dd. And because I don't give a shiny sh*t .

saying what I did I have a friend who told is every single day till she started that her wonderful DD was off to study law at uni then updates when she started, funnything was she didn't post she left after the first year

Actually I think you should post; "don't worry she'll catch up"

Hide. Less confrontational.

Our 'friend', when we went over to her house, showed a book to my then four year old DS (now five). 'Have you read this book yet?' He looked at it and said he hadn't, he was reading -- at school. And my friend kind of tutted quietly, bit obviously, and whispered 'have you talked to the teacher about his development yet? I would be be very concerned, you know.' He couldn't read because he'd been off school for six weeks with pneumonia....

DD1 is almost 7½ and can read 24 words. I am immensely proud of her, because she has SN and is at special school. She learns every word she can read by laboriously memorising the shape of it (we think).

Why do people get so flipping obsessed with reading levels??

Oh god, I just thought it will only get worse....

I'm Facebook friends with my first bf (when I was 14) and his mum, he is quite successful now and posts lots of photos, statuses etc about his successes, events etc. and then his mum reports EVERYTHING he posts, in a braggy way! She has two other children who don't get the same fbook acknowledge as he does.

He's 27 btw!

The only acceptable posts about the ORT books generally start with "not another bloody chip and biff book" or something along those lines imo. This usually gets a sympathetic response among my fb friends as we all find them arse numbingly boring...

*reposts, not reports!