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Original poster

my dh has changed my screen saver photo on my phone aibu to be annoyed?

53 replies

chocoholic05 · 10/04/2013 10:30

I have a new phone. my screen saver photos have always included my dh and my boys always. However this week I got round to adding a new screen saver photo and I it was a photo of my 2 boys looking very happy during a family day out at a farm last week. Smile A lovely photo. I didn't leave dh out out of spite or any reason at all its just a nice photo we both said we love. Anyway I came down this morning and discovered the screen saver photo has been changed to a photo with dh in it too. It's not even a nice photo he looks grumpy in it. Not one I would have chosen. I'm annoyed about it aibu?

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Branleuse · 10/04/2013 11:13

its definitely a sign of feeling insecure.

AMumInScotland · 10/04/2013 11:14

No, I'd be annoyed too. I'm just trying to think why he might have done it. If my DH decided to change any settings on my phone I'd be well pissed off!

Hulababy · 10/04/2013 11:17

I'd change it back.

Can't imagine DH ever doing anything like that tbh. My screen saver is often just DD, rarely has me or Dh on.

Is your Dh usually so insecure?

NoelHeadbands · 10/04/2013 11:17

I think that's weird.

MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 10/04/2013 11:19

My screensaver varies between Gerard Butler semi naked and Gerard Butler fully clothed, dh knows its more than his life is worth better than to even think about changing it.

There are three ways to play this now, either leave it, change it, or take a picture of yourself with a really angry face or flipping him off and put it as his screensaver.

MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour · 10/04/2013 11:21

He is being weird and a bit pathetic

Even if he does have an issue it's still really rude to just change it without asking you

madonnawhore · 10/04/2013 11:21

Messing around with your phone behind your back is not on IMO. Straying into invasion of privacy territory.

Also, what is the screensaver on his phone? Is it a pic of you?

Booyhoo · 10/04/2013 11:21

it takes 10 seconds to change back. you need to plan it? Confused

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chocoholic05 · 10/04/2013 11:23

I need to find it! I've taken loads of photos since then! I may even choose a different one entirely Smile

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kinkyfuckery · 10/04/2013 11:25

Wow, why so serious? Has he maybe just done it for a laugh? Change it to something funny, it could be a fun little battle you get going on Wink

Booyhoo · 10/04/2013 11:26

he wouldn't have deleted the one of just the boys would he?

what would he do if you had one of just you on it?

RememberingMyPFEs · 10/04/2013 11:30

All a bit weird on both sides. He shouldn't be fiddling with your phone and I would ask him why he changed it - he might be feeling left out. But, like a PP said, grips are needed all 'round. It's a pic on a phone. Mine is my Dog, who I only occasionally love more than DH... His is also of the Dog, who he always loves more than me. I don't care. it's just a phone FGS.

dothraki · 10/04/2013 11:39

belfast Grin

Hopasholic · 10/04/2013 12:48

I do think it's out of order & it's an invasion of privacy. I'd be putting a pass code on my phone. I bet he's gone through your phone, he must have in order to find a picture of him. If he's that insecure you can bet your life he's gone through your text messages too.

bbface · 10/04/2013 12:52

You are married and have children???? This sounds so childish!!

BoneyBackJefferson · 10/04/2013 12:54

Are you sure that he has changed it and its not just the phone going funny?

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chocoholic05 · 10/04/2013 13:33

i do have a pin number on my phone to stop my boys from going into it not my dh. He has worked out my pin number twice now. The first time I changed it. He said to me you're changed your password haven't you. I said yes how did you know and he said because I've tried the old number and it didn't work! Shock

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Fairylea · 10/04/2013 13:36

You're lucky you're not married to my dh.

He regularly surprises me with a screen shot of his willy when I go to look at my phone having set it himself as a surprise.... immature but amusing I guess. I do have a lock on my phone so it's not as if anyone can see it.

MiaowTheCat · 10/04/2013 13:39

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KellyElly · 10/04/2013 13:41

He has worked out my pin number twice now. The first time I changed it. He said to me you're changed your password haven't you. I said yes how did you know and he said because I've tried the old number and it didn't work! That's quite alarming behaviour Grin

allchocolatedout · 10/04/2013 13:46

Recently dh changed mine to a picture of his naked arse. But not only the screensaver but also the background and the lock screen photo. Every time i thought i had got rid of it, there it was!

Do you think your dh meant it as a joke, is in a grumpy photo on purpose? That is all i can think of tbh

ladyjadie · 10/04/2013 13:51

Change the picture to one of you holding a bit of paper saying 'Bugger Off'

Change your pin to something totally random and change the lock screen to a pic of you sticking your finger up/tongue out or just a sign saying 'gutted'

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HeadfirstForHalos · 10/04/2013 14:02

I would so change it to a picture of a buff semi naked man, even though that would usually be the last screen saver I'd choose.

CockyFox · 10/04/2013 14:07

That would annoy me.
That said it is a joke in our family whenever a phone is left unattended to change the background photo to one of a certain 70s popstar. I won't say who because it could out me but it is very funny.

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chocoholic05 · 10/04/2013 15:15

oh dear I think I should have checked the facts first. My 7 year old ds has just admitted to doing it! Blush

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