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to consider spending my bonus on something frivolous?

34 replies

VelvetSpoon · 26/03/2013 20:50

at the end of the month I will be receiving a work related bonus which will just about scrape into 4 figures (by a few pennies) after tax.

I am waiting to buy my exP out of our house, but as he is a complete tosserwon't accept any reasonable offers that is stalemated, and likely to be for some time. Now I could just put the money towards that, it's what I've done with any bonus I've received in past years, but I actually feel like just blowing some of it on something a bit silly, and entirely for myself. not least because I work bloody hard (am out of the house 11-12 hours a day) and am a LP to 2 teenagers, which is also not easy! So AIBU?

And if I am, what would you do with the money?

I should add that I am able to buy Exp out by increasing mortgage and using other savings, so the bonus wouldn't make the difference between being able to and not, iyswim.

The other thing I should add is that my house is a building site, and needs £s spent on it to finish it (but I am reluctant to do much to it while Exp and I are still negotiating over the value...as the less its worth the less I have to pay him etc)

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VelvetSpoon · 26/03/2013 20:51

strikeout fail Blush

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MatureUniStudent · 26/03/2013 20:53

Oh spend it, spoil yourself.

TiaMariaandSpringCleaning · 26/03/2013 20:54

Go for it! It's your money, you worked hard for it and it sounds like you can afford to be a bit frivolous, so I why not?! What have you in mind? [nosey]

WallyBantersJunkBox · 26/03/2013 20:55

What do you fancy?

My entire bonus will go on a tax bill. Sad

So I am happy living vicariously through you!

Sounds like you need a little holiday?

GinAndSlimlinePlease · 26/03/2013 20:56

a few years ago I got a (just) 4 figure bonus, and I spent it on the most amazing bed.

Last year I got a similar figure and frittered it away on work on our house, Xmas presents etc. I really regretted frittering it away rather than buying one much wanted item.

so treat yourself in a way you'll remember! Grin

Wereonourway · 26/03/2013 20:57

Holiday, weekend away, spending spree on clothes.

You only live once!

AKissIsNotAContract · 26/03/2013 20:57

I'd buy a handbag.

SadGiantPanda · 26/03/2013 20:59

How about sponsoring a panda?

It would make me a little bit less sad.

GreatBags · 26/03/2013 21:01

If it were me I'd go away somewhere, go and see the northern lights, or get some sun somewhere. Is there anywhere you've always wanted to go?

StealthPolarBear · 26/03/2013 21:03

Ha ha panda what's the point, she'll only get a letter in a few months saying her pandas probably dead

SadGiantPanda · 26/03/2013 21:06

:(

I think the OP should buy a handbag made out of polar bear fur.

MatureUniStudent · 26/03/2013 21:07

A diamond ring, at the auction, so you can afford it. Will last you a life time, make you happy each day it twinkles at you and worst case scenario can be pawned or sold!

MatureUniStudent · 26/03/2013 21:08

Or a polar bear skin rug at the auction :)

StealthPolarBear · 26/03/2013 21:08
MatureUniStudent · 26/03/2013 21:10

;)

nenevomito · 26/03/2013 21:14

Another vote for treating yourself.

Life's short and if you can, then why not :)

BombayBadonkadonks · 26/03/2013 21:16

I intend to blow a big chunk of my bonus on shoes and sparkly stuff! Grin Grin

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VelvetSpoon · 26/03/2013 21:24

aah Panda. How much does it cost to sponsor one? One of my good friends adores pandas and went all the way to China to cuddle a baby one (well, not just for that reason but it was the highlight of her trip!)

I was thinking spending some of it on Botox or fillers, but have been talked out of it! I would love veneers, but can't afford that on the bonus alone, so am considering hair extensions and semi permanent false eyelashes. I wear the temporary eyelashes all the time so I thought it was worth it...and I'd love longer hair. It is completely frivolous though and a real waste of about £300 Blush

I did have a diamond ring (my engagement ring, bought it myself thanks again for that Ex! it got stolen a few years ago) if I'm going to have a big ring again I'd rather someone else bought it for me. Not that there's much chance of that mind you!

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dadofnone · 26/03/2013 21:24

I would be going on a hiking trip around Norway or Argentina (that's what I'm doing when my endowment matures next year!)

fitflopqueen · 26/03/2013 21:29

Definitely something just for you alone, I have today spent my (expected) bonus on a bag. Rather egged on by DD (who will borrow it) and even DS said "well done Mum about time"so feeling quite chuffed.

raisah · 26/03/2013 21:55

Holiday somewhere hot and sunny, this long winter is making me depressed.

AdoraBell · 26/03/2013 22:02

YANBU Spend it on you.

I once had enough to buy myself a pair of diamond studd earrings. I also had a skint sister who was struggling to feed herself and DN. while I was more than happy to help and never expected to get anything back, I still want those earrings. Never been able to afford them since. Don't miss out on treating yourself in and then regret it later.

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VelvetSpoon · 26/03/2013 22:25

I am already going on hols with the DC in the summer. I'm not really a holiday person, one a year is fine for me.

I think I might get the hair even if I do end up looking like mutton dressed up as lamb

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propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS · 26/03/2013 22:29

Pandas are pointless. They are yesterday's news. Spend it on a sexy handbag and a bottle of champers to drink whilst staring at it.

LetMeAtTheWine · 26/03/2013 22:48

Definitely spend it on yourself, you've earned it so splash out Smile