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to think regulars who name change are cowards?

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ssd · 10/04/2013 18:14

whats the bloody point??

are you so scared someone on here wont think you're great anymore?

I can understand name changing if someone has recognized you and is giving you grief, but name changing because you feel like saying something that may annoy others is pathetic

stand by your convictions people!

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Maryz · 10/04/2013 21:37

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thebody · 10/04/2013 21:39

Maryz spot on.

SatsukiKusukabe · 10/04/2013 21:40

that's a good idea maryz

SatsukiKusukabe · 10/04/2013 21:43

I have nearly sock puppeted myself on zombie threads. Not to deceive, just thought the clever poster ahead of me was talking loads of sense before realizing it was old Blush

M0naLisa · 10/04/2013 21:52

I don't get it either tbh. I have done it once or twice but I think why?

Why not say what I have to say in my own name? So I do! GrinWink

Machli · 10/04/2013 21:55

I name changed when I got into a "discussion" with someone on a thread and they sent me some quite vicious PM's. Not scared, just couldn't be arsed with being "watched". I've been on here for 7 years, got MN FB friends and everything! Wink

thebody · 10/04/2013 21:57

Who in hell sends vicious Pms. Report it machli.

Machli · 10/04/2013 22:08

That's not the first time.

I got someone send me a PM after a "discussion". I replied a couple of hours later, not unpleasantly, a bit piss taking I suppose and she sent me one back saying "how dare you take this off the thread, what's the matter with you? Blah blah blah. I was like HmmConfused and said "Er hold on YOU PM'd first. Were you drunk or something and can't remember? Then forwarded her a copy of HER PM. Never heard from her again Grin.

Then was the one that I got talking to on a thread, gave her LOADS of support as it was a subject close to my heart. So we started PMing, found out we lived close to each other so arranged to meet up and go to an exhibition. She sent me her phone number. I was going to call nearer the time as the arrangement was months away. Switched on one day to find a PM from accusing me of being a MAN Grin and making all my posts and I mean ALL of them up. I contacted MN Towers about her and blocked her.

So I tend not to get too fussed about name changing really and it's not about being cowardly it's just easier sometimes.

WorraLiberty · 10/04/2013 22:10

I understand why people NC if they think someone knows them or they want to post something personal.

But I think there's far too much abuse of the NC facility with people NC-ing to have a dig or just because shock-horror someone may disagree with them.

everlong · 10/04/2013 22:11

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Machli · 10/04/2013 22:13

I know!! I can Grin now but at the time I was quite gutted to be honest I had really gone out of my way to support her and talk about her situation because she seemed really sad. I try to be understanding and think well maybe she was just in a bad place but it did freak me out a bit.

flaminhoopsaloolah · 10/04/2013 22:16

IMO its sensible to name change every once in a while for reasons other posters have mentioned - NC doesnt necessarily make a member a coward

TiggyD · 10/04/2013 22:19

I've never name changed on this site or any other. I don't talk about anything particularly sensitive so I have no need to. I can understand why some people do though. It doesn't make people a coward. It might mean they're shy.

thebody · 10/04/2013 22:22

O have only had it sent supportive Pms. That for me is the way it should be.

We all love a good old ding dong on aibu but to pursue someone like that is vile.

LittleEdie · 10/04/2013 22:42

When I first started posting I name changed lots of times. I hadn't quite got the hang of the whole thing and would feel daft or embarrassed when I thought about what I'd posted. Think I ended up calling people a bunch of idiots on a homeopathy thread once Grin. In no uncertain terms.

Have had this name for a while now...till the next time.

LittleEdie · 10/04/2013 23:14

Ooh, you should put that on 'site stuff' Maryz

Maryz · 10/04/2013 23:27

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almostanotherday · 10/04/2013 23:34

I don't know how to NC

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Hopasholic · 11/04/2013 00:21

Grin terthersend's link. That wasn't you holymackrel was it? Just thought it would have been a very fitting nickname!

WhinyCrabbyPeople · 11/04/2013 00:25

I name change all the time! Is that naughty? I do it because I wouldn't want anyone from RL to know that I'm on here because I use MN to vent about RL people in a snarky fashion and because sometimes I post idiotic things after I've had too much Wine and them I'm embarrassed and must don a disguise to save (virtual) face. My profile and pics always stay the same though, if anyone knows enough to check.

sayithowitis · 11/04/2013 00:34

I have a couple of names I use depending on what I am posting. This is the name I use 99% of the time and the name that I have used to post some very personal stuff that I would not anyone in RL to know about. I am usually very careful when I use this name NOT to say anything that could lead back to me if one of my RL friends/relatives was to read it. I also need to be careful when posting personal stuff because I would not want to be identifiable to anyone who knows me through my work. Occasionally, I will adjust certain pieces of info slightly for the same reasons.

I also have another name which I use now and again, when I am posting about something fairly innocuous where it makes no difference whether I am recognised or not.

I do agree there can be an issue with NC just to begin a 'goady' thread, but I think most of the NC's I see, are usually for similar reasons to my own, or, as others have said, to stop/prevent stalking.

LittleEdie · 11/04/2013 00:45

I honestly can't say I've ever read anything on here and thought 'I bet someone's name changed to post that goady thread'. I suppose I see the whole thing as not being quite real.

whokilleddannylatimer · 11/04/2013 00:50

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CautionaryWhale · 11/04/2013 01:24

I have posted regularly since 2009 and have name changed probably 8x or so...

1x as I tend to have verbal diarrhoea and once put way too much embarrassing personal stuff down

2x as I realised I was writing readily identifiable info which if you were sad enough to do all posts by search would out me and I like being anonymous

3x as I get bored easily so a name change was similar to how I move my furniture around

4x as my DD likes to read over my shoulder and once found out nn and pw

5x as I swore to leave mn and do my rl stuff so deregistered

6x as I have a memory like a seive and had forgotten pw etc

7x as a couple of occasions I have bit back when usually I am not so petty so have booted the snide persona to be fluffy me once more

Don't think I have ever nc to air an unpopular opinion as I sit on the fence on most issues - which is probably more chickenshit than being a gobshite having strong opinions.

I think Geri Halliwell amongst others deleting their pro-Thatcher tweets was shite though - I am no fan of Thatcher hailing from a former colliery town - but think changing your mind under pressure is sheep like, bit like that Fast Show character who would always agree with everyone and go back on themselves every statement.

Might not agree with people on here all the time but defend their right to say what they think.

HeavenlyYoni · 11/04/2013 01:28

I'm a regular namechanger, more recently was HeavenlyAmy but well you know, in support of Brian and all that Smile

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