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AIBU?

to feel slightly queasy when a woman describes herself as a mummy?

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MardyBra · 04/04/2013 12:46

I'm a mother, or a mum.

The kids called me mummy when they were little, but I find it too cutesy when a grown woman describes herself as a "mummy".

Especially on a blog.

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abbyfromoz · 04/04/2013 13:22

Awww i love being called or calling myself a mummy. DD also calls me mama. Makes my heart melt... That being said I find the term 'hubby' distinctly vom worthy... But that's me each to their own!

Blowin · 04/04/2013 13:24

I describe myself as The Matriarch.

MardyBra · 04/04/2013 13:25

Wow. I love The Matriarch.

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MardyBra · 04/04/2013 13:25

Sorry abby, it's up there with hubby for me.

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Suzietwo · 04/04/2013 13:25

ahh, yes. i see. i was thinking about working type situation but can see how the first one comes about.

i dont have a social life so the second one never does

Jins · 04/04/2013 13:28

I loved being called Mummy by the DSs

I never called myself a Mummy when talking to another adult

Machli · 04/04/2013 13:29

I don't mind I'd someone else wants to call themselves Mummy, why would I?

I used to call myself Mummy to my dc when they were small but the always just called me Mum, don't think I ever heard them say the word "Mummy".

DorisIsWaiting · 04/04/2013 13:29

My kids are small andc all me Mummy- therefore I am a Mummy.

I think you're over thinking it. For small children it is not twee.

Why are you so keen to mock/ belittle a group of women who do identify with the term? (I don't in particular but don't have a problem if soemone does). It is the place they are in at that moment (they may be proud of being a mummy). Why should they have to term themselves something you deem acceptable?

DontSHOUTTTTTT · 04/04/2013 13:29

I think it's a bit wierd when big kids call their Mums 'Mummy' but I guess it is just what you are used too. I have the preconception that its a very old school/posh thing to do but that could be to do with watching too many episodes of Absolutely Fabulous.

I am Ma or Mum.

Suzietwo · 04/04/2013 13:30

i have a 54 year old client who refers to 'mummy'

i twitch every time she does it

Blowin · 04/04/2013 13:33

Mardy It goes down well at social gatherings:

They say: "And what do you do?"
I answer, stoney-faced and monotoned, "I am a full time Matriarch."

Funnily, they tend to drift away after that exchange.

Peevish · 04/04/2013 13:33

Imagine the equivalent male situation - men prancing about self-describing as 'daddies'. Men phoning up the school and saying 'Hello, it's X's daddy here.'

I am a woman with a child, I am definitely not, under any circumstances, a 'mummy'. Yuck.

wigglesrock · 04/04/2013 13:33

My 86 year old nana still signs my 63 year old Mums cards "love Mammy" I can think of worse things to either refer to yourself as or be described as.

Peevish · 04/04/2013 13:35

I don't think it had anything to do with what your children call you - obviously, lots of children call their mothers 'mummy. But why would you then use that term to describe yourself to anyone other than your own small child? I do point out to doctors etc that I am not in fact their mummy, so to quit it, please.

MardyBra · 04/04/2013 13:37

Peevish Imagine the equivalent male situation - men prancing about self-describing as 'daddies'. Men phoning up the school and saying 'Hello, it's X's daddy here.'

That's it in a nutshell. And that answers Doris' point as well.

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TravelinColour · 04/04/2013 13:39

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wigglesrock · 04/04/2013 13:41

But that's exactly what my husband did say when he rang school to tell them one of the kids was ill " Hiya it's Olivias daddy here, shes ill, wont be in. See you later, bye"

Pigsmummy · 04/04/2013 13:44

Hmmm

abbyfromoz · 04/04/2013 13:44

DH always says to DD 'are you daddies baby?' I think it's gorgeous... Ahhh getting broody now...

HesterShaw · 04/04/2013 13:46

Did DD say "Yes"?

MadameDefarge · 04/04/2013 13:47

DS calls me mum or mother. In my head however I am still his mummy

MintyyAeroEgg · 04/04/2013 13:52

Am I spectacularly missing the point here? I thought op was about people describing themselves as a mummy? My 9 year old ds still calls me Mummy and I love it. Dd has moved on to Mum now but she is a cool pre-teen.

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Jins · 04/04/2013 13:53

It's different being called Mummy by your child to describing yourself as a Mummy when you are talking to another adult though

I don't have any issue with anyone calling themselves Mummy when talking to their child. Tell me in conversation that you're a mummy and you will be forever pigeonholed :)

MardyBra · 04/04/2013 13:56

^
What Jins said.

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higgle · 04/04/2013 14:00

I don't refer to myself as "Mummy" but I like my sons who are now 21 and 18 to call that. I call my mother "mummy" too. Somehow the word "mum" makes me think of a slobbish woman with acrylic jumper and footglove boots, greying hair and nasty specs. DS 1 sometimes calls me "Mamaski" which I quite like too.

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