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Original poster

To wonder why this Mother was eye rolling over my comments to my DC.

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Goldenbear · 12/04/2013 14:17

I was at a supermarket this morning and was trying to choose some yogurts for my DC. DS picks up some that are laden with sugar. So I said, 'no not those they have too much sugar in them, what about these instead?'. Cue lots of eye rolling from a new Mother nearby. She picked up something more sugary for herself so I don't think she was in agreement with me. I'd seen her from the start pushing her newborn baby in a supermarket car seat style trolley, the baby was wailing and wailing and couldn't have been older than 2 weeks. When i first saw the newborn crying and crying i felt sorry for the baby but then remembered how difficult those first weeks were and so stopped judging. However, after the yoghurt judgment I did feel that she was hardly in a position to judge my 'preciousness', considering her very young baby was wailing the whole way around the shop and she wouldn't pick it up. I heard her say things to the 2 week old intermittently like, 'you're not having a good day today are you?'

I knew she was a new Mum because there was a nappy promotion on in the store and I heard her tell the shop assistant that the baby girl was her first.

AIBU in thinking you keep the eye rolling to yourself given the circumstances?

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Pancakeflipper · 12/04/2013 16:47

No wonder she rolled her eyes as you tried to cram 4 mooses into 1 trolley - you need at least 2 trollies.

thebody · 12/04/2013 16:52

No don't loud parent it's so annoying.

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Goldenbear · 12/04/2013 16:57

I didn't loud parent. I was using a conversational tone.

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VeryObviousBeforeNameChange · 12/04/2013 17:04

aggressive? um yes of course. Now you have made 2 people, at least, roll their eyes at you today.

TheToysAreALIVEITellThee · 12/04/2013 17:09

My eyes would positively roll out of their sockets and splat on the floor if I heard someone say a yogurt was too sugary as they reached for a chocolate mousse. It's a bit like asking for a diet coke with a big mac meal.

DuttyWine · 12/04/2013 17:11

Yabu for buying yoghurts with less sugar.

Maybe she was eye rolling at your dc in a conspirator "mums eh, spoiling all the sugary yoghurt fun..." Way.

Pandemoniaa · 12/04/2013 17:11

I was using a conversational tone.

But what level had you set the volume to?

DuttyWine · 12/04/2013 17:13

Or buying mousse with more sugar even!

AmazingBouncingFerret · 12/04/2013 17:15

/I'd phone social services if I were you what with the baby screaming and her eye rolling she's obviously not fit to be a parent.

I bet she's gonna eat those sugary yoghurts too.

The bitch.

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Goldenbear · 12/04/2013 17:15

Your remarks remind me of the angry poster sketch on The Mitchell and Webb Look.

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Goldenbear · 12/04/2013 17:21

She didn't see me get the mousses- eye rolled and walked off and I wouldn't care if she did. My point about the yoghurts was that there was no point in having pretend healthy things.

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Goldenbear · 12/04/2013 17:23

I'm not a 'loud' parent as my DS goes to a school where there are a lot of them.

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JamieandtheMagicTorch · 12/04/2013 17:28

With all those eyes rolling about, it's a wonder someone didn't slip over.

OP, i am not sure whether YABU or not. I think what happened is open to mosinterpretation, but you could be completely right.

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 12/04/2013 17:30

I'm not sure why people are being sooo negative towards you, though.

BegoniaBampot · 12/04/2013 17:30

just a misunderstanding happens and let it go. I had a conversation with another mum yesterday and she wasn't even talking to me, happens - breathe and let it go (even if i did feel a right pillock).

IYoniWantToBeWithYou · 12/04/2013 17:30

You told your dc the yoghurts aren't healthy so its not like they thought they were Confused I really don't get your logic there at all.

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 12/04/2013 17:33

I hate it when people, normally other women look me up and down. I always look them up and down in response.

Someone come back at me and tell me they don't mean it nastily Grin

LadyBeagleEyes · 12/04/2013 17:37

I'm negative because it never fails to surprise me how upset people get seeing utterly bizarre things that happen in supermarkets which must just pass me by.
Before I came on MN I was happily oblivious to such a phenomenon, and now I see it everywhere.
It's scary out there Grin.

Egusta · 12/04/2013 17:38

I realised today that I loud parent. Blush.

as you were.

Bearcrumble · 12/04/2013 17:44

I am so pleased you managed another stealth boast, this time about his school.

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Goldenbear · 12/04/2013 17:46

DS had some teaching on healthy eating at school and is keen to tell me about what is healthy/what is less so, so he does think all yoghurts are 'healthy' I was pointing out that this wasn't strictly true.

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Goldenbear · 12/04/2013 17:48

Wtfrigg a 'stealth boast' and 'another' one? What I meant was that I can recognise it and how irritating it can be. I've just said how we got the chocolate mousses, where is the boast?

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crashdoll · 12/04/2013 18:30

Are you sure you weren't loud parenting?

Francagoestohollywood · 12/04/2013 18:40

Do people really check the sugar content of a yogurt???

TippiShagpile · 12/04/2013 18:44

She was probably thinking "I can't wait until I have to worry about the sugar content in yoghurts. I haven't slept since Sunday. My boobs are about to explode, my nipples are cracked, I feel like I'm haemorrhaging and I probably smell like the local butchers."