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Original poster

To really not understand why people do not join the organ donation register?

276 replies

3littlefrogs · 11/04/2013 22:18

I have been registered since I passed my driving test nearly 40 years ago. If I am dead I won't need my organs. They could save someone else's child, wife, husband, sister, brother.

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LadyBeagleEyes · 12/04/2013 17:50

So MsBella would you accept a donated organ for yourself or your child?

SauvignonBlanche · 12/04/2013 17:50

mainstream science isn't the only science, there is a lot we aren't told
OK... Hmm

xigris · 12/04/2013 17:53

Loved your story Clucky. Beautiful that you named your son after your donor Smile

SauvignonBlanche · 12/04/2013 17:54

Thanks Clucky, DH's kidney came from Wales and he still can't speak a word of Welsh. Wink
These threads both inspire me with stories like yours and frustrate me with people's ignorance.
I'll try to concentrate on the sensible ones. Smile

MsBella · 12/04/2013 17:55

Ladybeagle by the way I haven't said organ donation is wrong... I'm saying there are different things to think about. Also I don't believe that there is anyone who deserves an organ more than other people as we are all equal (children are a priority of course though!) I mean about the george best thing for example, there were people saying he didn't deserve another donation because he ruined it himself by being an alcoholic

Its best to open your mind and not believe every single thign that is fed to you in my opinion, there's a lot to be leanred which is great!

Original poster
3littlefrogs · 12/04/2013 17:57

Lemonylemon

I am so sorry for your loss. Your fiance must have been a good, kind and generous person. I really admire you for ensuring that what they wanted was carried out. It must have been an awful time for you. Sad

One of my patients has had a heart transplant. He and his family are thankful every single day for the life he was given by an altruistic person and their grieving family.

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Evilberry · 12/04/2013 18:04

Thanks xigris

I think that I'm just going to ignore the scientific proof from the "woo/make believe sciences" and stick to the mainstream

crashdoll · 12/04/2013 18:18

As usual, important threads get derailed by a select few who can't bear not being the centre of attention.

MsBella · 12/04/2013 18:20

Crashdoll people have different opinions, its how the world works

Ledkr · 12/04/2013 18:23

Ds has been waiting a year for a kidney which is remarkable considering there are normally two in a donor.
It's certainly made us all register rather than leave it to chance.

Mrsdavidcaruso · 12/04/2013 18:24

Rubbish Mini I know plenty of people who DO care for their elderly relatives, I know plenty of elderly who have to sell their homes to pay for their care and NOT all elderly actually need residential care I know plenty of elderly who are still productive members of society who still work or volunteer and still contribute.

If there is a problem with the amount they are costing don't blame the elderly its not their fault.

You still ask why do we need the elderly what would you do - cull them all when they get to age 80

SauvignonBlanche · 12/04/2013 18:28

All the best for your DS Ledkr. Smile

Binkybix · 12/04/2013 18:31

Lots of people can back up their opinions with evidence though. It's how the world of science works....

thermalsinapril · 12/04/2013 18:33

You're brain 'dead', by some definition, but they don't know if you can feel pain.

This.

thermalsinapril · 12/04/2013 18:33

If there was a guarantee of a full anaesthetic I'd go on the register.

Ledkr · 12/04/2013 18:37

Thanks sav
thermals I share your fear.

Pickles101 · 12/04/2013 18:42

thermals I think that worry has already been addressed, further up the thread.

crashdoll · 12/04/2013 18:45

MsBella yes but some people do have a habit of derailing in order to make them the centre of attention. That's just my opinion.

MsBella · 12/04/2013 18:49

Oh so just a coincidence that you'd bring it up now then...

Sirzy · 12/04/2013 18:51

Ledkr - I hope your son gets his donor soon and it all goes well.

GoshAnneGorilla · 12/04/2013 18:55

MrsDavid - You mentioned up thread about research. Can I just say that there is now a lot of governance and regulation with regards to research.

Any member of staff involved in a research project has to have special training with regards to research ethics and side effects. A Research project has to go before an independent ethics committee which consists of legal and medical professionals as well as lay people and there is a lengthy approvals process before any research can take place.

Here is more information about how trials are regulated www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Clinical-trials/Pages/Howtrialsareregulated.aspx .

Clinical trials are absolutely vital to make healthcare better and safer, so it's important that people have the right information.

LadyBeagleEyes · 12/04/2013 18:57

Oh, Ledkr.
I hope you get some good news soon.
All the best to your ds.

crashdoll · 12/04/2013 18:58

MsBella Because you were making ridiculous claims with no evidence and therefore, risking putting people off saving lives. That's pretty low in my book. If you have evidence, I will debate it with you but you appear to be just derailing. Oh I can roll my eyes too btw. :)

clucky80 · 12/04/2013 19:09

Thanks xigris.

lekr best wishes to you all and I hope that a kidney comes up for your DS soon. The wait is so hard, I had 3 call ups in the end but it was definitely worth waiting for the right organs. I had my creatinine checked last week - it was 70 and that was one of the best levels I have had in the 6 years since my transplant :)

MsBella · 12/04/2013 19:15

Crashdoll, I have MY evidence and oh my god I was not putting people off saving lives, I was giving my view and people can do whatever they want to with the information.