I applied for a job at the back-end of last year. Didn't get it but got put on a waiting list should similar positions arise. Got a phonecall at the start of last week to say that a job has come up and did I want it. Of course I said yes as this is my dream job that I have been working towards for many years and it's pretty tough to get into. At the moment I am waiting for all my references and checks to come back.
Myself and DH have 2 DC's and have been trying for DC3 for 2 years and had 4 mc's in the first year of trying, the past year nothing has happened at all. Except up until yesterday, when, you guessed it - BFP! So now I have a dilemma, what to do? Take the job and keep quiet for a month or two or declare it before I get a start date.
I'm pretty honest and feel I should declare it but what happens if I mc again, should I just wait it out? Or should I just turn down the job? Are employers allowed to withdraw a job offer in these circumstances.
DH is in senior management and thinks I should turn it down as its not fair on my employers that they will have to find cover for me in 8 months. He has said that I will be being really selfish if I take it. We have had an almighty row about it tbh.