To be annoyed with leaner - supermarket thread!

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I have a disabled toddler, wears a helmet, has a special needs pushchair.

In supermarket today and DD was in pushchair, helmet on. I was getting something from the shelf when a lady leans over my DD from front of pushchair and takes her time to take something from the shelf.

I almost told her she was lucky not to have been kicked in the stomach as DD hates people pushing into her hence the pushchair is used more frequently.

Am I being unreasonable to have been a bit pissed off with her for this and not saying excuse me. I was there first.

As it was when I was ready to leave said space I moved pushchair around her only for her to try and push in front of pushchair!

Is this the norm and I didn't know???

Some people are rude and selfish . I have been pushed out of the way by a trolley when I worked in a supermarket . Shame your dd resisted the urge to get the woman out of the way by.

Did she physically push into your DD or just reach past her to get something? She does sound rude not saying excuse me and then trying to push in front as you were moving off but your OP is unclear, you say she leaned over your DD but also that your DD hates being pushed into, if she pushed into your DD that was out of order, leaning past her to get something, not so much.

Oh, I hate this. So often, I am shopping and people lean in and take what they want off the shelf in front of me. Wait won't you? They may as well shove me out of the way.

YANBU. Rude woman. You get this with people reaching over buggies on trains too but that's slightly more excusable as space is more squeezed generally

What FeckOffCup said. It's not really clear exactly what happened. A lean is not so bad. Getting in so close your DD could smell what she'd had for breakfast is OTT.

What Feckoffcup said.

No need for it. Esp as your dd is not a baby who wouldn't object to it.

With regards to the op's pushchair being close to the shelf. Either way the op would have felt in the way. People can't get to the shelf when op was there. Others wouldn't be able to get past if the pushchair was further out in the aisle. Not all aisles are double width to allow easy flow of traffic and access to shelves unfortunately.

YANBU

so theseniorwrangler are you one of those tossers people who dangle their trolleys into the middle of the aisle so no one can get past?

DD sat in special needs pushchair as when sat in trolley she kicks if anything touches her feet, i.e. me or anyone else that would lean close enough.

It is also to control her behaviour as she is sensitive to sensory issues i.e. busy supermarket. And I have to take her with me as I have no respite and am full time carer.

The lady leaned over footplate (which DD uses for her feet) so her body was leaning against DD legs. Now if I had done this she would have started to kick as again its part and parcel with her special needs ie feeling trapped etc.

Pushchair against shelf as I was taking something off shelf and was a very busy aisle with staff picking stuff for home delivery and lots of trolleys. I was literally there no longer than half a min when this happened.

and no cant place pushchair in middle of aisle as DD is disabled and needs constant input that I am there.

Also I do not want her crying or pulling at other people and their trolleys as others frown on that.

She also cannot speak more than 15 words and has little understanding but at almost 4 people expect her to know what they are saying and doing :(

"are you one of those tossers people who dangle their trolleys into the middle of the aisle so no one can get past?"

How do you dangle a trolley ? From a rope?

I thought this thread was about "leaners" that lean onto you when you're queueing up at checkout. You know, the ones who get so close near your back you can smell their breath and bodily odours. I hate them too. I also hate the leaners you're talking about. I get it a lot with a normal pushchair with a 14 month old.

YANBU. How rude to actually lean AGAINST your DD.

Though I shouldn't be surprised as I use a walker as I'm disabled and people will actually roll it out of their way if they want in to he shelf im at. I lean on it for support when standing as well as when walking so I am always gobsmacked when people do this.

I've given up being polite and usually loudly (so to draw attention) say, "Seriously? Did you seriously just push that out your way? SERIOUSLY?" People practically run away in embarrassment.

YANBU, especially if she was pressed into your daughters legs. Surely even if you're quickly swiping something from a shelf, you abort the attempt once you realise you can't pull it off without physical contact? Or is that just me?

I have a confession to make though, I was once the leaner. The loaf of bread I wanted was situated on a shelf a foot above a 7 year old-ish lad's head. I swooped without thinking, and the 1 second that I was behind him and reaching over him sent him into meltdown. There wasn't much I could do but back off and leave his parents to calm him down. I felt like the biggest twat to ever grace Tescos.

If his parents are reading this, I'm still sorry!

OvO I am . WTAF? I'm impressed you attempted politeness at all!

I know!

But mostly people are very nice and helpful so I don't go on murder spree's every time I go shopping. The numpties are in the minority. I'm thinking I should get spikes attached to the wheels, like a battle chariot.

I have just had some cow woman walk right in front of me with her basket in the supermarket no excuse me or nothing I walked into her and I SAID SORRY like an idiot yanbu

Yes, spikes! Or tiny little flame throwers. They could be gas powered. A small bottle from a camping stove would do perfectly

I should start a new thread and the power of mumsnet will come up with a stylish but deadly new walker.

Instant respect in any supermarket!

"Oh god, she's here again, with the Walker of Pain!!"