Quick summary: DH has two children from a previous marriage. We've been together for six years and I've just given birth to a gorgeous son.
It took me a while to convince him to have this baby, but I made it clear from the start that if he wasn't open to having children with me then he would lose me; I have always wanted to be a mum more than anything and although I love his children I wanted to know what it would feel like to have a little one of my own. He came around to the idea and despite fertility problems we are now a happy little family unit and he is the most loving and devoted father to our DS, it fills me with joy to see them together.
Anyway, two days after we're home from hospital, he mentions going to the doctors to see about getting his tubes tied. We'd talked about it whilst I was pregnant and I said that I was happy only having one (yes I know I am stupid) - but he hadn't brought it up again since and when he did it kind of knocked me for six. He realised I was taken aback and explained that he really didn't want any more children, although he adores the three he has.
I said to him that although I was still sure I only wanted one, there was a big part if me that just didn't want that avenue closed. I'm more than happy to get the coil fitted and take other precautions... He told me to think about it.
Today he comes home and says he's seen the doctor and made an appointment. I feel like he's pushing ahead with this because he doesn't want me to have the time to say no... Am I being unreasonable or are my mad post pregnancy hormones making me feel so emotional about it all?
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phoenixrose314 · 05/04/2013 16:08
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