Suitable punishment for naughty 3 year old?

[Sillyboys]

This is not so much an AIBU..it is an IHBU(is he being unreasonable)!DH has just returned from the park with the DSs .DS1 is 3.5 and came in in tears crying because he wanted his toy dinosaur.When I asked where it was he cried and said it was in the river.Then DH admitted he has thrown it in the river because DS1 had deliberately thrown a ball in the river that they were playing with.DS has been quite naughty recently(has a new baby brother) but I think DH has been a bit harsh.This dinosaur goes everywhere,even to bed,and I think DH has been mean.I don't agree that DS1 should get away with everything but I think confiscation would have been enough,not permanently throwing it away.AIBU?

What?! That is an absolutely barbaric thing to do to a three year old child!

What is wrong with some parents? Why this crazy over reaction to everything? I've just seen the other thread about the four year old and the easter eggs and am stunned at how cruel some people can be to tiny kids. I'm not a soft touch by any means but punishments need to be proportionate to the actions and the understanding of the child!

I'd have gone ballistic if a partner of mine had done that. I probably would have kicked him out the house at least temporarily for being such a twat.

WTAF? The merest hint of anyone doing this to my DS's monkey makes me feel physically ill!

OP, you H is a twat, and a mean, disgusting little twat at that.

Go and get the dinosaur.

I agree with crashdoll - I cannot contemplate staying around someone who is that cruel, what an utterly bastard thing to do. I'm glad your little boy has his dinosaur back, but Good God I utterly despair.

Have just read the Easter egg punishment thread and I thought that was bloody sad too but refrained from posting.

have people gone mad because it is the holidays?

What a horrible thing to do. I have to say though my DH has threatened similar before to dcs and I have told him to never dare throw teddy/blanket away no matter how naughty dcs are.

Your poor ds, I hope you can get dinosaur back or buy a replacement.

I told DH about this earlier. He said if he had done that when ours were small (he wouldn't have), he would have been too scared to have come home to tell me!

LTB is a bit extreme, surely? The DH is probably sleep deprived if there is a new baby in the house, and 3 yr olds can be very aggravating. He lost his temper, did something stupid and has now had to paddle in the river to redeem himself. Lesson learned, he'll think before acting next time.

I had a teddy from birth, my absolute comfort toy. He was with me when I moved, went on school trips etc. I lost it when I was an adult, and I cried. I was so upset because it held all these memories and it had always been there. I cannot imagine how a three year old can feel. Saying the DH made a mistake isn't good enough in my books. This is a horrible horrible thing to do and it would make me think long and hard about the way I have perceived DH so far. Hurting a three year old so badly? What a bully. And you can't take that shock back, your little boy will remember this. I am so sad for the kid.

Your poor ds, suitable punishment would have been going home and telling him if he does it again he wont be able to come out and play with daddy! Thats my opinion anyway. You never ever chuck your childrens toys away, confiscate yes, although not a toy that goes to bed. As for your DH, you should be very angry with him, send him out to buy a new dinosaur and an extra one to say sorry

Pleased that dinosaur is back. I bet your DP has learned from this, it really was a terrible thing to do, but I hope he will reflect on what appropriate sanctions are.

Your DS wasn't naughty. Balls are to be thrown, some people throw them into rivers for dogs. Hes copying normal adult behaviour. Poor DS, he hasn't acted badly at all, DH has. Glad he has it back, but what was your DH thinking.

Glad your dh got it back. Sleep deprived parents plus 2 toddlers can make for very irrational parent moments.

You sound nice OP but, your DH is a twat.

I would have gone absolutely insane in this position. I hope your son chucks his phone/wallet/keys next time.
Idiot

I feel so sorry for your little boy. 3 is still a baby. Your 'd'h sounds like a complete and utter cunt, and he'd be out on his ear if he was mine.

I'd have gone batshit ! Your poor son. Comfortors are out of bounds.

Your DH was very mean

Glad you got the dinosaur back.

Hurrah for safe return of the dinosaur! No harm done. Silly thing to do, of course, but we've all had our parenting fails, I'm sure, especially while sleep deprived and looking after a 3 yr old AND a new baby.

Bet your OH is very sheepish now, OP. Grab a cuddle with him and imagine how comedy he must have looked being that mad with a toddler. We've all done it, don't care what anyone else says. Main thing is he went in after it. That must be worth a giggle too, surely.

Oh thank goodness you got it back, poor little boy.

I wouldn't dream of doing that with ANY toy, let alone a beloved one.

My dad threw my tape player out of the window when I was 15 and listening to some awful guns and roses song which was basically just screaming fuck off over and over again.

He then spent the rest of the afternoon fixing it :) Glad everyone is feeling calmer.

Glad the dinosaur is back, but seriously... What a fucking horrible thing to do. What an utterly heartless bastard you would have to be to do that to a child's comforter.

Get a grip. A cuddly toy went in a river: no one was harmed! I am sure both son and husband learned a little more about life and each other from it.