to be completely would up to the point I'm fuming over friends comments
parisfernandez · 07/04/2013 17:38
I posted a post up on facebook earlier asking if anyone fancied a night out tonight because there is a good band on in my local pub. I have not had a night out since last October and i split up with my DP last month. I was thinking a nice night with friends would do me really good. My DD is away tonight staying at her aunties house. 3 of my 'friends' commented saying that I shouldn't be going out when I'm pregnant, that I should wait until I've had my baby so i can have a 'proper night out' and the other told me I shouldn't be going out anyway when I have a DD at home. Thus resulted in the three of them laughing to each other about my situation and arranging a night out between themselves which is obviously not going to include me. These 3 women only started drinking a few months ago. They used to go out to the pub and just drink juice, now they are telling me that I can't go out because I can't just drink juice all night and there is no way I can enjoy myself when I can't have a drink.
I'm so angry. I cried after reading the comments they really hurt. I've removed it from Facebook now incase anyone else joined in.
Am I being unreasonable? Do they have a valid point? Should I not be going out when I'm pregnant? Should mums not be allowed a night off? I work full time so it's not as If I'm using tax payers money to pay for my cans of coca cola in the pub so i dont understand why I should stay in every night by myself.
I'm so angry
roofio87 · 07/04/2013 17:46
definitely not real friends. I'm 14 weeks pregnant and enjoyed a great night out last night. totally sober but enjoyed the company of my friends and being out. going to the pub while pregnant is nothing and they had no idea your if your dd was home or not. ignore them,you need some better friends!!
PenelopePortrait · 07/04/2013 17:46
I think you may be being a bit sensitive OP. How you've read it and how they meant the comments are probably far apart in meaning. IYSWIM?
The written word doesn't translate feelings very well and we generally interpret things based on how we are feeling. On another day, if you we're feeling happier, you may have taken the comments totally differently.
They probably have no idea they have upset you. Try not to take fb comments to heart
parisfernandez · 07/04/2013 17:48
They have no kids at all so they don't understand. It's been months since I was out and to be honest I'm not even going to bother tonight because I'm not in the mood now.
I feel alone and everything I do I get criticised for. If I stay in all the time they say I have a shit life and go on about how amazing their life is without children because they can do whatever they want. If I want to go out they say no no you shouldn't be going out anywhere. What is the point I can't win. I've been friends with them since childhood and i just don't understand why they are like this.
parisfernandez · 07/04/2013 17:59
Ladyvoldemort I have sent them all individual texts explaining that their comments upset me and also explaining my reasons in full about why I wanted to go out tonight and how it's possible to go out and just drink juice. I also pointed out that for several years they slagged people off who went out and had a drink whilst they sat with a juice and went home by 9pm.
DoJo · 07/04/2013 18:05
Either a) they aren't actually your friends and genuinely hold these asinine beliefs or b) they were trying to make a poorly judged joke which has come across badly in print and hasn't been helped by their subsequent posts. I would probably be tempted to ask them whether they were joking as then you aren't flying off the handle but still demonstrating that it hasn't gone down well that they are commenting in this manner.
LindyHemming · 07/04/2013 18:09
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