AIBU?
To be freaking out about unplanned pregnancy
Typicallytypical · 12/04/2013 06:42
Short backstory:
I had fertility treatment for dc1, immediately conceived naturally with dc2, had/have pre and post natal depression with both. Dh has had a vasectomy plus the all clear.
We have literally had sex twice this year. My periods are regular as clockwork and I'm 7 days late.
I have taken two tests both negative but all the symptoms match previous pregnancies : low level cramping, sheer exhaustion, crying although very pnd so cry all the time anyway! Can't stop eating and drinking, skin changes, heavy discharge (sorry tmi)
We don't want another baby. I can barely cope with the ones we have now. I just can't imagine termination, now I know my own children it seems barbaric. But my pregnancies were sheer hell physically, emotionally and mentally and I still suffer every day with the aftermath. I don't know what to do, please help.
I can't discuss irl in case I do go with the termination.
anniroc · 12/04/2013 06:54
Sorry for your distress. You do need to get the pregnancy confirmed though - two negative tests sound like a hopeful thing! Fingers crossed you are wrong.
If it is positive then I definitely think you need some counselling to help you feel strong enough to make a decision about your future. Good luck x
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Typicallytypical · 12/04/2013 07:14
Thanks for your replies. I have been doing too much Google research and it appears that people can have several negative results and still be upduffed despite vasectomies. AaaaaaRrrrrrrgggggghhhhhhhh!
I never thought that I'd be praying to be peri menopausal!
PooFlower · 12/04/2013 07:28
I was sterilised after dd2 and each time my period has been late I've convinced myself I must be pregnant and had similar symptoms including a prickly sensation in my womb that I get in early pregnancy,
Luckily I wasn't pregnant but it still stresses me out as like yourself I don't want anymore children but don't think I could go through with a termination either.
I've even considered asking for the coil or similar as I feel I can't relax and trust that the sterilisation has worked and am reluctant to have sex with dh.
I think discussing this with your GP would help and I'm going to do the same myself.
I think with two negative tests its unlikely that you are pregnant.
Typicallytypical · 12/04/2013 07:40
Pooflower that's interesting did you go with extra contraception in the end or have you adapted now?
Damash I'm just taking st John's wort as am breastfeeding, up until recently it worked really well.
Not meaning to drip feed but I suffer extreme ovulation pain and this month there was nothing which at the time I was pleased about.
Hdee how much is your monthly salary? It might come in handy if there's another wee wain to consider :-*
Typicallytypical · 12/04/2013 07:48
I have read about false negatives where there hasn't been enough time for the hcg to build up enough to be detected by home tests. I will make early gp appt if possible this morning and hopefully get an answer one way or another. I can't function until I know!
Typicallytypical · 12/04/2013 11:13
Hi there just a quick update. I have been to the gp and he advised that yes sometimes the hcg present ideas not at a high enough level to show in a urine test. I am booked in for a blood test next Tuesday didn't think to ask how long it takes to get a result?
Got very distressed in the surgery, have had metallic taste all morning not sure if it's psychological!
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IneedAsockamnesty · 12/04/2013 11:35
The HCg blood test takes a couple of hours to be available.
But I would be shocked if by Tuesday if HCg is picked up in a blood test that it wouldn't be picked up by pissing on a stick, HCg increases daily by Tuesday it will be much higher than today and POAS will be able to pick it up as little as 14 days after ovulation.
digerd · 12/04/2013 11:40
Stress causes chemicals < don't know the names> in your saliva. My mouth goes dry usually, but your metallic taste is probably that.
If you had no ovulation pain this month, it would appear you did not ovulate.
Perimenopause or Thyroid problems affect your ovulation/periods
Keeping fingures crossed for you.
PooFlower · 12/04/2013 12:10
Typically, I haven't done anything yet but am seeing my GP next week so will mention my worries.
This months AF was 5 days late and its happened a couple of time in the last year since DD2 was born and I got myself into a right tizz which probably didn't help.
It doesn't help that there isn't a test to check if sterilisation has worked.
Good luck and hopefully your AF will come before Tuesday.
Typicallytypical · 12/04/2013 13:16
Northernlurker I am 41 so it's not entirely strange for things to go awry, and I agree that my body could be messing with my head too, gobbledegook I am the same, I have had several pregnancies but only two full term, I have always known way ahead of doing the test and normally have a positive result at 6-7 weeks.
Good luck to you too Pooflower its hard having no control over your body.
Typicallytypical · 12/04/2013 13:23
Northernlurker I am 41 so it's not entirely strange for things to go awry, and I agree that my body could be messing with my head too, gobbledegook I am the same, I have had several pregnancies but only two full term, I have always known way ahead of doing the test and normally have a positive result at 6-7 weeks.
Good luck to you too Pooflower its hard having no control over your body.
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