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To not watch a film I have no interest in?

43 replies

littlemissbunny · 23/03/2013 20:46

We have lovefilm and the latest film we got sent I have absolutely no interest in watching! It's not something that interests me at all, I'm in my thirties so think I know what kind of thing I like! :o

oh said shall we watch the film tonight, I said you can watch it if you like but it doesn't interest me so I shall do some reading/knitting instead (still sat in the same room). He then insists I should watch it as I would like it.

I know it's about compromise but I said he could watch it, I don't make him watch films he doesn't want too, and accept we have different tastes. It's not like I stopped him watching it.

So Aibu to not sit through a film just because he thinks I should?

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Salmotrutta · 23/03/2013 20:48

Is he 5?

PandaNot · 23/03/2013 20:48

YANBU, but I'm always ready to be surprised by what I might like, I often start watching films I have no interest in and then love them by the end!

thebody · 23/03/2013 20:49

I get you on this one. My dh gets a bit right lipped when I am mumsnet ring and he's watching extreme couponing ( he's tight so likes this) or extreme fishing( self explanatory).

Just tell him to fuck off, that will work.

YouTheCat · 23/03/2013 20:50

What film is it?

cathpip · 23/03/2013 20:50

OMG, I am having precisely the same conversation argument with my dh right now!! yanbu

HavingALittleFaithBaby · 23/03/2013 20:51

Are you with my ex?! He used to push me to do that. Under his force persuasion, I watched Donnie Darko and The Butterfly Effect amongst others. He thought they would 'stretch' me Hmm they didn't. They totally freaked me out.

YANBU. Put your foot down! :)

BOEUF · 23/03/2013 20:51

It's perfectly reasonable to say that you want to read/whatever while it's on. You are still being companionable.

AgentZigzag · 23/03/2013 20:54

It is annoying when someone wants you to do something you know you're not up for, but then it's also annoying when you've really enjoyed a film and think the other person would too and they refuse to watch Grin

What film is it?

There was a thread a while ago where the bloke wanted his wife to sit and watch telly with him in the evening, they didn't really talk or anything, he just wanted her to be there.

It was a bit odd because I think he wanted a bit of attention and the OP wanted to go on the computer (which can be quite isolating for the other person being 'ignored' in favour of internet randoms), but it came across as so controlling to force someone to sit there when you know they don't want to.

LineRunnyEgg · 23/03/2013 20:54

Bof, you have gone all Jane Austen with your companionable-ness talk.

TheNebulousBoojum · 23/03/2013 20:55

He's your OH, not your dad. is he usually this bossy?

TheNebulousBoojum · 23/03/2013 20:57

Although I do remember watching Star Trek and OH (who dislikes sci fi) came in playing an instrument loudly. I sent him out for that.
If you let him watch it, then you should be free to choose how you spend your evening too.

NynaevesSister · 23/03/2013 20:59

What is that about? Mine does it too with TV programmes. He likes to watch shows like Steptoe and Son. I don't. I don't mind if he watches, I can read or do something else in the same room. He will interrupt me constantly because I just have to watch this next bit because it is so funny. It isn't to me. But I am being unsociable?

Should I interrupt his TV show to read him a paragraph from my book because it is so good?

JammySplodger · 23/03/2013 20:59

I was just thinking - what could you request that would 'stretch' him, but I think Jane Austen fits the bill quite nicely.

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littlemissbunny · 23/03/2013 21:02

It's the girl with the dragon tattoo.

If I don't know if I am going to like it I give it a go and see, but this one I knew I wouldn't be interested in as i have heard about it, It had creepy music before it even got going

I watched a film once he insisted I would like and I hated it, gave me nightmares after! Blush

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YouTheCat · 23/03/2013 21:06

It's a bit intense and one of those films you really need to concentrate on. The subject matter is quite disturbing, so not light viewing at all.

JammySplodger · 23/03/2013 21:08

THB, dragon tattoo is a bit harrowing in places, if you're not up for it, definitely make yourself elsewhere.

AgentZigzag · 23/03/2013 21:10

It's one of the best and worst films I've seen, agree with Cat, really disturbing at the same time as can't tear yourself away from it.

The bit where she gets the bloke back made me wonder what kind of a person I was, because even though I know she was totally in the wrong, a part of me eggs her on because the wanker deserved it.

stripeyjimjams · 23/03/2013 21:11

My DH is like this: "but you're not WATCHING IT! I'll rewind it." Diary of feckin Country Priest. As long as it ain't got subtitles, you can pretend you're watching it.

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littlemissbunny · 23/03/2013 21:11

There's a lot of screaming! Think I might be anti social and put my headphones in!!

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AgentZigzag · 23/03/2013 21:14

What was the one which gave you nightmares?

It's not good that even though he knows you he's suggesting films you wouldn't like.

The dragon tattoo isn't really light viewing, and if he knows you're sensitive to seeing shit like that why would he try and guilt you into watching?

It's almost like he's a bit obsessive and has a thing about getting you to watch things that make you uncomfortable.

That would make me feel uncomfortable about his motives.

UniqueAndAmazing · 23/03/2013 21:14

yanbu and your dp ibu.

it's horrible to force someone to do something they don't want to, no matter what it is. :(

you're still in the same room so I can't see his problem.

JammySplodger · 23/03/2013 21:14

Turn the music up, there's an awful lot of screaming.

Jux · 23/03/2013 21:15

Is it the Swedish version with subtitles? We saw that. Haven't seen the other. Tbh, the book was better, and we haven't seen the others.

There are some films I really don't want to see - horror, violent - but I've seen a few films since I married and haven't really changed my mind. DH will let me keep the lights on so I can read, MN, study, sew, etc instead. Took him a while to get to that stage though.

YouTheCat · 23/03/2013 21:16

My ex made me watch Blade. Hmm He thought because he liked it then I should too and if I sat reading while he watched, I was being anti-social.

Great that he's the ex now though. Me and dp have spent the day watching Lord of the Rings back to back. Smile

Don't watch it, LittleMiss, if you want to read then have a read.

MrsLouisTheroux · 23/03/2013 21:16

Why does he want you to watch a film just because he is? Why? Grin