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AIBU to think cutlery licking is disgusting and beyond the pale.

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SaltaKatten · 06/04/2013 18:27

We were sitting at the table today eating a scrumptious chicken puff pastry pie. DH had been berating dd1 for her table manners when I caught him licking the handle of his fork! He claims this was a compliment to the chef as he didn't want to waste any sauce. I was utterly disgusted as I don't want to see cutlery being licked at the table. To make matters worse he then burped. DH says this is all fine and noone on mumsnet would agree with me.

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TidyDancer · 06/04/2013 18:28

I don't like burping at the table but the cutlery thing wouldn't bother me.


Yama · 06/04/2013 18:28

I lick my plate.

Burping (and farting) at the table is a no-no.


EffieTheDuck · 06/04/2013 18:29

yanbu. Your dh is disgusting.


HoHoHoNoYouDont · 06/04/2013 18:30

YABU. It's wrong to waste food Grin


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SundaeGirl · 06/04/2013 18:30

YABU. maybe not in front of the Queen, but he's at home.


ClaraOswald · 06/04/2013 18:31

How was he using his fork to get the handle covered in sauce?


Mutt · 06/04/2013 18:33

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yousankmybattleship · 06/04/2013 18:33

YABU and slightly uptight. Unless the Queen was there. Or Kate Middleton. I'd be put off by the burping but the fork licking thing is no biggie in my book.


floatyflo · 06/04/2013 18:34

Eh? Licking cutlery? or rather not licking.

What new table etiquette is this?

I was bought up to not lick your knife in case you cut ya tongue. Not because it was seen as disgusting.

Although agree on gas - no no no. although two year old ds thinks its flippin' hilarious at the mo


floatyflo · 06/04/2013 18:35

That should be brought shouldn't it? Blush


AlfalfaMum · 06/04/2013 18:36

Burping not on, did he even say excuse me?
The fork thing sounds pretty messy, although I'm not sure what the etiquette is for cleaning the handle. Not getting food on the handle in the first place springs to mind..


DH often sucks the blade of his knife, it drives me mental!


CremeEggThief · 06/04/2013 18:37

YANBU. It's disgusting. I read your OP with my "euuugh" face firmly on.


znaika · 06/04/2013 18:39

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SaltaKatten · 06/04/2013 18:42

Hmm, obviously very divided opinions here. I stand by my thinking it is disgusting though. To make it worse it was a see through handle so I could see his tongue. I suppose I'm a bit particular about table manners and I can't abide licking cutlery, licking food before eating it or burping. Otherwise I think I'm fairly relaxed =)

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uncongenial · 06/04/2013 18:43

He sounds sloppy and a hypocrite to boot (berating dc for table manners prior to the incident) Wink


Purpleknickers · 06/04/2013 18:46

I think it's disgusting too FWIW. I actually fell out with a good friend who criticised the way my nephew held his fork but then proceeded to lick her knife.
To be fair the argument had been brewing for 2 years but it was over a year ago and we've still not spoken.


UnChartered · 06/04/2013 18:48

one should NEVER fart before the queen....

always let her go first


McNewPants2013 · 06/04/2013 18:50

Depends on where you live, in some countries burping on the table is seen as a compliment.


floatyflo · 06/04/2013 18:52

UnChartered Grin


Fenton · 06/04/2013 18:54


You must have the same joke book as my DH.


UnChartered · 06/04/2013 18:55

it's a very old joke Fenton

is your DH very old too?



catkind · 06/04/2013 18:56

Title made me LOL, how else do you get the food off the cutlery? Even handles wouldn't bother me tbh if it was just a little spill. If it got really mucky like dropped in the sauce I'd suggest rinsing.


CurlyhairedAssassin · 06/04/2013 18:58

He may as well lick his plate too while he's at it. Yuck!


SaltaKatten · 06/04/2013 19:00

It was very mucky! I did give him some tissue paper to wipe it with after the initial licking.

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