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To spend money on visiting a clairvoyant?

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Losingexcessweight · 20/03/2013 07:50

I ve always been interested in having readings done on money, relationships, future etc.

I had a reading done around 6 years ago, the guy that did it wasnt very good. He didnt pick up on my father dying when i was a child.

Dh says he doesnt believe in this kind of thing, and its a load of rubbish.

I have an appointment with a local lady today. Shes £35 and the reading lasts for as long as you like.

So am i being unreasonable in spending my money on this?

And if you have had a reading done before, will you please share your experience with me?

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CuriousMama · 20/03/2013 14:27

Fluffy I agree with you about the Tarot. I don't charge for readings btw. I once gave a woman a reading and even picked up that she was moving to Egypt. Got the river Nile and allsorts of info. This woman was hardly known to me but had asked me to give her a reading when I was over in Spain. I did the reading without her there sat on the verandah and just wrote it all down then let her read it when she picked me up to go to her house for a cuppa, she deliberately hadn't told me anything at all as I asked her not to. She now asks me for advice occasionally but I'd never charge her. I'm a spiritualist and unless it was going to my church I wouldn't try to make money for myself. Tarot are a good tool but not something I like tbh.
When I do readings I have a habit of not looking at the person. Only like yes or no answers not information. If a reader asks too much then ask for your money back. (not that I charge of course) But they shouldn't need to ask you anything. I always get told by others (mediums) that I should give eye contact but I don't like to concentrate so much on the sitter more the information I get. A good friend and well established Clairvoyant, who also wouldn't try to make money out of it, told me to do as I like and take no notice of anyone telling me what to do.
I agree they should say it's for entertainment only. I also agree that there are a lot of very poor psychics around who do prey on individuals to make cash. I know a few very good ones but a lot who want to be good but aren't. They mean well and do try hard but they aren't very accurate. Also I have days when I can't do it for whatever reason, maybe I'm not well or have so much on my own mind. So if I were one of those making cash then I'd have to say I couldn't but I bet a lot still work when they shouldn't.
I hope you get a lot out of your reading. One good thing is you aren't limited about time. But please don't give too much away.

FryOneFatManic · 20/03/2013 14:36

Scientists do know a lot about the brain, but there are still some very important questions they are still trying to solve, eg. how consciousness actually works, as they feel there is no one part of the brain that has overall control. Or how the brain cells actually work together to form complex behaviours or disorders.

We are by no means fully aware of how the brain works, but I hope that one day the questions can be answered so things like Parkinson's can be cured.

GrumpyOldWomanToo · 20/03/2013 14:38

As others have said, it's your money, your entertainment dollar, and how you choose to spend it is up to you.

That said, going to a psychic/clairvoyant/whatever does two negative things (1) you are helping to support a con artist, and (2) you are looking for "psychic guidance" rather than seeking support in rational ways. You could spend your £35 on a life coach, or a financial counsellor, or some other form of support.

But like I said, it's your money.

TolliverGroat · 20/03/2013 14:38

I really want to know now what happened with Quint's cousins friend and Julie from New Zealand...

mungotracy · 20/03/2013 14:40

If you cant afford 35 quid then YES your being unreasonable....if you can....does it make a difference? Whether or not i personally believe the bunkum makes no difference to you....

FryOneFatManic · 20/03/2013 14:45

I like the web page on the cold reading technique. I might even have some fun and practice that! Grin

BuddyButters · 20/03/2013 14:52

The book that Derren Brown describes as " the definitive book on cold reading" is written by Ian Rowland and when I'm rich I shall buy it. It's meant to be fascinating.

FryOneFatManic · 20/03/2013 14:55

Those techniques could be adapted to suit situations other than "clairvoyancy". I imagine they could be useful in persuading colleagues to do or believe things as well.

PureQuintessence · 20/03/2013 14:59

Tolliver - So would I actually! Its been 20 years! Maybe I should try find out...

BuddyButters · 20/03/2013 15:03

A lot of "psychics" have a background in sales apparently.

My DH is in sales and its surprising (or not) that a lot of the techniques they're taught on training courses are the same or similar to the techniques cold readers use.

I stand by my opinion of them as scum.

They pretend to be in contact with people's DEAD LOVED ONES. In TV psychic Sally Morgans case she not only pretends to speak with dead children SHE MIMICS THEIR LITTLE VOICES.

How anyone can defend that is truly beyond me.

CuriousMama · 20/03/2013 15:27

BuddyButters have you tried ordering the book from your library? Our library's small but I often order books and they get them from other libraries. Small fee of 35p in ours but often free to do.

Sally Morgan has a rather large ego and yes her mimicking is annoying. She's OTT.

Lueji · 20/03/2013 15:44

But, fluffyraggies, do you know if your predictions became true?

Lueji · 20/03/2013 15:45

Also mentioning that the Mentalist is one of my favourite tv shows. :)

Buzzardbird · 20/03/2013 16:21

OP I for one would love to hear how you got on this afternoon?

I know I don't believe in it but if you have a problem I hope you manage to sort it out.

BuddyButters · 20/03/2013 17:05

Annoying?! Mimicking the voices of dead children is merely annoying?!

Jesus.

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Losingexcessweight · 20/03/2013 17:14

Right update.......

I'm fuming!!! Really bloody ARGH!!

She s not what I thought she was, she only read tarot cards.

It wasn't that sort of reading I was after, she advertises that she does a mixture of things.

The cards she said represented money in them all, and overall happiness and that one of them was working with the homeless in the future.

I thought she could tell me things about me, not for me to work things from cards that were dealt.

Also the reading was suppose to be for as long as I wanted, but she told me after 40mins that she had to wrap this up as she had another client.

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ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 20/03/2013 17:25

Did you really still go expecting that she would be able to see your life and your future?

I'm sorry. You must have some serious worries to be that desperate for reassurance.

Is there anyone you can confide in, get a listening ear, perhaps work out solutions with? (assuming it's things within your control)

INeverSaidThat · 20/03/2013 17:26

Oh dear. Sad

You will know what to do next time. (Dont go near anyone claiming to be a psychic)

I hope you argued about the cost. She is charging over £50 an hour at that rate. Shock

CuriousMama · 20/03/2013 17:28

Losingexcessweight you should've asked for your money back. So sorry she conned you.

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Losingexcessweight · 20/03/2013 17:38

I was expecting her to tell me things about myself.

Oh well

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CuriousMama · 20/03/2013 17:43

Had someone recommended her? She's raking it in isn't she?

BuddyButters · 20/03/2013 17:43

Well I hate to say "I told you so but....

Did we learn a little lesson today? Hmmm?

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Losingexcessweight · 20/03/2013 17:57

No she wasn't recommended, I got her from yell.com

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seeker · 20/03/2013 18:03

That's what happens when you go to somebody random- if they are recommended they will have had the chance to pick stuff up from the person doing the recommending, so they are likely to be much more specific.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 20/03/2013 18:25

Losing
Why don't you stop and write down the things you want to know about yourself and why you want to know them?

What exactly did you hope to get out of today. Nobody knows yourself better than you.

My prediction for today was that you would find yourself £35 worse off.