Sister set her wedding date two months before mine

[Karadi]

She did check with me that it was alright and even though i was taken aback, I said its fine go ahead

A bit of background. Ive been seeing my finance for a couple of years, got engaged in Sept and have been dithering about setting a date but thought we do it July. Small wedding so not much planning req.

Sister met her finance in Sept, had a whirlwind romance and they have deceided to get married and not wait. Sister is 36 yrs old and wants to start a family asap and thinking of getting married in May.

Considering all this I have said go ahead but at the back of my mind i think she is being a bit U and sort of trying to upstage me. I say sort of because she is lovely and we are very good friends so i dont think all this is conscious. She is older than me btw.

So AIBU for thinking she is?

Having a wedding is not "upstaging" someone, it is just "having a wedding".

You've been dithering and have not set a date.

She has reasons to want to get married quickly.

As far as she knew you could have waited another year.

She's not dong it to upstage you, she's doing it because she wants to be married.

Yabu as you said you were dithering about when, why should she wait when you dithering? if you are worried about overseas guests have the wedding a few days after hers.

It's a bit Bennett sisters to worry about which sister gets married first

Karadi - difficult decision, so mature. Your sister is lucky to have you.

I think your worried that people won't be able to travel to go to BOTH weddings?

I agree with ImTooHecsyForYourParty , maybe have it a few days after hers...and then out of town, people travel LONG distances can attend both! :))

I'm sure if she confronted you about the date, she would understand just talking about how you feel about everything.... Doesn't hurt to talk and ask for suggestions on how to make things work for both of you.

On what planet does it matter, Special Subject? It matters for those who are offering financial assistance. It matters to those who don't have the finances to attend both. It matters to double-wedding-bridesmaids who can't afford to be in both weddings. There may be no "rules" about booking your wedding close to your siblings - but it does matter in many ways.

think she is being a bit U and sort of trying to upstage me

You do realise what marriage actually means? It’s not a competition nor is it about the brides big day.

She didn’t even have to ask as doesn’t need your permission or approval.

YOU DO REALISE THIS THREAD IS SIX YEARS OLD!!!!

ZOMBIE

Would it be a terrible idea to do weddings a week apart? Hers one weekend and yours the next? So all visitors from abroad can attend both if that's the issue

FFS Zombie

Happy sixth anniversary to both couples.