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AIBU?

my dh has changed my screen saver photo on my phone aibu to be annoyed?

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chocoholic05 · 10/04/2013 10:30

I have a new phone. my screen saver photos have always included my dh and my boys always. However this week I got round to adding a new screen saver photo and I it was a photo of my 2 boys looking very happy during a family day out at a farm last week. Smile A lovely photo. I didn't leave dh out out of spite or any reason at all its just a nice photo we both said we love. Anyway I came down this morning and discovered the screen saver photo has been changed to a photo with dh in it too. It's not even a nice photo he looks grumpy in it. Not one I would have chosen. I'm annoyed about it aibu?

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phantomhairpuller · 10/04/2013 10:36

A bit, yes. But then so is your DH. It's all a tad childish IMO Confused

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Branleuse · 10/04/2013 10:38

change it back

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YouTheCat · 10/04/2013 10:38

I'd be pissed off too. I think tinkering (unasked) with someone's phone is akin to going in their bag without asking and bloody rude.

Change his screen saver to a picture of your middle finger. Grin

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clam · 10/04/2013 10:39

Well, leaving aside the fact that my dh wouldn't have a clue how to change a screen saver photo, yes, I'd be hacked off too. I'd change it straight back, on principle.

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chocoholic05 · 10/04/2013 10:41

yes I think I will! Dh is at work so I've not spoken to him about it yet.

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Hopasholic · 10/04/2013 10:43

I'd download a picture of Brad Pitt and have that as my screen saver for when he returns from work Grin

He is being an absolute childish arse so I'd treat him in the same manner!

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CajaDeLaMemoria · 10/04/2013 10:43

Maybe he's a lot more upset to be left off than you/he realises?

He shouldn't have changed your background, granted, but perhaps it's worth finding a nice picture of all of them, rather than leaving him out?

It is petty, but I can also see why it'd hurt a bit to be left out, even if it felt too stupid to talk about. Maybe he thought changing it back was preferable to starting a conversation and feeling like an idiot?

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Hopasholic · 10/04/2013 10:45

But he's a grown man Caja

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harleyd · 10/04/2013 10:46

change it back and tell him to grow up

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PregnantPain · 10/04/2013 10:46

So what if he is upset, it is her phone and he is being childish. Both my wallpaper and screensaver is just DD at the moment, DP wouldn't even think to comment on this either way, it is up to me.

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Booyhoo · 10/04/2013 10:46

what age is he?

is he jealous of your children?

what a dick.

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KarmaBitch · 10/04/2013 10:47

I wouldn't make a huge deal of it tbh. I'd just change it back and in passing just mention 'Oh, any particular reason you changed the screen saver? I've changed it back to the original one.

He's not one of those who will also go through your every text, is he?

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squeakytoy · 10/04/2013 10:48

ffs.. its a phone screensaver... grips needed all round here I would say! I dont even know what my husband has as his... and mine alternates between a half naked shot of Johnny Depp or a pic of my dog usually...

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chocoholic05 · 10/04/2013 10:51

he's 43 I didn't think he was jealous of our children. It's not a nice photo of the boys either they're somewhere behind dh npt looking at the camera looking cold and not happy at all

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chocoholic05 · 10/04/2013 10:52

lol squeaky toy!

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AMumInScotland · 10/04/2013 10:55

Well, it is childish of him. But if you really have always had a picture of all of you, then maybe he has associated that with feeling good, and feels hurt for reasons that he probably can't explain very well. Hence swapping it to one which meets your previous criteria, but has him looking grumpy.

I'm guessing he's not someone who finds it easy to talk about emotions?

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Booyhoo · 10/04/2013 10:56

just change it back and say "leave my phone alone"

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PinkCanary · 10/04/2013 10:56

My DH likes to change my screen saver to things I'm petrified of, then waits patiently for my hysterical reaction once I realise...

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chocoholic05 · 10/04/2013 10:58

but does it matter? I didn't intend any malice it was just a nice photo end of and I'm annoyed about the intrusion more than anything really

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chocoholic05 · 10/04/2013 10:58

responding to mum in Scotland btw!

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chocoholic05 · 10/04/2013 11:07

just had another look at the photo. I stand corrected dc are gathered up at the front of him looking cold tired and fed up and sucking their thumbs dh is also looking cold and fed up. So not a nice photo imo

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KellyElly · 10/04/2013 11:09

I wouldn't be annoyed I would just think it was a bit weird. Is he a bit insecure?

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Booyhoo · 10/04/2013 11:10

you still haven't changed it?

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belfastbigmillie · 10/04/2013 11:11

Put one on of a naked fireman :)

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chocoholic05 · 10/04/2013 11:12

no cause I'm mums netting on my phone! I'm taking the boys to the playground soon will do it later or maybe at the playground?

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