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To spend money on visiting a clairvoyant?

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Losingexcessweight · 20/03/2013 07:50

I ve always been interested in having readings done on money, relationships, future etc.

I had a reading done around 6 years ago, the guy that did it wasnt very good. He didnt pick up on my father dying when i was a child.

Dh says he doesnt believe in this kind of thing, and its a load of rubbish.

I have an appointment with a local lady today. Shes £35 and the reading lasts for as long as you like.

So am i being unreasonable in spending my money on this?

And if you have had a reading done before, will you please share your experience with me?

Smile
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badtasteflump · 20/03/2013 10:24

Losingexcessweight I am actually a little bit psychic and will give you a reading for free...

You have a great need for other people to like and admire you. You have a tendency to be over-critical of yourself - particularly you worry about your appearance.

You have a great deal of unused capacity which you have not turned to your advantage. Disciplined and self-controlled outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure inside. At times you have serious doubts as to whether you have made the right decision or done the right thing.

You have a certain amount of insecurity and are looking for reassurance or proof of something bigger out there. You do have somebody watching over you, as we all do, and this person was very close to you when you were a child.

That was a freebie on me Smile

Nagoo · 20/03/2013 10:30

Losing, you don't need to pay £35 for reassurance.

Post on here and lovely MNers will help you with practical advice and lovely hugs free of charge :)

SanityClause · 20/03/2013 10:31

DH went to a clairvoyant about 10 years ago.

She had a reputation for being freakily accurate, and there were some things she was very accurate about. She said we would have a son. At this stage, we thought our family was complete. I was using the Mirena coil. Nonetheless, I fell pregnant with (ta-dah!) a son.

So that was a bit woo.

But, I think overall it was a negative experience. I think, particularly for the first couple of years after, if a situation arose which she had mentioned, we would act in the way she had suggested that we would. So, we were a bit fatalistic, and let her influence our decisions.

I wouldn't have gone to see a clairvoyant, then, as I am very sceptical of these things. And I am even more anti now, than I was before.

Buzzardbird · 20/03/2013 10:41

Is it so easy to give people a 'reading' it's bullshit. I freaked someone out one night that I had never met before and he still wouldn't believe me that I didn't know him or any of his friends when I explained how easy it was to make assumptions about him.
I used to have a friend that spent hundreds of pounds on these just because she couldn't make her own decisions in her relationship. She never got the 'magic' answer she was looking for.
I think in a lot of people's cases a good friend who they can talk to is what they actually need, not giving money to strangers for doing the same thing.
It has been proved over and over again that it is a trick but sadly an expensive one for people that just need a bit of sensible advice.

FryOneFatManic · 20/03/2013 10:42

Most of the people in that vid are the younger ones who play out their lives online. I don't do internet banking, have the most basic info about me on FB (and privacy on highest setting), Twitter is anonymous and rarely used, and apart from MN don't use any forum. Electoral roll entry is edited for the public version.

You could possibly tell I live in a certain town, and have child who once went to a certain school where I was a parent governor, from googling my name. You certainly tell who my employer was and how long for(Linkedin). But otherwise hardly anything comes up. There were 5 entries directly relating to me when I googled.

ThePavlovianCat · 20/03/2013 10:44

The Forer effect - statements that sound specific and individual but actually are very general

FryOneFatManic · 20/03/2013 10:45

We all watch people and make judgements/assumptions about them all the time, often not consciously. And some people are consciously better at this than others.

Buzzardbird · 20/03/2013 10:48

You're going to have a baby 50% chance of being right,
You're going to have a boy 50% chance of being right,
The baby will come early 50% chance of being right,
Your husband will be older than you 98% chance of being right,
You will travel this year 98% chance of being right
You know someone who has passed who's name begins with R...
You only need to get 2 of these right to look like you are accurate.

PureQuintessence · 20/03/2013 11:01

When I had just left secondary and was about to embark on Uni, my cousin took me to meet with his friend and some other mates. This happened to be the Popular Boys in town, and I found myself driving around with them of an evening, they were not my type at all. I was in a "different group" of sort of gothy nerds who thought we were very alternative and Big Individuals. Anyway.

My cousin suddenly said "My cousin is psychic you know". I thought WTF is he on about, but decided to play along, so I said to this boy, Ray, "It is true." He asked me to prove it. I told him "There is this girl. She is very important to you. Let me think. She is not local. She lives far away and is really thinking about you. I can see sheep. Hang on, and a pair of knitted wool socks".

Confused

He looked ash faced, totally freaked out. "OMG, Julie in New Zealand. I met her on a student exchange. I gave her a pair of hand knitted Norwegian wool socks."

Hmm

He flew out to New Zealand the following week. And there was I picturing a neigbhouring island to our town, and the local sheep farmers. How could I possibly know that the island in his mind, and the sheep were across the blardy planet?

Not sure whether he married this Julie or not, as I moved to London. Anyway....

Back to the OP.

People take from these readings what they want, regardless of what the "claire voyant" is thinking. They give a skeleton or an empty room, and you furnish it!

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Losingexcessweight · 20/03/2013 11:11

I don't know .... Hmmm I guess I ll just have to wait and see, appointment is later this afternoon.

I know some clairvoyants have over a 6 month waiting list.

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Pandemoniaa · 20/03/2013 11:15

I'd look at it like this. If you have £35 that was going so spare that you could burn it then sure, give it a go. But I still suspect you will be wasting the money and not get whatever vague reassurance you want. I say this as someone who is fairly woo themselves too. But don't start relying on clairvoyance as a regular method of sorting your life out.

Cherriesarelovely · 20/03/2013 11:17

I had an amazing phone reading once. The woman said, your Grandad Bob is waving to you wearing his navy uniform and next to him is his mother Annie and sister Nell. How could she possibly have known that about when she only knew my first name? Some people do have a gift for this, I definitely believe that.

Agree with onward science does not have the answers to everything in the same way that medicine doesn't either.

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Losingexcessweight · 20/03/2013 11:18

I ve not had a reading for 6 years. It's definitely not going to be a regular thing.

I'm hoping to get more out of it than a vague reading.

I'm expecting her to pick up on some specific stuff.

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Losingexcessweight · 20/03/2013 11:19

Cherries

That's the kind of similar accuracy that I'm after

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seeker · 20/03/2013 11:21

If people one understood properly about probability and coincidence there would be far fewer "true believers"

I'd vote for the party that promised to have that taught in schools!

Acandlelitshadow · 20/03/2013 11:23

I'm with your dh but it's your money to waste.

I think there's a lot of clever fishing for info, pouncing on clues and reading of suckers clients involved

hermioneweasley · 20/03/2013 11:24

Losing - it's not real. If you are worried about something then this person has no insight or gift to help you. Spend the money on a counsellor instead.

Cherriesarelovely · 20/03/2013 11:25

I know what you mean seeker. My DP actually wanted the reading and then suggested I have a reading too. I was sceptical. Having a phone reading seemed even weirder. However, I think getting my Grandad's name correct, plus that of his mother and sister plus the fact that he was in the navy is pretty extraordinairy don't you? It didn't make me believe in ALL psychics but I do think some are gifted. Have never had a reading since mind you but would like to.

boxershorts · 20/03/2013 11:26

no to clare Voyant. There are more sensible ways of having a chat with someone

seeker · 20/03/2013 11:27

Cherry, you will find that she had some sort of background information. Either that or she's be happily living on James Randi's million bucks by now.

Cherriesarelovely · 20/03/2013 11:28

How Seeker? She had our phone number and my first name?

Cherriesarelovely · 20/03/2013 11:29

Plus I didn't even know the name of my maternal great grandmother. I had to ask my mum afterwards!

boxershorts · 20/03/2013 11:30

In that case it is fraud. But difficult to prove

inde · 20/03/2013 11:30

I had an amazing phone reading once.

Unfortuanately anecdotal evidence doesn't prove anything to anybody who is sceptical about psychic abilities. As somebody said earlier in the thread, James Randi has been offering $1,000,000 to anyone who can prove their ability. The money has been their for the taking for years and it's still their.

seeker · 20/03/2013 11:30

How did you find out about her? Did your dp have his reading first? How accurate was that? Have you got a recording so you can be sure that you didn't give her more information than you thought?