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Original poster

to feel slightly queasy when a woman describes herself as a mummy?

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MardyBra · 04/04/2013 12:46

I'm a mother, or a mum.

The kids called me mummy when they were little, but I find it too cutesy when a grown woman describes herself as a "mummy".

Especially on a blog.

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fedupofnamechanging · 04/04/2013 13:05

My kids only say mummy when they want money Wink

Sadly, they have already bankrupted me, so are out of luck

yaimee · 04/04/2013 13:06

ughhh after seeing that bag yadnbu!
Someone must actually buy those!

TheOrchardKeeper · 04/04/2013 13:06

Sometimes, at the end of the day, when I've been stalked all day by a 2 year old who loves saying 'mummy' over and over even though he doesn't want/need anything, I just want to be called my own bloody name and have a Wine Grin

Chockyeggpants · 04/04/2013 13:07

I am a forty something year old mummy. DD is 6, and I'm not ready to be called mum yet!!
I don't say flippy floppy when I am with her.... I'm afraid I say fuck it...too long not being a mummy , I guess.
I am also a domestic slobbess. Definitely not a yummy mummy. Short grey haired, loony and very arsey. No baking shitty cupcakes or crafty crap either.

Jins · 04/04/2013 13:08

Absolutely hate the word mummy when used in this context. Hate 'mummy friends' even more.

In fact my brief venture to the Local board was curtailed as there were too many people looking for mummy friends

Chockyeggpants · 04/04/2013 13:09

At a new parents evening at school a couple of years ago I forgot my name.....

maddening · 04/04/2013 13:09

I think mummy is what I will describe myself as while being the mother of a young child (currently toddler) and that is what he will probably call me (when he gets beyond exclaiming "ma!" when I enter a room. I think I will describe myself as a mum when he is older.

I remember the time I called my mum "mum" as opposed to "mummy" as I decided to do so - we were in the car - my mum remembers it too. So to me it is an age thing and while I talk to ds and refer to myself as mummy that's fine imo.

If someone askes me what I was in a non child setting I would say I was a mother though - however have had v little non child time in the last two years.

sherbetpips · 04/04/2013 13:09

DH and I have a vomit inducing habit of referring to each other as mummy and daddy despite the fact that our DS will not call us either, only dad and mum. 'Daddy can you get this for DS please'. Its like we are talking in the third person for him. Very odd, dont know why we do it, need to stop.

badguider · 04/04/2013 13:10

I'm preg with my first and although i'm willing to acknowledge that i don't know shit yet about what it'll really be like, i can't imagine calling myself a mummy in any circumstances.

Surely it's 'i'm x's mum' if your'e talking to somebody at nursery or wherever or 'i have a son/daughter' or 'i have a child' or 'i have a baby' if discussing elsewhere...?

I don't have a job that can be descried as 'a .........' I always have to say 'I work for .....' or actually describe my work so can't imagine saying I am a ....

vitaminC · 04/04/2013 13:11

To be honest, when I had toddlers, I probably did refer to myself as a mummy, although only when discussing baby/toddler-related subjects.

I don't know what blog you're reading, but if she's discussing potty-training, weaning etc, it probably wouldn't bother me. If she's discussing rather more high-brow subjects, the "mummy" would sound a bit out of place. I guess it's a question of context.

MintyyAeroEgg · 04/04/2013 13:12

All the mummy nicknames on here give me the actual rage. I just cannot stand it!

There is one thread with a puke-inducing title about new mummies and their wibbly tummies and I have had to hide it other wise I am sure I would smash my laptop up every time I saw it in active convos. How can grown fucking women talk about themselves in this way??

So, Mardy, I think Yanbu Smile.

HesterShaw · 04/04/2013 13:13

How about usernames such as "Harrysmummy"?

HesterShaw · 04/04/2013 13:13

Oh, X posts Grin

Original poster
MardyBra · 04/04/2013 13:14

"I don't know what blog you're reading"

I'm not. I run a mile from anyone pertaining to be a mummyblogger.

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MardyBra · 04/04/2013 13:15

Mintyy - do you want to take over as the OP of the thread? You seem more bothered than me.

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TheOrchardKeeper · 04/04/2013 13:16

I have a fat arse and am a mum

I do not have a wibbly tummy & am not a mummy.

Glad we cleared that up nobody Smile

ItsallisnowaFeegle · 04/04/2013 13:16

*Disclaimer: I would never introduce myself as DS mummy. I am Itsall and I'm a mum of two, if that kind of introduction is called for.

But, I tell my boy how much mummy loves him or how he's mummy's beautiful/ smiley/ big boy etc. I'm happy enough to be a mummy and fully expect DS to call me mummy.

TheOrchardKeeper · 04/04/2013 13:16

I may change my name to coochycoo just for a giggle though

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MardyBra · 04/04/2013 13:16

I once started an aibu about "Harrysmummy" type names and got a right pasting Hester. There is one bereaved mother with a mummy type name, so it was probably justified.

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Nicolaeus · 04/04/2013 13:17

So far (DS is 18months) I've never referred to myself as mummy apart from when talking to DS (e.g. Give that to mummy).

I don't know when I would. People tend to ask if I have children not if I'm a mum/mummy.

StickEmUpPunk · 04/04/2013 13:17

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Suzietwo · 04/04/2013 13:17

WHY would i refer to being a mummy??

i have children, yes. but i cant begin to imagine a set of circumstances where i tell someone i am a mum/mother or mummy

DianaTrent · 04/04/2013 13:18

YAProbablyBU but I don't care as I am really not a fan of the nauseatingly twee. When DD was in hospital all the nurses used to refer to me as Mum, even when DD was not in the room, and it made me want to twist their ears. I would love to support Clic Sargent more if I had more time, but their whole "yummy Mummy" theme to much of their fundraising makes me want to vomit.

Maat · 04/04/2013 13:18

I don't recall ever being known as "mummy".

I think I was always "mum" which was usually pronounced
"awwwww... muuuuuuuuummm".

DC have called us Ma & Pa since they became teenagers, which I like.

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MardyBra · 04/04/2013 13:21

Suzitwo " i cant begin to imagine a set of circumstances where i tell someone i am a mum/mother or mummy"

Try these:

Hello, School Secretary/Doctor's receptionist/whatever. It's MrsMardy here, LittleMardy's mum/mother/mummy...

(At a social gathering). "Do you work?"
Me: "Yes, I have a part-time job and I look after the kids too"
Some people: "I'm a stay at home mummy".

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