In not wanting to move to Pickering?

[Brunocat]

I've been for a few hours and although it looked fine for a day trip it's in the middle of nowhere and there seems to be very little to do. Houses seem expensive and it's a drive to get anywhere. Am I totally wrong?

What to say? It all depends what you want/need from a location. I'm Whitby born & bred & although we moved away, we came back to a village just outside Whitby to raise our children. We're about 15/20 mins from Pickering. The whole area has a low crime rate & is very scenic with fab walks etc, but I agree with the rubbish roads comments. There is nothing at Pickering, but the outlying villages are beautiful places to raise children if you don't mind travelling for shopping & leisure activities, you'll be fine.
I can't remember who it was that said about DC's working at flamingoland & smoking weed & that's all there is, but they're talking crap. There are roads out of North Yorkshire & plenty of people use them! DH & I both earn good salaries in the area with not a too bad commute!

Why would you want to move there? (genuine question, I grew up close to pickering). Unless there is a good reason I'd suggest York. Or even Malton because at least there's buses and trains regularly to other places.

Sorry I haven't replied earlier, duh was lurking. We might have to relocate due to his job, stupid thing is was that I encouraged him to apply as I thought I'd love it but then we visited and I realised it would be a massive mistake. Trouble is he loved it! I think the comments about being a southerner are funny I'm from Lancashire originally and do not have a posh accent! Maybe Malton would be slightly better if we could afford it as at least you can get to places as bit easier' I'm used to just jumping on the M62..... And I love York by the way - that would be the only positive thing about moving over there. Plus family are going to be 3 plus hours away.

Mmmmm dh not duh, although at the moment I can think of much worse to call him!

I have to leap to Whitby's defence. I grew up there it is lovely town, very picturesque. Fab for young children, I felt very secure and lucky growing up there but ... It is not welcoming to outsiders, my folks took about 25 years to feel really accepted, it's very busy in summer with tourists, it is isolated in winter, it has limited culture. Pickering is great to just drive through or stop for an hour! Ditto Malton without stopping. If you do move there I recommend York. Good transport links, reasonable shopping, theatre, access to aforementioned towns and some of the most beautiful countryside in the uk.

another ex-Scarborian here too :)

One of my friends works in Pickering. She lives in a village on the north side of York, about three miles outside the ring road. So it is commutable to live on the outskirts of York rather than live in Pickering.

Also if you live in York rather than Pickering it's closer to get to Leeds, Harrogate., the A1.

DH and I dream of retiring to NYM - it's one of our favourite places in the country. We spend holidays there every year, usually in winter, tramping across the moors then sitting in a pub.

*Brunocat - you are exactly right.

Pickering is lovely to visit, expensive and middle of nowhere. I come from a small North Yorkshire village and my parents now live near Pickering. I know what it is like to live in a place like that especially as a child or teenager. If you have children you will become a taxi service. It is dull and people are insular.

If you like any sort of culture or urban lifestyle then don't - you will die of ennui. Pickering is lovely for a day but not forever or even a year.

I suggest Malton as a better place if you really have to live up there. It has a rail station and a good service to York and easy frequent mainline connection from there on to Leeds, Manchester (and Airport), London.

Example of ENNUI

The kind of ennui that comes from having too much time on one's hands and too little will to find something productive to do.

Pickering's beautiful! It's halfway between York and Whitby.
You're close to Whitby, Scarborough, Filey, and York.
YABU. I'd love to live there!

It is dull and people are insular.

Whuh?! Bit of a sweeping generalization there!

TBH I think Malton's your answer.
As Beta says, the connections are much better.

Enid - I know these people. My parents for example!

They rejected MALTON as a bit too busy.

Don't mind me, I am just sitting here snickering at a small town north yorks boy using the word 'ennui'. I am a small town east Yorks girl btw.

I don't know what your DH does but there isn't much around Pickering so would you have to move again for other jobs?

MrSlant - using words like 'ennui' certainly make you stand out in North Yorkshire. Luckily I escaped to London.

David Hockney lives in Brid!!
Some of his photos for his recent exhibition were taken just up the road, outside my kid's secondary school!!

I escaped to rural Wales any it's still more cosmopolitan

MoreBeta....but I came escaped from (just outside) London to live in Brid. Wouldn't go back for anything!

Saw Hockney out painting when we were home last. Went to his exhibition and spent my time pointing out things to my kids. 'Ooh that's Garrowby Hill, Sledmere, oh look that's so and so's house in Kilham, your Aunty was married in that church.' Got some funny looks.

OP there's an awful lot of very nice Gastro pubs round Pickering. I think the Star at Harome has a Michelin star. Plus it is BEAUTIFUL round there.

OP there's Helmsley too, some good shopping to be done there.

I miss Brid now! Just having a lovely think about the moors and the wolds and all the fun I've had at Dalby Forest. You've got seaside and everything.

I grew up in Pickering.

At 18 I couldn't WAIT to get out of there. Schools aren't great but not terrible.

Lovely to visit for the weekend but god, no, don't live there. You might as well move to Royston Vasey.

The people are v small minded. Racist, homophobic etc

When my parents split up my mum, sister and I moved there on our own and we were totally ostracized by the locals because my mum was a shockhorror single parent. It was ridiculous. People spreading rumours we were witches or lesbians living together and openly asking my mum what was wrong with her that no man wanted her. They put nails under my mum car tyres repeatedly and we were blanked in shops.

Totally bizarre.

I'd move to York though if I had the money.

OP you don't sound like you want to move to my part of the world at all. York is fantastic if you can afford it. Please avoid Beverly as you sound pretty miserable tbh.

applecharlotte - we sound like fellow travellers on this one.

"You might as well move to Royston Vasey." Too true.

But isn't that always the way,applecharlotte. People who have lived in Bridlington all their lives hate it and can't say a good word about it and are always on about moving to London. But I moved here out of choice and love it.

I 'm from Herts/Greater London border. I can't think of anywhere worse and was glad to get away! People here can't understand why I moved from there,or why I look aghast when they say they want to live in London.

OP...it took me some time to get used to the fact that in Yorkshire you have to travel at least 20 miles to go anywhere. But eventually it becomes second nature.( The worst thing is that A+E hospitals are thin on the ground. I have to travel 25 miles to Scarborough or 35 miles to Hull for that. There is, however a good Minor injuries a 10 minute walk from me.)