To not watch a film I have no interest in?

[littlemissbunny]

We have lovefilm and the latest film we got sent I have absolutely no interest in watching! It's not something that interests me at all, I'm in my thirties so think I know what kind of thing I like! :o

oh said shall we watch the film tonight, I said you can watch it if you like but it doesn't interest me so I shall do some reading/knitting instead (still sat in the same room). He then insists I should watch it as I would like it.

I know it's about compromise but I said he could watch it, I don't make him watch films he doesn't want too, and accept we have different tastes. It's not like I stopped him watching it.

So Aibu to not sit through a film just because he thinks I should?

If you're sat in the same room I don't see what the fuss is about. DH is currently watching something that's not drawing my attention away from here... if I want to watch it, I'll stop typing.

The unspoken rule of course is that I don't ask him 'what's happening' 40 minutes in.

aldi, I think that was exactly what broke it with my DH - he'd get Resident Evil or something and I'd keep asking bothersome questions at important moments. Now he just gets that sort of guns & shite film when I'm away.

Why is he so bothered about you watching it?

In our house we have wildly different film tastes, sometimes I'll watch whatever shit he's watching (Kung Fu Basketball for god sake ) and think it's terrible so I do something else, sometimes they're not so bad so I'll pay more attention. He isn't bothered whatever I do!

Trust me I'm not going to ask what's happening! I don't want to know, I've run out of brain bleach :o

That's one of the things that annoys me is that even after 15 years together I feel he doesn't know me that well as he just doesn't seem to know what I like. I am the opposite and try and show people I have heard what they've said by remembering where they went on holiday and asking them about it after etc, just little things but I know I like it when people remember things and ask me as it shows they think I'm important enough to hear what I'm saying and remember?

Hope that makes some sense

Tell him to bugger off

Yabu as girl with a dragon tattoo is really good! Sometime you need to give films a go!

omg,
controlling and immature all because he tried to persuade OP to watch a
bloody film - get a grip! You're right OP, it's about compromise, you
might end up enjoying it...

Girl with the Dragon Tattoo is indeed an excellent film, but it gave me nightmares and I never even dream!

Seriously, you don't have to watch it!

Or you could watch it with him, and ask him questions every 3.4 minutes, along with screaming at the nasty bits and digging your nails in.
Then tonight you could keep prodding him to go and look for burglars.
That should put him off.

Or just do what you want tonight, then rent out Legally Blonde 1 & 2, or something of that genre, and see if he lasts through them.

I really liked the book and enjoyed the film, but I found all the violence in the book a bit much to stomach, especially the rape scene -So just fast forwarded that bit in the film it because I knew it was coming up next. To skim read it is one thing but to watch it is another.

DH can be a bit like this sometimes.

We took DS to Thomas Land and DH wandered off to try a couple of the big roller coasters in the main park, then came back insisting I should go on one as well. That big tower thing that just plunges back down.

I hate anything like that. He knows I do, but he still spent a good bit of the day insisting that I would love it if I tried it. I'm sure he believes I would if I gave it the chance but he forgets the time I accidentally bit his sister on one of those big wheels that have egg cages

Would you consider biting him OP? It wouldn't solve the film problem but it would give you something else to argue about

You're saying the OP should watch a sexually violent film when she's said she takes those kinds of things to heart and they affect her afterwards Parma?

If the film wasn't so mainstream and was a sexually violent porn film would you say the same?

Would you suggest someone who isn't into gore sit through any of the Saw films just so they could have something in common with their DP?

I would find that a bit...I would say abusive, but I'm not sure whether that's too strong a word, maybe it'd depend on the motivations? Some people do get a kick out of making other people do things they know they're not happy with, and if it involved the things covered by the dragon tattoo film, I would be seeing those motivations as a pretty sinister.

No way would I watch it. I am careful about what I watch because I find violence/abuse upsetting. My husband knows this and if I say I don't want to watch something he respects that. It's not as straightforward as sitting through a bad or boring film which I have done many a time. Couples don't havr to do everything together anyway.

My DH and I only agree on the same film or TV programme about once every month, we are adults, we don't have to do the same sort of thing in the evenings, or any time for that matter. If we are both at home in the evening one of us might watch TV and the other is in a different room, reading or using the computer. I can't even bear to read in the same room if some hideous programme/film is on. Perhaps we are unusual in that we are not at all companionable . I am happy to sit and chat but not happy to sit through a film I am not interested in.

I am such an Elizabeth Bennet

YANBU.

I don't see why you should have to sit and watch this film if you don't want to.

And if you're going to be reading or knitting in the same room, it's hardly like you're abandoning him.

Out of curiosity, if you're watching something on TV that you think you'll really like, but that your DH is uninterested in, does he insist on sitting with you and watching it anyway?