to think I may have the worst child ever,(potty training horror stories needed)

[hairtearing]

I feel guilty even as I write that,
but atm I am toilet training, (3.6) its very now or never I KNEW as long as nappies were an alt. he never would so I got rid completely.
he got as far as weeing on a potty, he is scared of the toilet, he won't pull his pants down as its too 'cold' , and won't poo in the potty.
we never got any further and regression has set it and his behavior has nosedived at nursery.
Not wee'd on the potty once today :/
I feel so helpless even considered getting some anti-d's to keep my head above water, if its not his behaviour its other peoples 'helpful' comments, I have a newborn to contend with too :/.
Its such a severe case of not wanting train, I really can't go back to nappies, its been over a month and it will mean he has 'won' in his eyes, but I need another alternative.

Op you poor thing, I have found it really hard with dd1 so I can empathise with you. I first tried to potty train dd1 over 2 1/2 years ago (3 months before dd2 was born). She had it cracked within two days and then got bored and stopped. So we have periods of weeks where we have no accidents and then she'll come home from school with 3 changes of clothing in a week! She also has gone through a number of phases of pooing in her knickers. We have tried everything, stickers, reward charts, presents, confiscating toys when she has an accident (this was the most effective, that and making her run around with no knickers on) but she always loses interest in our latest scheme. At the moment she seems dry, no accidents for a couple of weeks. She'll be 5 in may.

Surprisingly, dd2 (2 years 3 months) has been telling us when she's pood in her nappy for about a year and has asked to get out of the bath a couple of times because she wants to do a wee. We're wondering if she'll crack it before dd1!

Horror story, this is mortifying. Took dd1swimming and noticed bits floating in the water. Assumed the pool was dirty but didn't think too much of it until I gave dd1 a shower. There was poo all over her back. She said she had been enjoying herself so much she didn't want to waste time by going to the toilet.

Hi thanks for replies,
I have pirate pete, not a jot well he will read it, and likes pressing the button! pfft.

he will not sit on the potty, not pull down his pants not ask for it, if you catch him and try and sit him down he will scream and fight, all your horror stories sound vastly better than mine :/ .
he starts like school nursery he's 4 in september, so not a lot of time.
Urgh
I have maybe thought, pullups out and night and off indoors,
he loves little games on the ipad, but I have gone all bootcamp on that basically if he wants it he sits on the potty with it, which sort of works.

Go back to nappies. Honestly, he won't think he's 'won'. There is absolutely no point putting yourself through this. We had three attempts with DD (who is about the same age as your DS) and she only just just got it. She would be sat on the potty for ages, do nothing, then would go and pee in a corner surreptitiously the minute I let her go. I don't know what did it in the end, I think she was just 'ready'. Although for the first week she preferred to have a blanket wrapped round her on the potty while she sat/wee'd. We had about a month of accidents before she started taking herself to the potty. We also did a lot of undressing practice with her, so she was a bit better at taking her trousers/knickers down than she had been (she can be a bit uncoordinated). Poo only just started happening reliably on the potty and the toilet is still a no go area, but it's so much better than it was. I can't imagine trying to do that with a newborn!

Horror stories. Hmm. DS is two. I lost track of him for a minute or so when I was getting them ready for bathtime. I found him up in our attic, sitting in his own poo and eating it. That was special. Or the time that DD had diarrhoea and I was out of the room for a few minutes, which was long enough for her to run around, smearing it on every single thing in the living room. Or when we realised that she was hiding under blankets on top of the toy chest to have a wee and everything inside the toy chest was sodden.

keep the nappies off , and put on toilet at that age , if they can ask for sweets they can ask for the toilet .

shellbu, if it were only that easy, he's terrified of the toilet due to nearly falling down t :/

its gonna be a long haul that's for sure.

What about pull ups out/travelling/night etc and pantless training inside.

This may sound really weird, but my son learned to go on the toilet when he sat BACKWARDS... Yep...he then could easily watch himself pee.... LOL

Is there a way to make sure the bathroom is warmer?

I would definitely recommend pull ups. It's a bit of security for you when out and about and like big boys pant for the little one.
Night Time may take longer than days to be dry so try not to stress about it and get day times dry first.
My son only stopped night time accidents at around 4.5
Good luck! I also carried a potty round whilst out so it was available straight away

Oh and for nights I stopped all drinks (other than a sip) an hour before bed x